Overcoming relationship anxiety: What it is and how to stop it

Relationship anxiety is a common problem that affects many individuals. It can arise at any stage of a relationship, from the early dating phase to a long-term commitment. In this article, we will explore what relationship anxiety is, how to stop it, and tips for moving forward.


What is relationship anxiety?

Relationship anxiety is a feeling of worry, fear, or unease about a romantic relationship. It is often characterised by obsessive thoughts, compulsive behaviours, and emotional distress. Relationship anxiety can manifest in a variety of ways, such as constantly seeking reassurance, questioning the relationship, or avoiding intimacy.

Causes of relationship anxiety

There are several possible causes of relationship anxiety, including past experiences, attachment styles, and personality traits. Some people may develop relationship anxiety as a result of past traumatic experiences, such as betrayal or abandonment. Others may have an insecure attachment style, which can lead to fears of rejection or abandonment. Certain personality traits, such as perfectionism or low self-esteem, can also contribute to relationship anxiety.

How to stop relationship anxiety

Stopping relationship anxiety requires a combination of self-reflection, communication with your partner, and professional support. Here are some tips to help you overcome relationship anxiety:

Practice self-awareness: The first step in stopping relationship anxiety is to become aware of your thoughts and emotions. Start by paying attention to the triggers that set off your anxiety, and try to identify the underlying causes.

Communicate with your partner: Open and honest communication is key to a healthy relationship. Share your feelings and concerns with your partner, and work together to address any issues that arise.

Set boundaries: Boundaries are essential to maintaining a healthy relationship. Identify your needs and communicate them clearly to your partner.

Practice self-care: Taking care of your physical and emotional needs is crucial to managing anxiety. Make sure to get enough sleep, exercise regularly, and practice stress-reducing activities such as meditation or yoga.

Seek professional support: If your anxiety is interfering with your daily life or your relationship, seek professional support. A therapist or counsellor can help you identify the underlying causes of your anxiety and develop strategies for managing it.

Tips for moving forward

Overcoming relationship anxiety is a process that requires patience and persistence. Here are some additional tips to help you move forward:

Focus on the present: Instead of worrying about the future or dwelling on the past, focus on the present moment. Enjoy the time you spend with your partner, and try to savour the positive aspects of your relationship.

Practice gratitude: Expressing gratitude can help you cultivate a more positive outlook on life. Take time each day to reflect on the things you are thankful for, and share your gratitude with your partner.

Challenge negative thoughts: Negative thoughts can fuel anxiety and undermine your relationship. Challenge these thoughts by asking yourself if they are based on reality, and if there is evidence to support them.

Cultivate self-love: Learning to love yourself is an essential part of any healthy relationship. Take time to nurture your own interests and hobbies, and practice self-compassion and self-care.

In conclusion, relationship anxiety is a common problem that can have a significant impact on our emotional well-being and our relationships. By practising self-awareness, communicating with our partners, and seeking professional support, we can learn to manage our anxiety and build stronger, healthier relationships. 

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Counselling Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Ian Stockbridge is the founder and lead counsellor at Hope Therapy and Counselling Services. 

As an experienced Counsellor, Ian recognised a huge societal need for therapeutic services that were often not being met. As such the 'Hope Agency'was born and its counselling team now offers counselling and therapeutic support throughout the UK.

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