Frances Massey

Do people say there's something wrong with you? You're dramatic, oversensitive, lazy, weird, confusing, or inconsistent? But they don’t see how hard you are trying, and now you are overwhelmed, exhausted, and burnt out.

Do you feel like a contradiction? Full of creativity and sparkle one moment and floored by what others find easy the next?

I’m Fran, I work with neurodivergent clients particularly ADHD (er’s) and AuDHD (er’s). Diagnosed, self-identified or questioning. I can help you to believe in yourself and feel empowered to ask for what you need. I will help you make friends with your brain and nervous system instead of hating them, whilst embracing your complexity, and uncovering your true capacity. 

I can also support you through the diagnosis process, in unpacking a recent diagnosis/assessment or with those first vulnerable steps exploring neurodiversity.

I offer both Neurodivergent affirming therapy and coaching.

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Are you feeling overwhelmed, confused, frustrated, full of imposter syndrome, afraid you're just making excuses, but tentatively hopeful that this might be a turning point in your life?

The idea of thriving may feel like an alien concept to you right now. Or even make you feel angry because people just haven’t got it in the past. Yet you know intuitively there is greatness inside you if only you could let it out.

Perhaps you're experiencing burnout at work, chaos at home, and relationship struggles with friends and family. Carrying guilt about your failures, and confused by inconsistent energy levels. You’ve felt anxious and/or depressed on an off for ever, but you sense it’s more than that somehow.

Would you like to work with someone who’s brain functions in a similar way to yours?

Before I became a therapist, I’d had years of counselling for what I thought was either recurring anxiety and depression, or my own failure to keep up and make lasting changes.

My training gave me so much personally and professionally, yet I came to realise, perhaps I was struggling for different reasons to others?

I noticed people with similar experiences appearing in my counselling room. They had diverse histories but shared common threads, and our interactions felt more connected and easier somehow. Clients would often comment on how comfortable they felt with me, and I’d really enjoy working with them too.

I knew I was Dyslexic initially and I soon became aware it was more than that. Subsequently I’ve received diagnoses of Dyspraxia and ADHD (I also self-identified as autistic).

My identity is entwined with my professional work. I’m not a blank slate we collaborate in our work together. I welcome you to ask questions and I will share elements of my own lived experience where it may be helpful. Therapy can be painful, deeply moving and cathartic, but it can also be enjoyable and even fun at times.

You cannot bore me, I will genuinely delight in your interests and passions, or help you rediscover them; I can follow your tangents, you cannot be too fast or too slow in your speech. I don’t require that you are still, make eye contact, or stay on topic. You can choose your pace and I will honour that.

When you are ready I will gently, witness, hold and support you to process your painful experiences. I can help you better understand yourself, your needs, and preferences. Together we can expand your self-knowledge and confidence, developing ways for you to support yourself, regulate your emotions and feel more confident in your relationships. As a result, making it easier to advocate for yourself, align with what brings you joy and minimise the impact of a world not designed for us.

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Are you looking for help with developing:

Confidence in relationships

• A clearer understanding of yourself and the dynamics at play in interactions with others. 
• The ability to identify those details you might have missed previously, and where they have been influenced by the belief that you are “too much” or “not enough”.

More self-compassion 

• To feel safer to be you, accept and even delight in who you really are. 
• To change your natural self-talk to be kinder and more empowering and watch as this positively impacts your life.

Greater understanding of yourself and your capacity

• To be honest about your needs and capacity, relived of the guilt from believing you’re a flawed Neurotypical “normal” person. 
• To identify your strengths and challenges and balance these alongside your true capacity. 
• Confidently set boundaries and advocate for your needs from a place of groundedness instead of survival.

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• I have personal experience of home education
• AuDHD coaching

    Therapy fees:

• 50 min session £55
• 90 min session £80

Consultation session (non therapeutic for information purposes) 90 mins £95

Please enquire via email for coaching fee quotes both ATW and private clients.

I work online only so wherever you live, if you have a phone, tablet or laptop and internet access, we could work together if we both feel we are compatible.

So, if you would like to find out more or see if we’d be a good fit, please email me.

Confidentiality notice: As a Neurodivergent business owner, my private practice is supported by my lovely virtual assistant Mary (thanks to the Access to Work scheme) - Therefore please note that it is not just me who will be managing emails. However, please rest assured that both Mary and myself are registered with the ICO, bound by GDPR legislation, and that your information is treated with the strictest of confidence.

Session types:

• Free initial 20min call -phone/video
• 50 min standard session -therapy
• 90 min extended session- therapy
• 50 mins AuDHD coaching

I am LGBTQ+ affirming and although I don't have personal lived experience, I would like to consider myself an ally.

I am committed to learning from the voices of lived experiences, and have supported a small number of clients and family with exploring aspects of their Identities including; gender, sexuality and relationship orientation /construct.

I also offer single consultation sessions if you’re not ready for therapy or are currently working with someone else but would like to learn more about ADHD/ Neurodiversity.

Coaching now open for bookings.

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