Judith Zur (Ph.D, MPhil, BSc, BPS CPsychol)
I am a caring and professional person with many years of experience working with individuals of all ages, couples & families on many different issues. I am a trained Clinical Psychologist and Marital/Family Therapist who has worked within the NHS, with NGOs and privately both in my consultation room and online with individuals, couples and families and children (online work is only with adults and older adolescents). I am registered and work according to the professional ethics of the BPS, UKCP and HCPC (see below). I offer afternoon and some evening and weekend appointments. Reduced fees are negotiable.
My practice offers you a safe, non-judgmental climate to discuss and explore your issues. I try to put people at their ease as it is not easy to seek therapy and often people feel anxious when they arrive for the first time. We then work together and you will begin to understand your emotions and reactions, achieve sustainable personal improvement and growth individually, and help rekindle your connection and problem solve within your couple relationship, family and/or other relationships. I facilitate individual, couple and family understanding reactions and problems in context, aiming to remove blame and judgment replacing this with the power of responsibility and tools to promote change.
Whatever is brought to counselling will be received with total acceptance and my own genuine desire to help you to create the changes you require. My therapeutic approaches include working in the present here and now and bringing in the past as relevant context to achieve understanding and change. My style and the tools I use are adapted to every individual and couple depending upon their wishes and therapeutic needs. Because I have extensive training and experience I can draw on elements of a wide range of research-based approaches to create the best therapy programme for each individual rather than being limited to any one particular method of therapy.
PROCESS OF WORKING WITH YOU:
My work begins with you (if you come as an individual) or each of you (e.g.if you come as a couple/family) to tell me about the issues you would like to address, how you have tried to address the problem and what the best outcome of our work together would look like for you. During the first session you can get a sense of me and decide whether working together with me we can make the changes you long for. It is up to you to decide whether you wish to continue after the initial session. If you decide to engage in the process I accompany you to go deeper into your emotional experience, understand this experience and to try and put this together in the present in new ways moving you in the direction that you want to go. I take a neutral stance with couples (and other relationships) helping you relate to one another so you feel heard, validated and begin to communicate in a way that increases connection, diminishes conflict and strengthens your bonds. I will help you to communicate with one another more effectively in our sessions. I help families understand most problems with their children and adolescents in the context of the family, generational patterns including culture; I help parent acquire more effective ways of communicating with their children and with parenting styles. Change with couple and families will happen in the present during sessions creating corrective emotional experiences of connection which is an antidote to negative patterns.
LANGUAGES AND MODES OF DELIVERY:
I offer therapy and counselling in English or Spanish for individuals and couples of all ages and of all cultures and gender orientations.
I also offer therapy online, by video, phone and chat. This is not a type of therapy but a way of delivering it which is especially accessible if you are very busy, travel a lot or for one reason or another find it hard to leave your house/office. I have worked online for many years with individuals and couples from across the globe, including expats and others and have found this mode of delivery to be equally effective as face to face despite the loss of physical proximity. If you have not tried this mode before I suggest you try one session and see if it is to your liking. That way you can also see if you feel comfortable with my style and what I have to offer you. You are not obliged to continue, the decision to do so is always yours.
Below is some anonymous feedback from clients which you might find helpful:
1. "Insightful, compassionate, and creative, Judith Zur is a wonderful therapist. I worked with her for about a year and a half, and she helped me more than any other therapist I've seen in my life. I did both individual sessions with her, focusing on childhood and family trauma, and couples sessions with my partner. These are areas in which I think Judith is especially skilled.
We focused at first on my family and childhood issues, and she helped me to understand my past experiences in a new way that helps me to release the blame, guilt and shame that were plaguing me. We examined how those issues affected me in my present day, and how I could change my patterns and responses to triggers. This has helped me immensely. Before, I went through life with so many toxic emotions surrounding self-esteem and not feeling loved. Judith helped me to see the old beliefs and how they played out in my life better than any book I've read, any workshop I've attended, or any other therapist.
The couples sessions saved my relationship with my partner. Neither of us had experienced healthy home lives and had no model to emulate. She helped us so much communicate more effectively. I feel so very happy and grateful to be in a healthy relationship, and a large part of that is the therapy we went to.
Overall, I highly recommend Judith as a therapist. She is truly a gifted healer."
2. "Dr. Zur is just wonderful. When I was in my darkest times she helped pull me out. She was very patient and understanding. She gave me wonderful advice to help resolve my current situations. I felt that she truly cared about my well being. You can tell she is very well educated with lots of experience and was willing to try different techniques that would personally work for me. I would definitely recommend her!!"
3. "Thanks to Dr. Zur, I am a firm believer in the power of counseling, even if there aren't any immediate issues requiring resolution. Dr. Zur challenged us to continually improve our communication skills, and create goals - both personal and as a couple."
4. "Dr. Zur was extremely caring during our conversation. She genuinely wanted to help and was very resourceful. Thank you for being on top of my needs and for your professionalism. I highly recommend you."
5. "Simply stated, counseling with Dr. Zur is very good. She brings knowledge and experience to the table, and inspires those around her to become better partners and people themselves. My wife and I are very grateful to have worked with Dr. Zur and continue to this day to implement the many concepts which she empowered us with."
5. "We are a cross cultural couple and came to Dr. Zur with issues of anger, frustration and lack of communication that escalated to physical and verbal abuse. through therapy with Dr. Zur we learned to understand each other better, be empathic and acquired tools to communicate and deal with conflict better. We felt very comfortable with her style and neutrality. Before our first session, I was very skeptical of going to yet another therapist. But I meet her, I saw warmth, like a spark in her face, that and your smile helped me to connect and open up. We have recommended Dr. Zur many times as she helped us so much. Our children are happier too because there is a different energy in our home.
We are very thankful that when we had issues that we considered urgent, she took the time to listen to us and usually it was not the clock regulating the length (or number) of our sessions but more a human component."
6. "Judith Zur has been a great support to me during a time when I was dealing with depression and addiction—issues that went way back, with roots in my childhood, but she was the first to connect my past with my present and now my future. Judith has given me the tools to handle my problems in a less destructive way: to face what’s hard in life with self-knowledge and kindness to myself, and understanding. I loved our sessions—I felt like I could say anything to her and her feedback was always informative and helpful. Also, I know she’s a resource that I can rely on in the future, even though I’m now feeling very well and more confident and optimistic than I have felt for some time".
Training, qualifications & experience
MPhil Clinical Psychology (Institute of Psychiatry, London University)
3 year Diploma in Marital and Family Therapy (Institute of Family therapy London)
PhD Social Anthropology (London School of Economics and Political Science, London)
I have worked as a psychotherapist for 30 years within the NHS and NGOs in England, the USA and in Latin America. Within these work setting I have also acquiring further skills as I am confronted with the challenges and necessities of different client populations of all age groups.
As well as working with clients/couples/families in psychotherapy and couples therapy in these countries I have also run groups and trained health workers in Mental Health. Given my work as a Social Anthropologist I have worked a lot with understanding ourselves as cultural beings and have specialised in work with expats and cross cultural relationships. I have also worked specialised in work with trauma and PTSD, refugees and migrants including adults and children.
I have also worked therapeutically with psychotherapists as well as supervising counsellors and psychologists.
I am an "integrative holistic therapist", meaning I am qualified in different schools of psychotherapy and combine them in the treatment of clients depending on their preferences and the issue at hand. I do not believe that counselling or therapy is a one size fits all and during our initial sessions we can decide together which approach may be helpful for you and the difficulties you are experiencing. I take into consideration all aspects of the person's life being mindful of not only the emotional and psychological aspects but also the physiological and the wider social world, our relationships, history, culture and spirituality.
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Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Binge-eating disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Internet addiction
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Paranoid personality disorder
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I also work using Emotionally Focused therapy and Coherence therapy not listed below and Emotion Focused therapy for individuals and couples as well as Gottman approach for couples
- Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT)
- Behavioural therapy
- Cognitive and behavioural therapies
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
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£65-100 for individual sessions and £75-120 for couple/family sessions both lasting 55-70 minutes.
Do ask me about my sliding scale as I to try and accommodate financial restrictions.
I do also offer some evening and weekend appointments.
I am registered with BUPA, AVIVA & Vitality Health should you want to pay for sessions through insurance. I am also open to registering with other insurances if you need me to be.
If you would like to call me or write to me with any questions or concerns you might have before deciding to arrange a session please do so writing to me on 07733694733 or email@example.com. I will try and come back to you within 24 hours.
I have DBS clearing regarding work with children.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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I try and accommodate peoples´ time needs both face to face and online.
Types of client
Supervision & training
My supervision will help you develop skills in the methods and practice in which I have expertise (Systemic, narrative, attachment based, emotional focused therapy with individuals, families and couples) and will also help you with your own personal development as a therapist including issues you may wish to address within this.View supervision profile