SHOCK! HORROR! 2010 becomes your best year ever!
7th December, 20090 Comments
How would you fancy that to be the headline you would use to describe your year at the end of 2010? Well it can be and you can start making it so right now.
Here we are nearly at the end of 2009. How was it for you? Profitable? Productive? Innovating, or was it stressful, worrying, disastrous? How much are you looking forward to the new year? Regardless of what has happened in the past year we always look to the next one as a time for change, a time for improvement. This is one reason I think why we make new year resolutions. But how often are they just token gestures as part of tradition? Do we really mean them and if not why not? Well one reason might be because of our culture. Today’s culture speaks more to our anxieties and fears than ever before and some of the biggest culprits for causing this are our daily newspapers. For example, let’s look at some of the headlines in today’s (07/12/09) newspapers.
THE SUN -
Toxic Fur Warning! – reporting about concern over some toxic possibilities in the fur on what is being proclaimed as a potential big selling toy this Christmas.
Other big stories in the Sun include “The thin Fu line”, “Meredith’s murder has torn our lives apart”, “Saturday night fear”, “Harmsters”, “6 under Tiger”, “Sex slave sold for £3k” and “Therm warfare”. The good news? According to the Sun there isn’t any.
THE DAILY STAR –
X Factor Stars Fight Night – a report on some bust up between performers on X factor show.
Other major stories include “Guess Who’s off to the states”, “Tiger will confess his sins on Oprah”,.
THE DAILY MIRROR –
We are living a nightmare - a report on the family of murdered Meredith Kercher. Also sharing the headlines is “CUT. Secret’s of Cheryl’s new hair”.
Other major stories include “George rats on TV bosses”, “Dan get scanned”, “Stevie Grrr”, “Mumthing to hide Cameron”.
These three papers are reportedly three of the biggest sellers. The Star being the only one to get an increase in sales. However, elsewhere on the internet I found the statement -
The circulation of all quality national daily and Sunday newspapers fell year on year in October with The Times dropping almost ten per cent.
Now why should this be if these are quality papers? Let’s look at their headlines.
This is what I call juvenile journalism.
THE TIMES –
The world comes together to love the planet – another report on the Copenhagen climate change summit but rather a different approach to the Sun’s “Therm warfare!”. The Mirror reserved their contribution on this major world changing event to 4 column inches on page 24 and the Star avoided it completely.
THE GUARDIAN –
Fourteen days to seal history’s judgement on this generation. Well it didn’t surprise me that the Guardian led with this. In fact it is what I would call a most worthy headline as it is the same as 56 newspapers in 45 countries because of the importance they place on the outcome of that summit.
Now just as the saying goes “We are what we eat” so too, I believe, “we think what we read”. With the majority of people reading the cheap tabloid newspapers it is no wonder there is that sense of doom and gloom that hangs around.
In 2009 the UK has gone through what has been termed as a recession. Earlier in the year it was expressed by various people that there was no real danger of a recession. Instead it only happened because the media claimed it was so. Is this case of self fulfilled prophesies? Did the recession only happen because we said it would because that was what the papers said? Largely I believe that is the case but also just because the press says it is so doesn’t mean it is. How many times have the press been prophets of doom and been wrong? I agree that headlines sell newspapers but why must they always be headlines of bad news? Well the majority of times anyway.
In my line of counselling I am a firm believer in us being masters/mistresses of our own destiny. As long as it is in accordance with law and it hurts no one then we should be able to decide where we want to go in our lives. Doing what we want. But how much are we guided by the prophets of doom and how often are they then proved right because we gave them that chance? Of course one reason why we take so little notice of what we really want is because we either don’t know or are too scared to take that responsibility. Why is this? This can be because of several reasons. Lack of self confidence. Fear of disappointing others. Fear of failure. Fear of success. Now there is no firm way that will guarantee success but I believe there is a way that will greatly reduce any chances of failure. PLANNING. No, this isn’t some clever acronym. It is what it says. Planning. Life is a journey and you wouldn’t start a journey unless all relevant contingencies were planned for. If it looks like rain you take an umbrella. If you don’t know the way you plan the route. So it is in life and so it should be when you are planning your targets for the next year. “Ah, but what if……” I hear you saying. To which I say, ok what if? What if you are going somewhere and you find your way blocked? You replan and go by a different route. What if you break down? You get it fixed. So it is in life. If you really want to get where you are going you will find a way. It isn’t rocket science. You will not listen to the harbingers of doom advising you to beware the ides of March. You will listen to reason. You will decide what is sensible. If it is humanly possible then you can achieve anything. You plan. You prepare. You implement the plan. That’s all it is. We do it all the time in reality. Most of the time unconsciously but we do. So we simply become conscious of the process and implement it for the bigger things in our lives such as losing weight, getting a new job, moving house, anything we want and as for the newspaper headlines we can forget those and write our own.
Have a very happy and a very prosperous 2010.
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