Elevate your self-esteem

In the intricate tapestry of our minds, self-esteem forms the foundation upon which we build our sense of self-worth. Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) offer valuable tools to enhance self-esteem and foster a positive self-image. By combining these therapeutic approaches, we can unlock the potential for lasting self-confidence.


How can CBT help?

Identify negative thought patterns

CBT encourages us to become detectives of our own minds, unravelling the threads of negative thought patterns. Begin by acknowledging self-deprecating thoughts and challenging their validity. Replace distorted thinking with more balanced and realistic perspectives. For example, transform "I always fail" into "I am learning and growing through each experience."

Set realistic goals

Break down larger goals into manageable, achievable steps. CBT teaches us to set realistic expectations, fostering a sense of accomplishment. Celebrate small victories along the way, reinforcing a positive self-image and gradually building self-esteem. Each triumph, no matter how small, contributes to the larger picture of personal success.

Challenge core beliefs

Explore and challenge deep-seated negative beliefs about yourself. CBT encourages questioning the origins of these beliefs and replacing them with positive affirmations. For instance, transform "I am not worthy" into "I am inherently valuable." Changing core beliefs reshapes the foundation of self-esteem.

How can DBT help?

Practise self-compassion

DBT emphasises the importance of self-compassion, and accepting ourselves despite our imperfections. Treat yourself with kindness, just as you would a friend facing a challenge. Instead of dwelling on shortcomings, cultivate an understanding and forgiving attitude towards yourself. Remember, self-compassion is the antidote to self-criticism.

Mindfulness and radical acceptance 

DBT introduces mindfulness and radical acceptance as powerful tools to enhance self-esteem. Practice being present in the moment without judgment. Embrace situations, even challenging ones, with radical acceptance. By acknowledging reality without resistance, you pave the way for authentic self-empowerment.

Emotion regulation

DBT's emotion regulation skills equip individuals to manage intense emotions effectively. Recognize and label emotions, allowing space for self-reflection. Develop healthy coping mechanisms to navigate emotional turbulence. As you regulate your emotions, you'll find a newfound stability that contributes to elevated self-esteem.

How can CBT and DBT work together?

Build a support system 

Both CBT and DBT underscore the importance of social support. Surround yourself with individuals who uplift and encourage you. Share your journey with trusted friends or a therapist. A robust support system not only provides valuable insights but also bolsters your self-esteem through positive reinforcement.

Gratitude practice

Incorporate a daily gratitude practice into your routine. Acknowledge and appreciate the positive aspects of your life, no matter how small. Both DBT and CBT recognise the transformative power of gratitude in shifting focus from perceived inadequacies to the abundance of positive experiences  

By synergizing the principles of cognitive behavioural therapy and dialectical behaviour therapy, you can embark on a transformative journey toward heightened self-esteem. Identify and challenge negative thought patterns, embrace self-compassion, and foster a supportive environment. With these evidence-based strategies, you'll discover the keys to unlocking your inner confidence and embracing a positive self-image.

If you find yourself eager for more information or seeking personalised guidance, consider reaching out. Private sessions may help support you on your journey to enhanced self-esteem. Remember, investing in your mental well-being is a powerful step towards a more confident and fulfilling life. Don't hesitate to take that first step – you deserve it.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Counselling Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Aaron Kelly, MSc, MSc, MA (Hons) MBACP
Edinburgh, City of Edinburgh, EH8

Aaron Kelly is a psychotherapist who is deeply committed to helping people overcome mental health challenges and live happier, more fulfilling lives. Aaron is known for his compassionate and empathetic approach to therapy, working closely with clients to understand their unique needs and challenges in order to help them achieve their goals.

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