Narcissism: The silent poison of toxic relationships

Narcissism is a condition characterised by self-centeredness, grandiosity, and an excessive need for attention. But narcissism isn't just something that happens to celebrities—it can also happen in relationships.


If you're dating someone who exhibits signs of narcissism, be aware that the relationship may not be good for you in the long run. Narcissistic people tend to be extremely hot and cold; they love you one day and hate you the next. They are also unable to empathise with others' feelings; they do not feel guilty when they hurt someone else's feelings or upset them, nor do they care about how their actions affect others.

If your partner exhibits any of these behaviours, it would be wise to evaluate whether this person is right for you long-term before things get too serious!

Narcissism is a serious issue in relationships, and it's important to be able to identify signs of narcissism in your partner.

If you've ever been in a relationship with someone who is narcissistic, you know how painful it can be. Narcissists are known for their hot-and-cold behaviours, which often confuse their partners and make them feel insecure. Narcissistic relationships are usually marked by intense highs and lows, which can leave both parties feeling like they're going crazy.

If you think your partner might have narcissistic tendencies, there are a few signs to look out for. Narcissists tend to have an inflated sense of self-importance, a preoccupation with personal success and failure, and an expectation of special treatment from others. They also display grandiosity and arrogance (sometimes masking poor self-esteem), as well as a lack of empathy toward others.

If you think your partner might be exhibiting narcissistic tendencies, here are some signs to look out for:

  • They refuse to listen when you talk about an issue with them.
  • They constantly compare themselves to others.
  • They always put themselves first—even if it means disregarding your needs.
  • They stalk their exes on social media or try to keep tabs on them after they break up (this one can also indicate jealousy).
  • They have an exaggerated sense of self-importance.
  • They believe they're more special than others.
  • They require excessive admiration and attention from others.
  • They don't listen to your problems or concerns; they just talk about themselves.
  • They expect you to cater to them all the time, without reciprocating.
  • They can be incredibly critical, but only when it comes to other people—never themselves.
  • They're always trying to get attention from someone else, like by winning at board games or arguing with strangers in public places (which isn't necessarily bad behaviour on its own, but if it's all they ever do together then that's a sign!)

If you think your partner might be narcissistic, here's what you need to know: narcissistic people often want their partners to be very supportive of their goals and dreams—but they won't ever be there for their partners when they need support. Narcissists also tend not to be very good listeners or empathetic towards others' feelings, so if you find yourself feeling jealous over how much time they spend talking about themselves instead of paying attention to your needs, this might be one reason why!

Hot and cold behaviours

Narcissists are known for having hot and cold behaviours—they may be loving one minute but then turn cold the next, or they may change their minds about things constantly without ever apologising for their behaviour. This is because narcissists aren't big on considering other people's feelings or needs—they're only worried about themselves!

If you're in a relationship with someone who has these traits, it's important to understand how narcissism impacts your relationship and what you can do about it. Here are some ways to cope with narcissistic behaviour:

  1. Don't take things personally.
  2. Practice empathy instead of sympathy.
  3. Set boundaries and enforce them consistently.

Talking through your concerns with a counsellor can help you further these coping skills.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Counselling Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Brian Turner, BA (Hons.) MNCS Snr Accred / Supervisor. (Prof. Dip PsyC)
Normanton, West Yorkshire, WF6 2DB

I am a psychotherapist that uses a diverse and wide spectrum of techniques to ensure that my clients feel empowered and confident, so they are able to achieve what they wish to achieve when presenting with a broad range of issues.

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