Louise Haylett - Qualified Person Centred & Solution Focused Counsellor
Hello. My approach is simple. I passionately believe that everyone needs to be heard and valued. Sometimes we reach a point where we need another to walk with us, take time to understand us, and to provide us with a safe space to explore ourselves. This is what I aim to provide.
I’m qualified as an Integrative counsellor which means I use knowledge and skills from several approaches (Humanistic, Solution Focussed & Psychodynamic Therapy) and integrate them depending on the unique needs and wishes of the client.
From my personal experience as a client and as a counsellor, I believe a fundamental aspect of this work, regardless of approach, is the creation and development of a good working relationship between client and counsellor. This is a unique, gentle and yet powerful relationship.
It is about you – your life, your hopes, your experiences, your thoughts and feelings. And my role as a skilled and trained practitioner is to reflect back what I see, hear and feel being with you. I will ask you questions (which are sometimes hard to answer!) to get you thinking about you and your life. Through this process of questioning, thinking, reflecting, and discovering you will see and experience yourself more fully.
How we'll work together
The pace will be set by you. We’ll initially spend time understanding what you're struggling with and identifying your best hopes. For some people this is straightforward as they have a very clear idea of what they want and what the problem is. It might be changes you want to make within your relationships, or perhaps you are suffering with depression, anxiety or addiction, and want a life moving away from those things.
Counselling gives you the gifts of time and space. My job is to provide you with the safety and encouragement to reach a point which feels meaningful and enough for you. The different hopes people come with are very broad. For some people they want short term support to get through a recent event or change that they're struggling with. For others, the affects of early experiences or current problems run deeper and are preventing them from enjoying their lives in the way they wish.
So how do I work to reach this point with you?
We will begin by exploring your best hopes from counselling which sets out the path you are looking to take. I will work alongside you, explore in detail the future you are trying to create, maybe slow things down, pay attention to the little things you say, be curious, wonder where they may have originated and look at how they are impacting and serving you now. Together we’ll encourage the parts of you that feels scared, hurt, ashamed, or angry (to name but a few) to find a voice. Not forgetting as well the parts that feel excited, hopeful, creative and connected (to name a few more....)
We may also look at the everyday routines and patterns of life. How are these helping or maintaining your life? What changes do you want to make? What thoughts and feelings might be keeping you stuck? How will life look differently as you move further towards where you want to be? What resources, and skills, and beliefs do you have already that will help you get moving in that direction?
So if these make you feel excited and hopeful, get in touch.
“True life is lived when tiny changes occur.” – Leo Tolstoy
Training, qualifications & experience
What is my background?
I qualified in 2012, (Diploma in Integrative Humanistic & Psychodynamic Counselling) and have been training and working as a counsellor for the last 6 years. In 2015 I have been further developing my practice by completing training in Solution Focused Brief Therapy as well.
I’ve worked with a broad range of issues and clients from a lot of different backgrounds, and at different life stages. Every person is different. It is what I love about this work.
I came to counselling as a 2nd career after working in the corporate world for many years in Human Resources. I have a young family and recognise the fundamental importance of good relationships – and the challenges we all face in building these.
As part of my training and beyond, I set out to gain a variety of experiences working with a range of clients and issues.
- I've worked in a University setting with students on a lot of different issues from loss, transition and change, stress, anxiety and OCD, self confidence, addiction, relationship issues and depression.
- I've worked with the specific client group of 'parents to be' or 'new parents' struggling with a range of issues from pregnancy termination and loss, anxiety, post trumatic stress disorder following birth, and post natal depression as well as more broad parenting issues.
- I have also worked providing longer term counselling for people struggling with addictions and past trauma and damage caused by early attachments.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Anger management
- Child related issues
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Pregnancy and birth
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I have experience of and am keen to continue supporting people (men and women) with post natal depression, pregnancy and birth, miscarriage, termination, birth trauma, infertility and family issues.
A 50 minute appointment is £40.
I have some concessionary places for students or people in financial hardship so contact me to find out.
I am based in Wallingford, South Oxfordshire, working from home in a calm and peaceful space.
There is parking outside my house and I am less than 10 minutes walk from the centre of Wallingford where buses from Oxford, Reading and the surrounding villages stop.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
I offer appointments on: Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays & Fridays
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|