Temper Domestic Violence Ltd

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0203 286 44 82 or 0121 270 6168 or 01604 211 445 / 07833 143 724 for text messages

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About us

Domestic Violence and or abuse. We run courses / groups at weekends 9.00 a.m. to 6.00 p.m.  in North West London and in Birmingham for people who are violent and or aggressive and or abusive with a partner or former partner and who want help to change, or for people who have been abusive and need to address their behaviour. It takes 2 weekends to complete the work. The weekends are usually 3 to 4 weeks apart.

In 1995/6 4.9% of domestic abuse was recognised as "by women". Now at least 19.7% of domestic violence is recognised as by women. Either the original statistics were a massive understatement or women's violence has increased by 400% in the intervening years!

Training, qualifications & experience

All counsellors have been RELATE trained and have been further trained by this organisation for 25 days. BAC or BASRT or similar membership and accreditation are required.

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Other areas of counselling we deal with

We are focused almost entirely on Domestic Violence and abuse, sometimes this is popularly called anger management but our focus is very much more on regulating 8 primary emotions, emotional regulation..
Now more than 95% of our clients are men, previously between 12.5 and 15% of our clients were females.

The Duluth model in America has very largely failed with court mandated men to demonstrate any positive outcomes - "Partner Abuse" will give you the scientific data for the main reasons that it fails. In the UK RESPECT is bent on proving that Duluth works, despite the outcomes of their flagship project in London who could only claim that 22 men had successful outcomes - from the 230 men that approached them!
In other words 208 men in that year very largely wasted their time! The CEO of DVIP - The Domestic Violence Prevention Project, no the only remaining RESPECT accredited project in London said on BBC radio Northampton: "Sometimes as many as 25% of the men make it through." Does that sound like an obstacle race? Or does it sound as if he regrets that even those 25% make it through.

The fact that DVIP have not managed to engage with the vast majority of men, or even addressed any of the issues involved suggests that they are actually not interested in doing so. That stance would fit exactly with the feminist mantra which permitted their existence in 1989. "A violent man will never change," were the very words uttered by Ms Sandra Horley of Refuge in September 1994.

Changes since then: On average 2 women per week are killed by a partner or former partner.
Changed to: 2 women per week are killed by a partner or former partner. ONS says 78.
A woman will be assaulted 35 times before coming to the attention of the authorities.
4.7% of DV is by women.
Changed to 19.7% of DV is by women!   A 400% increase!

The focus in this agenda needs to be the safety of children, not just the safety of women . Children are potentially at risk from both parents. Of course when people declare themselves to be victims of domestic violence they need to be believed and their claims need to be carefully explored. When children's safety is in question a healthy scepticism needs to be engaged and the focus needs to be entirely on the safety of the child, and not potentially compromised by a focus only on " the safety of the woman".


The organisation is a charity. To remain sustainable our trustees decided we needer to charge for the service: £30 towards the cost of an initial visit, whenever possible face-to-face and otherwise by skype or face-time, and £480 for a course. £240 must be paid prior to the allocation of a place, the balance may be paid over a longer period of time. There is a special rate for those on benefits. We will provide a certificate of completion for all those people who complete satisfactorily.

The courts and social services may commission the work. Charges are £120 for the initial meeting, £580 for the course work and £380 for a report. These figures reflect the additional work and reporting required.
We have had to recognise that children have been mainly disadvantaged by our earlier insistence about reports needing to be sponsored by an authority. We will now produce reports for the courts at a cost of between £75 and £175 depending upon the complexity.

Further information

Work to stop or reduce violence in families.

Most cases of domestic violence are not about seeking to achieve power and control over a female, a wife or a partner. A main focus on "power and control" addresses the problems of less than 20% of men, about the same percentage of women who have problems managing their behaviours, according to Women's Aid, whose figures are about 13% lower than ONS.

In line with the strategy of preventing violence to women and girls the female abusers are sent on the Freedom programme, for female victims of domestic abuse!   The major abusers of girls are ........ ?

And the major abusers of boys are...... ?

Behaviour is driven by emotions. Emotions precede thoughts. See Ledoux, 1996.

A "working model" of primary declarative human emotions is linked into our website along with a great deal of material of a political nature which is openly critical of the current policies, particularly those focused on separating couples willy-nilly.

The effectiveness of RESPECT's accredited projects has been very seriously undermined by a call by Dr Louise Dixon for the abandonment of the accreditation process because it is based on feminist ideology rather than scientifically sustainable evidence.  

The Centre for Social Justice concluded in a paper in 2012 that the Duluth based / styled intervention courses should all be closed and a complete re-start should be made.

The Ministry of Justice paper 2014 pointed out the sheer lack of effectiveness from Duluth style work. 

The Mirabal project 2015 commissioned by RESPECT researched outcomes from 4 RESPECT accredited projects, no doubt running at least 7 projects. Presented in percentages in the executive summary the figures look quite encouraging. Read the main report, pages 8 and 9 and you'll see that those percentages are based on 36 men. The RESPECT accredited projects have still not learnt how to counter the criticism of the Joseph Rowntree sponsored research of DVIP in 1998. By contrast our two half projects completed work with 56 men and women in 2016.

The fact that CAFCASS, charged with the safety of children, and in the face of so much contradictory evidence only recognises projects accredited by RESPECT is frankly amazing, and it is really a minor political scandal! Now part of the Ministry of Justice, Cafcass has obviously not yet read or digested the “Ministry of Justice paper" .

https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/305319/transforming-rehabilitation-evidence-summary-2nd-edition.pdf  (p.25)

What is the impact on reoffending? The most recent systematic review of US evidence indicates that the Duluth Model appears to have no effect on recidivism.154 However, this review also identified substantial reductions in domestic violence reoffending by offenders who had attended other interventions. These interventions varied widely in their approach (including cognitive behavioural therapy, relationship enhancement and group couples counselling), and the reviewers were therefore unable to make recommendations about specific preferred alternatives to the Duluth Model.

The above and the experiences of Social Services and councils will no doubt account for the sheer lack of accredited programmes. Whereas there appeared to be about 26 accredited projects a few years ago it now appears as if there are between 10 and 12.

0203 286 44 82 or 0121 270 6168 is available. Emails can be sent to david@temper.me.uk or denise@temper.me.uk.

Maps & Directions

Harrow, HA1
Birmingham, B8

Type of session

Online counselling: Yes
Telephone counselling: Yes
Face to face counselling: Yes
Home visits: No

Practical details

Sign language: No
Other languages: None


Wheelchair access: Unspecified


Our telephone numbers are generally available from 7 am - 10.00 pm daily except at weekends when a course is being run.