Fay Hanniker BA Hons; MA; MBACP Accred.
I have 17 years experience of working with couples and individuals facing relationship issues and challenges, having trained and qualified through Relate. I work with people at all stages of relationships. People who come for relationship counselling, either as a couple or as an individual, may know they want to stay in their relationship but have a specific issue to address. Others may be feeling less sure of the relationship. Others still may be working though separation or divorce.
About Relationship Counselling
Sometimes people feel they have drifted apart from their partner. They talk about feeling more like siblings or housemates rather than partners Perhaps children or work or some other focus means the couple relationship has almost been forgotten. So there is little or no emotional or physical intimacy. In these situations it is not unusual for one partner to be quite shocked when their partner tells them they are not happy.
Some people feel 'stuck' in their relationships - they may find themselves having recurring ,unresolved arguments or feel that communication has totally broken down. This unhealthy dynamic may feel even more difficult in the current situation. The uncertainty around Coronavirus may be creating a lot of anxiety and putting stress on the relationship. It may be that communication is be very strained at the moment and managing time together is very challenging.
Others have a sense of having fallen out of love or having lost mutual trust and respect. In these situations relationship counselling is essentially about exploring and understanding our own patterns of behaviour- helpful and unhelpful- and how these impact our partner. Then choices about finding ways to 'do' things differently can be made.
I also work with people whose relationship has hit crisis point - for example dealing with the aftermath of an affair or where when one partner is ready to leave the relationship.
Other clients I work with may be looking to manage the impact of separation/ divorce. Divorce and separation can be emotionally and financially draining. Counselling can be very effective in helping couples to separate with less hostility.
For couples who are also parents, a primary concern is often how children might be affected.In this area of my work I also draw on my extensive experience as a trainer working with parents to put aside their differences as former partners and put their children first. I also work with couples who are seeking to blend their families to manage the change of dynamics.
I also work with individuals who are struggling as they try to move on after the break up of a relationship or who find it difficult to sustain relationships.
Research has shown again and again that the therapeutic relationship - the relationship between the counsellor and individual/couple - is key to the effectiveness of counselling. My aim is to provide you with a safe place to explore your feelings and concerns, either with your partner or as an individual, so that you can come to an understanding of the issues faced without apportioning blame. I see my role as being to work non - judgementally with my clients to help them manage difficult, sometimes overwhelming, feelings so that ultimately they can make informed decisions about the future of their relationship.
How To Contact Me
If you'd like to know more about relationship counselling, you can read more on my website, contact me by phone or email me.
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Training, qualifications & experience
- BA Hons (London University )
- PGCE (Leicester University )
- Certificate in Marital and Couple Counselling (Relate Institute )
- Diploma in Drug and Alcohol Addiction (Open College)
- MA in Relationship Therapy - individuals, couples and families ( Hull University)
I am committed to undertaking continuous professional development to ensure that I work in the best interests of my clients.
Courses I have completed include:
- Counselling couples and Mental health issues,
- Domestic Violence/ Abuse Awareness and Safety,
- Affairs from a Psychodynamic Perspective,
- Systemic work with Sexual issues
- Brief Solution Focused Therapy,
- Impact of Sexual Trauma,
- Certificate in Young person\'s Counselling (11-18)
- Introduction to Imago theory and Practice Working with Couples
As an accredited member of the BACP (British Association of Counsellors and Psychologists) I adhere to their Code of Ethics and Practice.
Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Weekdays during the day. Monday, Tuesday and Thursday evenings
I work in Wokingham with on site parking.