I am a fully qualified person centred counsellor but I also bring aspects of other therapies such as C.B.T, D,B,T and T,A. More information about these types of therapies can be found on my website or online.
I as also a member of the BACP. (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy)
TRIGGER WARNING: I discuss aspects of sexual abuse and trauma below.
I have helped people with many issues and difficulties in their lives but I work best with parental neglect, narcissistic parents, sexual abuse, trauma and anxiety.
When parents do not meet the needs of their children either emotionally or physically then the effects on that child can be very complex. One of these complexities can be how that child sees themselves in the world and how they feel others see them. They can feel low self worth and put others before themselves as their parents did. They kind find it hard to make healthy choices and also find it difficult to say no to others and set healthy boundaries for themselves. Its not uncommon for children to go onto develop psychological problems. Depression, Anxiety or even PTSD. Neglectful parents can put their children in dangerous environments because they neglect the childs needs for safety. The parents can put their owner others needs above the child and this means that children of neglectful parents are more likely to suffer a trauma within their childhood.
Narcissistic parents also don't meet the needs of their children but also see the child as an extension of themselves and so seeks to control their children through manipulation of their feelings. Shame and guilt are used to manipulate and sometimes even physical abuse is used to control their children. Parents can also use financial control. The narcissist parent wants to be admired by others and so controls their children in order to make themselves look good in their social circles while not taking into account of course the damage this does to their children. Children who experience this form of abuse often suffer some of the issues I mentioned in neglectful parents but because of the need to control their children the manipulation can continue for longer especially as the parent is often quite successful in making others believe they are good parents. This can make the child feel very isolated as speaking out against their parent could lead to more abuse.
Having volunteered for 2 years at a charity supporting survivors of sexual abuse I learned how the trauma of the abuse effected adults. Carrying around with them feelings of shame or guilt over what had happened. Having issues with intimacy and trust. Not having anyone to talk to about the abuse also leaves the person having to cope on their own and this can be incredibly difficult and so unhealthy coping mechanisms can develop. Unhealthy boundaries can also be formed as no healthy boundaries were modelled and/or they own boundaries were broken when they were younger and this can lead to unhealthy relationships and the possibility of more trauma. It is not uncommon for survivors of sexual abuse to suffer from PTSD.
A traumatic event may have impacted you in ways that are hard for you to understand and you maybe feeling a range of emotions afterwards. I have helped people understand the impact of trauma and how the body and mind copes. Trauma can affect anyone and the trauma can be held not just in the mind but also in the body. Talking through your trauma and gaining some understanding of what happened for you during the event can help relieve some of these feelings of overwhelming vulnerability. With the right support and understanding you can begin to manage your emotions and start the process of healing.
Anxiety can leave you feeling a lack of control, isolated, confused and depressed to name a few. Looking at the source and the triggers can bring about an understanding that can help reduce anxiety. Talking through some of the anxious thoughts and the mechanisms behind them can help alleviate some of those anxious feelings also and looking at how anxiety effects the brain will also give you some more understanding. Techniques can be learned and so help reduce the anxiety again and with this bring back control and calm to your life.
These are some of the areas I work with and I have only mentioned just a few of the aspects of these. More often there can be other complications from the topics I have highlighted
If you feel these are some of your own experiences then please feel free to get in touch. Together we will explore your experiences, your emotions and behaviours while being supported by myself which can bring understanding and clarity. I also believe that beneficial therapy can only be achieved if the relationship between client and therapist feels safe, open and genuine.
Contacting a counsellor is the hardest part. I understand this and will make sure you are supported with care and understanding. I will welcome you into a warm and safe space with a hot or cold drink. I will answer any questions you may have about the process of counselling and give you the time to talk about what brings you into counselling. After our first session you can have some time to think if you want to continue to work with me and take that step into counselling.
Thanks for reading.
Training, qualifications & experience
I trained in Leeds and achieved a Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling. I gained clinical practice experience working for a charity which supported those effected by sexual abuse in childhood and this gave me a real appreciation of people who wanted to face their fears and work through their difficulties.
I have also worked with many clients in my private practice from all walks of life and with many issues to discuss. This include those who have survived a childhood where there was a lack of parental care/support, sexual abuse, living with grief, low self-esteem and lack of confidence, anxiety, OCD, feeling overwhelmed and self-harm.
I have also worked in anger management and with young adults and understand the impacts of living in a world where social media exists and how much importance they can sometimes give their digital self-image. Exams, university choices, peer pressure, relationships and more can all leave a young person feeling overwhelmed. Being young sometimes means we have not yet learnt the skills needed to manage these complicated issues.
I am committed to continuing my professional development by attending further education courses, training days and further reading.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Areas of counselling I deal with
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