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Clinical & Chartered Psychologist - Online Therapy

About me

I can help with sex problems (including erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, sex addiction / sexual compulsions, and problematic pornography use / porn addiction), anxiety, depression, adjusting to a physical health condition,  relationship issues, stress, sexuality, men's issues, lgbtq+ counselling and more.

Asking for help can be difficult, so well done on getting this far. Maybe you've been struggling for a while, or maybe you want to nip something in the bud before it develops further. Perhaps you've come to the decision that you would like to:

  • Reduce your stress, worry and anxiety
  • Improve your mood and live a more fulfilling life
  • Break self-defeating habits
  • Understand yourself better and connect with your emotions and values
  • Succeed at work and enhance your performance
  • Build more satisfying relationships
  • Accept a difficult medical condition and still thrive
  • Live an authentic life

I am a Clinical Psychologist, registered with the Health & Care Professions Council (HCPC, Reg: PYL35174), who is Chartered by the British Psychological Society (Reg: 181156). I have worked in the NHS for over 14 years and currently I work at a leading NHS hospital in London part time, and work part time in private practice.

I have worked in specialist centres in the NHS with people who have a range of physical health conditions, such as HIV, cystic fibrosis, cardiac difficulties and persistent pain. I am interested in the mind-body connection and how they can both greatly affect each other. In these services I worked with people with a number of difficulties; these include accepting a diagnosis and living a fulfilling life with a condition, reducing stigma and shame, disclosing to others, relationship and sexual difficulties in relation to physical health conditions, improving adherence to treatment and understanding the mind-body connection.

My research interests lie in men’s mental health and factors affecting men accessing psychological therapy. A number of men say they feel too embarrassed or do not want to be perceived by others as being weak by accessing therapy. They then tend to go on silently struggling or using other unhelpful coping strategies. However, I strongly believe and recognise that it can take a lot of strength to seek support and I aim to create a safe space where clients can share their experiences, explore their feelings and make positive changes within a confidential setting. As well as men, I also work with people of all genders.

What Is Therapy?
Attending therapy can sometimes feel daunting or scary. I aim to create a safe, private, confidential and non-judgemental space for you to think about yourself and your difficulties and make changes.

In our initial appointment we will begin an assessment and discuss the reasons you are seeking therapy, the source of any issues you are experiencing and your current methods of coping. Over the course of the sessions we will work together to create a psychological formulation* to help you understand yourself better and think about how to move forward, which will be different for each individual.

What Type of Therapy Do You Use?
I believe that no single psychological approach has all of the answers for every individual. Instead, I take an integrative approach to draw from a number of different psychological therapies, guided by the formulation and to best fit the person and their particular difficulties and desires from therapy. Some of the types of therapy that I draw from can be found below in the "therapies offered" section.

How Long Are The Sessions?
Each individual psychology sessions lasts for 50 minutes. Longer or shorter sessions can be arranged if required. The overall length of therapy depends on a number of factors and is something we will review at regular intervals.

*A psychological formulation draws on psychological theories and principles in order to summarise a person's difficulties, how these difficulties may relate to each other and how they may have developed and been maintained. The formulation can then provide a plan for intervention but can be revised and updated accordingly. 

Training, qualifications & experience


  • Doctorate in Clinical Psychology (DClinPsy) from University of Warwick and Coventry University
  • Postgraduate Diploma in Low Intensity CBT Guided Self Help Interventions from University College London (UCL)
  • BSc Psychology (Hons) from University of Westminster


  • Health & Care Professions Council (HCPC) Practitioner Psychologist (Reg: PYL35174)
  • British Psychological Society - Chartered Psychologist (Reg: 181156)
  • Member of the Division of Clinical Psychology
  • Member of the DCP Faculty for HIV and Sexual Health

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

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British Psychological Society (BPS)

British Psychological Society


Health and Care Professions Council (HCPC)

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They keep a register of health professionals who meet their standards, and they take action if registered health professionals fall below those standards. They were created by a piece of legislation called the Health Professions Order 2001.

Registration means that a health professional meets national standards for their professional training, performance and conduct.

Other areas of counselling I deal with


Men's Issues


£100.00 per session
Free initial telephone session

Additional information

50 minute sessions cost £100 each.

Payment is required at least 48 hours in advance of your session in order to secure the slot.

Payment can be made via bank transfer. Details of how to do this will be sent to you once you book your first appointment.

Please note that I am only accepting self-funding clients at present.

When I work

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Further information

All sessions are held online either via Zoom or your preferred video call website. This allows us to remain COVID-19 safe, enables more flexibility with appointments and eliminates travel time and cost.

Once your appointment is confirmed details on how to remotely access the session will be emailed to you.

What Next?

If you would like to find out more about the support I can offer, or to book an appointment, please email or call. I offer a free brief telephone consultation for those that have any additional questions. I look forward to supporting you to live the life you want.

Cobham, Surrey, KT11

Type of session


Types of client

Older adults

Key details

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