How to cope with depression

There are a lot of ways you can try to deal with depression. One of the most important things to remember is that there is no one-size-fits-all approach. Everyone who deals with depression has to find their own way of managing it, and that means trying different things until you find something that works for you.


The process may be difficult at times, but you will never overcome depression by hiding away in your room. Here are five things you can do to help you manage and overcome depression.

1. Talk about it

One thing that often helps people deal with depression is talking about the condition. Often, when you're alone with your thoughts in bed or in your room, it can seem like there's no one else who understands what you're going through. But there are other people out there who have been through similar situations, and they may be able to help offer encouragement or even some advice on how they've managed their own depression.

Try talking about your experience to someone you trust, who is not emotionally involved in the situation. If you feel comfortable doing so, consider reaching out to someone close - perhaps a family member or a friend - and asking them if they would like to talk about what's going on in your life.

I think it's really important to talk about your feelings, and I know you don't want to burden other people with all of this. But there are a few ways that talking about depression can actually help you cope:

You're not alone!

Sometimes it's hard to remember that there are other people out there who are going through similar things. Talking about it helps remind you that depression is a real thing - and that other people deal with it too.

It can make you feel better about yourself!

When you talk about how something makes you feel, it's easier for someone else to understand how they can support you or help out in certain situations. Even if they don't have the same experience as you do, they might have some useful advice or suggestions for coping with things like this on their own terms.

It helps build relationships!

If someone cares enough to listen and support you while you're going through something difficult, then chances are good that they'll care even more later on down the line when things get better again (or at least less stressful). Having someone who cares about what happens next can be invaluable when it comes time

2. Change any negative behaviour patterns

Try to identify negative patterns of behaviour that may be contributing to your depression and aim to change them. Identifying negative patterns of behaviour can be difficult because they're so easy to overlook. But if you're struggling with depression, it's important to recognise what might be contributing to that struggle - and that starts with identifying your own behaviour.

Luckily, there are some simple questions you can ask yourself to help determine what those negative patterns might be:

  • What do you do that makes you feel better?
  • What do you do that makes you feel worse?
  • What are the things in your life that have changed since your depression started?

3. Separate your identity from the depression

Remember that the things you think or say in the initial stages of depression are not accurate reflections of reality. You are a person of worth, and your feelings are valid. You have been given this life, and you have the power to make it what you want it to be.

We know that sometimes it feels like nothing will ever get better - like there's no way out of this hole you've dug yourself into. But there is always an answer, even if it takes a while to find it. And there are people out there who want to help you find it.

4. Seek out activities that you enjoy

If you're struggling with depression, it can be hard to know what to do. But there are a few things that might help.

First, try to focus on activities that bring you joy and happiness, and try to do more of them. Don't just watch TV all day or play video games - get out into the world and do things! Try volunteering for an organisation you care about, or take up a new hobby like hiking or cooking. The more you interact with other people, the better off you'll feel.

Second, remember that depression is temporary and treatable. It's true that some people have this condition their whole life, but most don't - and if you do have depression, there are treatments available to help manage it! Don't give up hope of feeling better - there is always hope!

5. Understand that overcoming depression takes time

Depression is a serious condition, and it can be difficult to overcome. If you're struggling with depression, it's important to understand that it takes time. But a counsellor can help with this.

A counsellor can help you learn how to deal with your depression in a healthy way and how to get the right treatment for your needs. A counsellor will talk with you about your life and how it has affected your depression, and then they will teach you how to cope with the symptoms of depression so you can get back on track.

Counselling is an effective way of treating depression because it allows people who are struggling with this illness to share their feelings without judgement or criticism from others around them who might not understand what they're going through. Counselling can also help people see things from another perspective so they don't feel so alone in their struggles or feel like there's no hope for improvement at all when there really is!

Like any other disease, treatment for depression can take time but you should stay positive and hopeful.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Counselling Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Susan Ann Light, MBACP Registered. ITA. ITAA. GHS. EMDR Ins. Gottman Ins.
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Hello. My name is Susan Light and I am a qualified counsellor, psychotherapist, Consultant and Trainer. For the last thirty years, I have gained experience in working with individuals, couples and families. I work with people of all ages and from various backgrounds and cultures.

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