About me
Hello, I’m Rossella, and welcome to Reflective Time Counselling. 🤍
I’m an Integrative Counsellor and Psychotherapist based in the Southampton and Romsey area, offering both in person and online sessions.
I provide a calm, compassionate and non judgemental space where you can slow down, speak openly and feel genuinely heard. Sometimes, having the space to reflect with someone who listens without judgement can be the first step towards understanding yourself and what you may be going through. 🕊️
You may be experiencing anxiety, trauma, relationship difficulties, low self- esteem, alcohol or drug addiction, Chemsex, substance misuse, pornography, gambling or feelings of hopelessness. Whatever has brought you to therapy, we can explore it together at a pace that feels comfortable for you.
🌿 My Integrative Approach
My core modality is Humanistic Integrative Counselling, informed by my BA (Hons) First Class degree in Humanistic Integrative Counselling and Diploma in Person-Centred Counselling. My practice is also influenced by Petruska Clarkson’s relational framework and the Reparative Relationship Model, which recognise the therapeutic relationship as an important space for understanding, growth and change. 🤝
I believe therapy should be shaped around you, rather than asking you to fit into one particular approach. As an integrative counsellor, I draw on different therapeutic perspectives and adapt our work to your individual needs, experiences and goals. 💭
Our work may include exploring relationships, self-awareness, emotional patterns, self-esteem, inner-child experiences and the impact that past experiences may have on your present life. ❤️
Together, we can gently explore patterns that may no longer be serving you, develop an understanding of where they may have come from, and build greater awareness of your thoughts, feelings, needs and relationships.
The therapeutic relationship itself can provide an opportunity to experience something different, a space where you can feel heard, understood and accepted without judgement. 🫶
Through this process, therapy can support you in reconnecting with yourself, developing greater self-compassion and discovering new ways of relating to yourself and the people around you. 🌱
🌼 Addiction and Substance Misuse
I also have a particular interest in supporting people experiencing difficulties with addiction, substance misuse and unhealthy coping patterns.
Addiction is not only about drugs or alcohol. It can also involve behaviours such as Chemsex, gambling, shopping, pornography, gaming, social media, food or relationships, particularly when these patterns begin to affect your emotional wellbeing, relationships, confidence or everyday life.
I offer a confidential and non judgemental space where you can talk honestly about what you are experiencing, without shame or pressure.
Rather than focusing only on the behaviour itself, we can explore what may be underneath it, including emotions, relationships, triggers, unmet needs and past experiences, and begin to develop healthier and more sustainable ways of coping. 🤝
Depending on your individual needs and goals, therapy may support you with:
• Understanding triggers and emotional patterns
• Developing greater self-awareness
• Exploring your relationships and attachment patterns
• Building confidence and self-worth
• Developing healthier coping strategies
• Working towards reduction or moderation
• Supporting sobriety and relapse prevention
• Strengthening your emotional well-being 🎯
💙 A Space to Reflect, Understand and Grow
You do not need to have everything figured out before starting therapy.
Perhaps you simply know that something does not feel right, you keep finding yourself in the same patterns, or you want to understand yourself and your relationships more deeply.
Whatever brings you here, Reflective Time Counselling offers a space to pause, reflect and explore what is happening beneath the surface.
I believe that when we feel genuinely heard, accepted and understood, we can begin to see ourselves differently. From there, meaningful change can become possible.
You are not defined by your past. There is always space for understanding, growth and new possibilities. 🤍
Training, qualifications & experience
🎓 Qualifications & Training
- BA (Hons) Humanistic & Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy First-Class Honours, Middlesex University of London
- Foundation Degree Diploma in Person-Centred Psychotherapeutic Counselling, Distinction, Middlesex University of London
- Certificate in Drug and Alcohol Counselling — QLS Level 3
- Certificate in The Fundamentals of Dissociation and DID
- Certificate in Trauma-Informed Practice and PTSD
- Certificate in Working with Clients Experiencing Suicidal Thoughts or Ideation
- Certificate in Telephone and Online Counselling
- Certificate in Transactional Analysis 101
💼 Professional Experience
I completed my clinical training placement with CGL (Change Grow Live) supporting individuals experiencing addiction, substance misuse, mental health difficulties, and emotional wellbeing challenges.
Alongside my private practice, I work within a residential rehabilitation setting in Hampshire, supporting adults affected by addiction, Chemsex, trauma, PTSD, emotional regulation difficulties, and recovery. 🌱
I have experience providing 1:1 therapy, group work, workshops, relapse prevention, and therapeutic support, including working with LGBTQ+ 🌈 and Trans 🏳️⚧️ clients in an inclusive and affirming way.
My experience has strengthened my understanding of the importance of safety, trust, empathy, consistency, and genuine human connection. 🤝 I support each client’s autonomy, individual needs
CPD
- Group work skills
- Diversity
- Domestic abuse
- Gender identity
Member organisations
school Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
The National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society This Not For Profit association of counsellors and psychotherapists aim to support the counselling profession, members and training organisations. In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Alongside my specialist work, I support clients with a wide range of emotional and psychological difficulties, including addiction, Chemsex, trauma, anxiety, relationship difficulties, low self-esteem, self-worth and emotional wellbeing.
I also have experience supporting LGBTQ+ and trans clients, offering an inclusive, affirming and non-judgemental space where you can explore your experiences, identity, relationships and emotional wellbeing. 🌈🏳️⚧️
Support with Suicidal Thoughts & Feelings of Hopelessness🕊️
If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, emotional pain, or feelings of hopelessness, you do not have to face these feelings alone.
I offer a safe, compassionate and non-judgemental space where you can talk openly at your own pace, without fear of being judged or misunderstood. Together, we can explore what you are experiencing, make sense of difficult emotions, and consider ways of finding greater stability, support and hope.
Relationship Challenges 💬
Relationship difficulties can affect every part of our emotional wellbeing, leaving us feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, anxious or misunderstood.
I provide a calm and supportive space where you can explore relationship challenges openly and honestly, whether they involve partners, family, friendships, intimacy, communication or difficulties with connection.
Together, we can explore relational patterns, strengthen self-awareness and work towards healthier boundaries, communication and emotional understanding. 🌿
Low Self-Esteem & Self-Worth 🌼
Struggling with low self-esteem or negative self-beliefs can affect how you see yourself and the world around you.
I offer a warm, empathetic and non-judgemental environment where you can safely explore your thoughts, emotions and experiences. Together, we can begin to understand self-critical patterns, develop greater self-compassion and reconnect with your strengths and sense of self-worth.
My aim is to support you in developing greater confidence, emotional resilience and a healthier relationship with yourself. ✨
Addiction, Recovery & Coping Strategies 🌱
I support clients experiencing difficulties with substance use and behavioural addictions, providing a compassionate space to explore the underlying emotional patterns, experiences and needs that may contribute to addictive behaviours.
Where appropriate, our work can include collaborative goal setting 🎯, relapse prevention and developing healthier coping strategies, while working at a pace that feels manageable for you.
Trauma, Anxiety & Emotional Wellbeing 🤍
I can also support you in exploring the impact of difficult or traumatic experiences, anxiety, emotional overwhelm and patterns that may be affecting your everyday life.
Therapy can provide a space to develop greater self-awareness, understand your emotional responses and explore new ways of coping and relating to yourself and others.
Therapies offered
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Fees
£60.00 - £90.00
Concessions offered for
Additional information
💷 Fees
Free 20-Minute Introductory Call
A free, no-obligation 20-minute introductory call is available by phone or video. This is an opportunity to briefly discuss what you’re looking for from counselling, ask any questions, and see whether working together feels right for you. 🌿
50-Minute Counselling Session — £60
Available online or in person.
90-Minute Intensive Deeper Session — £90
A longer session offering additional time and space to explore more complex or deeper areas of concern. This option can be particularly useful when you feel that 50 minutes may not provide enough space for the work you would like to explore.
🤍 Limited Concessionary Spaces
I reserve a small number of concessionary spaces 🌿, primarily for counselling students and clients experiencing financial difficulty.
These spaces are very limited and subject to availability. At present, I also have a waiting list for concessionary spaces, so I may not be able to offer a reduced-fee space immediately.
If you would like to enquire about a concessionary rate, please email me before booking your first session. I’ll be happy to discuss your circumstances, let you know about current availability, or add you to the waiting list if no concessionary space is currently available.
Where appropriate, a concessionary rate will be agreed individually and confirmed before the initial session. The free introductory call is also available to anyone considering counselling and can be used to discuss whether we might be a good fit to work together.
Thank you for understanding that these spaces are intentionally kept limited so that I can offer them fairly and sustainably. 🤍
💳 Payment
Payment is requested in advance of each session and can be made by BACS, cash or secure payment link.
When I work
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Further information
Further Information 🌿
I offer face-to-face and online counselling, with appointments available during the daytime, evenings and weekends, subject to availability.
I provide a private, confidential and non-judgemental space where you can explore your experiences safely and at your own pace. I work collaboratively with clients, with an emphasis on developing trust, safety and a strong therapeutic relationship.
Before starting counselling, you will be asked to complete a client registration form and read and agree to a Counselling Agreement. This outlines how we will work together and covers important practical and professional information, including fees, payment arrangements, cancellation and missed-session policies, confidentiality and its limits, boundaries, communication and data protection.
I work ethically within the BACP Ethical Framework for the Counselling Professions and maintain appropriate professional boundaries and confidentiality throughout our work together.
I also offer a free 20-minute introductory call by phone or video. This gives us an opportunity to briefly discuss what you are looking for, answer any initial questions and consider whether counselling with me feels like the right fit for you. 🤍
Further information about face-to-face sessions, including the location and practical arrangements, will be provided when your appointment is arranged.
Crisis & Emergency Support 🕊️
Please note that counselling is not an emergency or crisis service. If you are in immediate danger, feel unable to keep yourself safe, or need urgent support, please contact 999 or attend your nearest A&E department.
If you need urgent mental health support but are not in immediate danger, you can contact NHS 111 and select the mental health option. You can also contact Samaritans on 116 123, free of charge, at any time.
