Talking to children about Andrew Tate and misogyny: It matters

Recent discussions around figures like Andrew Tate, and more broadly, the radicalisation of young men online, have raised concerns for parents. The new Netflix series Adolescence, co-created by Stephen Graham, explores these very issues, highlighting how young boys can be drawn into harmful ideologies through social media and peer influence.

As a parent, you may have heard your child mention Tate or defend his views on masculinity, women, and success. Rather than shutting down the conversation, it’s important to guide them towards critical thinking and help them separate useful messages (such as self-discipline and ambition) from toxic ones (such as misogyny and dominance).

Step 1: Approach with curiosity, not judgment

In Adolescence, the main character, Jamie, is drawn into toxic online spaces without fully understanding the consequences. Many young boys follow Tate for similar reasons, they’re searching for belonging, strength, and purpose. Instead of immediately condemning their interest, start with open-ended questions:

• “What do you like about him?”
• “What do you think about the way he talks about women?”
• “Do you agree with everything he says?”

This helps your child feel heard while allowing you to gently challenge any harmful beliefs.

Step 2: Teach critical thinking about online influences

Much like in Adolescence, where Jamie is manipulated by online figures, Tate’s social media presence thrives on controversy and engagement. Help your child recognise this by discussing:

• Algorithms and clickbait: Explain that social media pushes extreme content because it generates views.
• Financial motives: Ask, “Do you think Tate really believes everything he says, or is he playing a character to make money?”
• Real-world consequences: “If you repeated some of his views in school or work, how would people react?”

Encouraging this kind of analysis helps your child think independently rather than passively absorbing content.

Step 3: Redefining masculinity

Adolescence explores the dangers of rigid masculinity, boys being told they must be “dominant” to be respected. Talk to your child about healthier versions of masculinity:

• Strength isn’t about control; it’s about emotional intelligence and resilience.
• Confidence doesn’t come from belittling others but from self-awareness and integrity.
• Success isn’t about wealth and power at the expense of others, but about growth and contribution.

Encourage positive male role models who embody ambition without toxicity.

Step 4: Talking about respect and relationships

Ask your child to think critically about Tate’s views on women. Questions like:

• “Would you be OK if someone spoke about your sister/mum/friend this way?”
• “Do you think his views lead to happy, healthy relationships?”
• “What kind of person do you want to be in friendships and relationships?”

By linking the discussion to their personal experiences, they’re more likely to reconsider harmful narratives.

Step 5: Offering positive alternatives

Rather than simply banning content, introduce healthier influences. Encourage:

• Following creators who promote success without misogyny.
• Engaging in hobbies and real-life communities that build confidence and purpose.
• Watching shows like Adolescence, which highlights the dangers of online radicalisation in a way that feels real and relevant to their world.

Final thoughts

Tate’s influence is a symptom of a bigger issue, young people searching for identity and belonging in a digital world. Instead of fear, approach these conversations with curiosity, honesty, and guidance. Keep the dialogue open, and help your child develop the critical thinking skills they need to navigate today’s online culture.