Redefining beauty: The resilience approach to body image

In a world where Instagram filters and magazine covers often set unrealistic standards for beauty, it's easy to feel like we don't measure up. But there's a bright side: the resilience model for body image. It's like a roadmap that helps us navigate the ups and downs of how we feel about our bodies, guiding us towards self-acceptance and confidence.


Understanding what resilience means

The resilience model isn't about erasing every negative thought we have about our bodies. Instead, it's about building up our inner strength to feel good about ourselves, no matter what. It recognises that our relationship with our bodies is complex and influenced by many things, like society's expectations and our own experiences.

Boosting your inner strength

The key to this model is strengthening the way we think and feel about ourselves from the inside out. It's like giving ourselves a big dose of self-compassion and understanding. Self-compassion is a big part of it – it's about treating ourselves with kindness instead of criticism, embracing our bodies as they are, imperfections and all.

Mindfulness is another powerful tool. It's like tuning in to our thoughts and feelings without judging them. When we're mindful, we can respond to negative thoughts with wisdom and compassion, rather than getting caught up in them.

Celebrating diversity and inclusivity

In the resilience model, there's no one-size-fits-all definition of 'beauty'. It's about celebrating our differences – whether it's our body shape, size, or anything else that makes us unique. By embracing diversity, we challenge society's narrow beauty standards and create a world where everyone feels seen and valued.

The resilience model for body image is like a friend who helps us see the beauty in ourselves, just as we are. By building up our inner strength with self-compassion and mindfulness, and celebrating diversity, we can journey towards a positive body image and a healthier relationship with our bodies. So let's take that first step together, embracing ourselves with kindness and confidence, knowing that we're all beautiful in our own way.

Practical steps to improve your relationship with your body:

Embrace body neutrality:

Instead of focusing solely on positive affirmations, aim for body neutrality. This means acknowledging and accepting your body as it is, without assigning value based on its appearance.

Curate your media:

Surround yourself with positive influences by curating your social media feed. Follow accounts that promote body diversity and positivity, and unfollow those that perpetuate unrealistic beauty standards.

Nourish your body:

Shift your focus from appearance to health by prioritising nourishing foods that make you feel good from the inside out. Focus on balanced meals that provide energy and vitality.

Move your body joyfully:

Engage in physical activities that you enjoy and that make you feel good, rather than focusing on exercise solely as a means to change your appearance. Whether it's dancing, hiking, or practising yoga, find movement that brings you joy.

Practice mindful self-care:

Take time for activities that nourish your mind and soul, such as meditation, journaling, or spending time in nature. Cultivate self-compassion and treat yourself with kindness and understanding.

Challenge negative thoughts:

When negative thoughts about your body arise, challenge them with compassion and logic. Remind yourself that your worth is not determined by your appearance, and focus on your strengths and accomplishments.

Remember, building resilience in your relationship with your body is an ongoing process that takes time and patience. Be kind to yourself as you navigate this journey, and know that you are not alone. With perseverance and self-compassion, you can cultivate a positive body image and embrace the beauty of who you are, inside and out.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Counselling Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Laura Gwilt, BSc(Hons), PGDip, Accredited
Birmingham, West Midlands, B18

Laura is an experienced CBT psychotherapist specialising in anxiety disorders, trauma, and eating disorders. With a background in providing support within inpatient hospitals, Laura's commitment to early intervention is fueled by a passion for promoting well-being and resilience.

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