Nicky Holt

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( Registered MBACP ) - Couples and Individual Counsellor
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Bicester, Oxfordshire, OX25
Limited availability
Limited availability

This professional is accepting new clients but may have a waitlist. Please enquire with them directly to discuss availability.

About me

I am now offering counselling in person and online. 

Couples Counselling 

Do you find that you and your partner keep getting stuck in familiar patterns of behaviour or  are having the same "fight" over and over again ?   You are not alone.  Relationships can be our greatest fulfilment and our greatest challenge.  With those we love we can be at our most vulnerable and when things are not going well between us we have to find ways to deal with the distress this causes.  Sometimes the things we do to cope can actually make it harder to build the connection we long for  and so we get stuck in a negative cycle.   This is very common and it's great that you are thinking of taking action to change this.  

This is where couple counselling can be transformative.   My work is based on the Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples model and I help couples to slow down the way they interact with each other to really understand the hopes, fears and longings that are behind angry protests, shut down withdrawal or other unhelpful ways of coping.   I never judge but  help both partners understand a little more about what is going on for them so that they have more choices in how to respond to their partner in difficult moments.  When we can ask for what we need in a way that our partner can hear there is a much greater chance that they will listen and respond.

I will never take sides or act as a referee in your relationship. I take the view you are both good people even if you have done hurtful things.  This does not mean I encourage you to tolerate unacceptable behaviour but if we can understand what is driving the behaviour you can make better decisions about whether there can be a way forward for you as a couple.  It is possible to heal even after significant betrayal if this is something you both want to try.   Some even experience a stronger connection after this kind of trauma.  For others it may mean a parting of ways but even this can be supported by counselling.  

The single biggest mistake couples make is waiting too long for help, so please don’t hesitate to reach out if any of the above feels relevant to your situation.  I would be really happy to offer a no commitment initial conversation for you both to ask questions and work out if couples therapy could be useful for you.   It's so much easier to improve your relationship when problems are small.  However it's never too late to try again. 

I especially welcome couples before making a big commitment like getting married, having a child, moving in together etc.   This is the ideal time to make sure your relationship is in really good health.

I obviously prefer to work with both parties in a couple, but we can do some useful work when just one person is able or willing to attend.  There is great power in understanding how you are in relationships and what your own contribution to your current difficulties may be.  


I hope to offer you a non-judgemental and highly validating space in which to reflect on your personal struggles. Via a process of deep empathy  and complete acceptance, you will gain new perspectives on your situation, greater self-awareness and an understanding of how you have learned to navigate the world. We all carry  beliefs about ourselves and others which may have developed at an early point in our lives but that no longer serve us well.  We are not always aware of these beliefs and counselling gives us an opportunity to learn about and update these if appropriate. 

I am trained in traditional talk therapy in which the client and I engage in dialogue however it can also be very useful to explore other therapeutic methods that help us explore core beliefs that may be a little out of our awareness. I am training in a method known as "Healing the Shadow" which encourages a deep and embodied exploration of different parts of ourselves that we may experience as problematic or disturbing. Rather than attempting to get rid of these parts we can get to know their important motivations, fears and longings. We may then develop a more compassionate and accepting relationship with ourselves that is a key ingredient for therapeutic change. Whilst this is an embodied method (meaning it might include moving around or changing position it does not involve touch). Please see this link for further information.

I will always discuss with clients how they would prefer to work in our sessions and will fully respect their preferences.

Costs and Practicalities.

I charge £75 for a 90 mins couples session and £55 for individuals. When working with couples I would like to hear from both partners that they are willing to start this process. This can be via e-mail if necessary. We can then meet for an initial session with no commitment to ongoing work. If we agree we are a good fit to work together we will schedule a series of sessions for the coming month and then review this monthly. I will ask that fees are paid at the end of each session.

About me:

I am a fully qualified and experienced counsellor who has worked with individuals for many years dealing with a broad range of mental health, life and relationship issues. I have particular experience in work related counselling and worked for many years for a local NHS Trust supporting their staff. Prior to training as a counsellor, I had over 20 years of experience as a Mental Health Nurse.  In 2019 I  trained  with Relate, the relationship counselling charity and am now offering couple work independently.  I have undertaken further training in Emotionally Focussed Therapy for couples.  I am passionate about this work believing that a good relationship with yourself and others is at the heart of human well-being.

Training, qualifications & experience

  • Registered Member of the BACP
  • Post Graduate Certificate in Counselling and Psychotherapy
  • Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling
  • CBT for Person Centred Counsellors
  • Emotion Focused Therapy - Level 1
  • Relate Certificate in Relational Counselling ( Couples counselling)
  • Diploma in Mental Health Nursing
  • Advanced Diploma in Occupational Health

Member organisations

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).

Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

Accredited register membership

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
Accredited Register Scheme

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£55.00 - £75.00
Free initial telephone session

Concessions offered for

  • Low income
  • Keyworkers
  • Students

Additional information

I have limited availability, please contact me to discuss. 

Couples - £75 for a 90 minute session

Keyworkers or those on Low Incomes please ask about a shorter session of 60 minutes charged at £55.00. I am limited to two reduced fee slots at any one time so there may be a short wait list. 

When I work

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Lower Arncott, Bicester, Oxfordshire, OX25

Type of session

In person

Types of client

Young adults (18-24)
Adults (25-64)
Older Adults (65+)

Key details

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