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I am an Integratively trained counselling therapist
I work with people between the ages of 18 - 80.
I specialise in Couples Counselling and addiction, either separately or together, including problem gambling, alcohol dependency and drug use and self injurious behaviours, which almost always come with self denigrating thoughts about ones self worth and self image.
Addictive behaviours and processes can be seen as an "acting out" intended to destroy worthlessness or enhance ones damaged self image.
Addiction, however, is an illusion & a thief.
I have over 20 years experience of working in this field and a lifetime of being around alcohol and drugs. I know from first hand experience the role addiction plays in the lives of “addicts” and their families and friends forced to bear witness from close quarters from my own life experience.
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT FROM COUNSELLING WITH ME?
I am here for you to talk through whatever is on your mind, whatever is bothering you or causing you distress in complete confidence and without judgement. We work at your pace and use your words and expressions to look at underlying feelings that motivate your behaviours and choices in your life. Your thought processes affect your behaviours and choices often informed by past events, memories and expectations. We will look at these together, re-frame them where necessary and explore their implications for you about how you feel about yourself, others and the world as you experience it.
The process is absolutely confidential and you can disclose as much or as little as you feel comfortable with.
I will listen attentively and reflect back what I am hearing, what that might mean, where that may have come from and gently challenge those things that appear incongruous or sound as if they “don't quite fit”.
We will talk about your goals, ie: what you want to get out of counselling, where you’re going & where you want to be going. With this in mind we will set up a regular time that suits your schedule to work on those issues that you identify as needing attention in subsequent sessions.
My fee is £80 per individual session & £90 for couples. Sessions are for the standard 50min “therapy hour.
We will meet weekly, to begin with, but later sessions can be amended to fortnightly & later still to monthly, if required.
In the early days of counselling, however, regular meetings are needed to provide the opportunity to deal with issues as they arise between sessions.
I am mindful of the need to be as flexible as possible in these modern days of irregular working hours so feel free to call to discuss your timetable, I will do all I can to accommodate you.
Pick up the phone and call me for a free informal 20 min chat or send me an email on email@example.com
HOW CAN I HELP YOU?
Talking about ones problems can be very difficult and daunting.
It initially takes courage to come forward and it feels so much easier to just pretend they're not there.
But once you start this process it opens up avenues of relief and help and assistance that provides opportunities to re-frame ones thoughts and feelings.
The ultimate benefit to anyone entering therapy is to leave with an understanding of the 'counsellor within' that we all possess but frequently don't know how to access. I will teach you how to open access to “parts” of yourself in a non-shaming, non-blaming way, that leads to the diminution of critical self-talk & subsequently acceptance of self as you truly are.
”Parts-work” facilitates an understanding of “Self” as the true self that heals the “parts” carrying burdensome beliefs that lead to negative self talk & self beliefs. Using an IFS approach facilitates the ability to let go of self limiting beliefs that in turn leads to the shedding of unhelpful thoughts, beliefs, urges, desires, impulses & cravings.
Problems encountered in living ones life come from faulty thought processes; “meta-cognition” or 'thinking about thinking' .
Once you understand this & come to see & relate to it as an amazingly useful and helpful psychological process you will feel the benefits of it.
I will sensitively introduce you to this concept & show you how to engage with it and use it for your personal betterment.
Epictetus was an early Greek Stoic philosopher, born a slave at Hierapolis, Phrygia. He won his freedom for his philosophical contributions. His maxim remains as true today as it was then;
”It’s not things in themselves that bother us, but the meaning & value we give to them”
This goes to the heart of therapeutic work. It is central to the process and will help you to re-frame and re-think your actions and challenge your ways of thinking about & feeling towards & relating to yourself, others and the world in general; what to expect, what to avoid, what is realistic and what is not.
Albert Ellis, one of the most influential and at times controversial of Therapists frequently asked of his clients;
"What is it, do you think, that you're telling yourself to make you this way?"
I will explore this with you. It has beneficial and amazingly quick results when truly felt and engaged with.
Freud & Jung’s professed goal was to make conscious what was unconscious;
"where id was let there be ego" as Freud he put it.
”…to make the unconscious conscious that is what we must do; if we fail to do that it will continue to dominate us & we will continue to put it down to fate” as Carl Jung put it.
Our unconscious will dominate our lives until we make those troublesome parts conscious & talking therapy is very much about doing exactly that.
Once we make our unconscious conscious it will stop dominating our lives and we will take back control. Until this happens we will continue to believe that repetitious behaviours & consequences are just our fate or "just the way it is" but it doesn't have to be, therapy can alter that dynamic & put you back in charge again.
The 'counselling hour' is 50mins long.
Sessions are best conducted once a week but fortnightly works too although the weekly sessions seem to be the most beneficial.
Counselling can be short term, from 6 - 8 weeks or run into months and, sometimes, even years.
The time needed will become apparent to us both as the process gains momentum.
You decide when you have achieved your goals and outcomes and therefore when to end.
It really is, ultimately, up to you.
COUNSELLING REALLY CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE.......YOU HAVE SO MUCH TO GAIN.
MAKE THAT FIRST, AND POTENTIALLY LIFE CHANGING, MOVE TODAY.
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Training, qualifications & experience
Working with Addaction, an agency specialising in counselling those with alcohol and substance use issues.
Working with CRI Patched Brighton, an agency specialising in counselling family and friends of substance users.
Formerly worked for many years with Breakeven as a consultant counsellor working with problem gamblers & their significant others until my private practice needed my full attention in Brighton and Maidstone.
- In-house training in substance mis-use/use and addiction with Addaction, Brighton and CRI Patched, Brighton.
- Advanced Certificate in counselling skills - Lewes College, Lewes
- Course Leader - Graham Molynuex
- BA in Sociology/Politics Guildhall University, London.
- Course Leader: Maurice Glassman - Now Lord Glassman, HofL.
- Post-Graduate Advanced Diploma in Integrative Counselling - Northbrook College, Worthing
- Course Leader: Ivan Thorpe
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Areas of counselling I deal with
£80.00 per session
- £80 per individual session
- £90 per Couples Counselling sessions
Cancellations require 48hrs notice for the fee not to be charged.
When I work
Weekdays only NO weekends; morning, afternoon and evenings -