Patty Everitt UKCP Registered Neurolinguistic Psychotherapist
Reflecting Back the Wholeness of You
I hope you will never need my help, but if you do ...
I often work with women who have reached a point in their lives where they feel they have lost their sense of who they are, and are living with a sense of disorientation, emptiness or of inexplicable sadness.
I also work with men whose sense of self has been diminished through living in difficult relationships or by redundancy.
Losing one’s sense of Self can manifest in many ways: a feeling of low self-confidence, low self-esteem or low self-worth, a feeling of still not being good enough despite all my achievements, of comparing myself unfavourable with others, of putting up with poor behaviours toward me because “that is what I have to do”, of not getting on or losing out again on promotion, or of feeling pinned to the periphery, ignored or abandoned. Perhaps it manifests as a general feeling of anxiety without really understanding the cause, or of low moods and poor motivation. The circumstances are always unique to the person experiencing them; the emotions are utterly human.
My role is to create a physical and emotional space where you feel “safe enough” to explore what is happening in your life and create and rehearse choices for yourself for the future. My place is to accompany you as you do that.
What does “safe enough” mean?
It means building a relationship that is non-judgemental, empathic and confidential and where boundaries are respected. This safe space enables difficult questions to be asked and answered and for emotions to be felt and expressed.
Together we pay attention to your patterns of thoughts, feelings and behaviours; we can be curious about these patterns and notice which ones are helpful to you and which are less so.
When we become consciously aware of our patterns and the “musts” and “must nots” we are living by, and didn’t know were there, then we have a choice about if and how we change them.
When we accept choice, then we can take control and responsibility for ourselves and how we live and not be driven by the “musts” and “oughts”; we can be with others and not subject to them; we can recognise our abilities and be recognised for our contributions and not feel we have to hide or belittle our achievements.
If this is something that you recognise or resonates deeply within you and you want to explore further, then please do call and I will do my best to answer your questions.
I am based in the beautiful and wild county of Northumberland. My practice is based in south-Northumberland at Darras Hall, Ponteland near the great northern city of Newcastle-upon Tyne and in mid-Northumberland near the lovely market town of Alnwick.
Training, qualifications & experience
- UKCP Registered Neurolinguistic Psychotherapist
- Diploma Neurolinguistic Psychotherapy, Dip NLPt
- Diploma Clinical Hypnotherapy
- Certificate Clinical Supervision
- NeuroLinguistic Progamming (NLP) Master Practitioner
- BSc Physics and Mathematics
- PhD. Physics
Registered / Accredited
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UK Council for Psychotherapy
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UKCP standards cover the range of different psychotherapies. Registration is obtained by training or accrediting with one of its member organisations, or by holding a European Certificate in Psychotherapy. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
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Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I also provide professional and personal coaching face-to-face, by phone and by video link.
I have presented at conferences providing a psychological perspective on such subjects as planning career development and co-present and coach on public and corporate Resilience Programmes which are designed to help people change the way they think and feel about stress and to equip them to manage themselves more resourcefully when faced with stressful situations.
My fees are £70 per hour and appointments are typically one hour in duration.
I offer concessions to Clergy and to Trainee Counsellors and Psychotherapists.
Concessions offered for
In therapy, we work to explore your experience of reality and the beliefs you hold about yourself, others and the world. Beliefs may be just that, beliefs and not truths.
I offer support to adults experiencing:
- Levels of anxiety or stress
- Panic attacks or the fear of experiencing a panic attack
- Situations in which they find themselves dissociating
- A sense of loss or grief at losing a hoped-for future including childlessness, divorce, redundancy
- Hurtful or diminishing relationships (individuals only) including personal relationships with partner, parent or child and work relationships including work performance issues
- Struggling with the consequences of experienced childhood neglect or emotional, physical or sexual abuse
- The strain of living with a sense of shame or guilt or low self-esteem
- Feelings of guilt or irritation when caring for dependent partners or parents or with adult dependent children