Paul Lipman - MBACP. Accred reg. - Individuals, Couples & Family.
01883345352 / 07843472163
We can all do with a little extra help at one time or another.
I came into counselling following my own experience in 2006, and provide committed support to people of all ages and backgrounds. I can help with most emotional, psychological or relational difficulties, regardless of how extreme or long-standing they are.
My advanced training includes help for: Couples, struggling Parents and those affected by a Traumatic experience or PTSD and which is particularly helpful for those with anxiety, phobias or obsessions. I also have skills in coaching and can help when you wish to cement interpersonal skills, ways of expressing yourself or communicating with others.
If you wish, find out in more detail about how I can help and my own experiences by visiting my website (above) or reading on for further information.
In my work as an Integrative counsellor, I have a caring, down-to-earth and pragmatic approach. I provide a confidential and relaxed environment so you can feel comfortable telling me about your difficulties. In this way, we can problem solve together.
We will explore your experiences, drawing on a wide range of therapies to tailor help that is right for you. Making use of tools and strategies to reduce any symptoms, whilst addressing the underlying causes. Ultimately, this will enable you to feel better and empowered from the change that you can achieve in finding the answers you came for.
I offer a wealth of experience, as well as a calm, patient and sensitive attitude in what can be a time of difficult internal exploration. Although I value the fun side of life, I am very serious about what I do and guiding you in achieving your goals.
While I can't promise outcomes, what I can say from both personal experience and that of my clients', is that with the right help and a good relationship, even the most chronic and seemingly insurmountable problems can be solved.
I know the thought of having counselling can be difficult and also how important it is to find the right counsellor first time around. That’s why if you wish, I am happy to have an initial chat about your difficulties before you decide if you wish to come along to a no obligation session, after which you can decide if think counselling with me will be helpful for you.
Some of the reasons people regularly come for help...
Abuse: Abuse takes many forms not just direct physical or sexual. It can be bullying, the drip drip of being oppressed, controlled or feeling unable to say no because of a fear.
Addiction: When you struggle to cope or function well without "doing" or taking something - a compulsion which you feel unable to control.
Unhealthy or difficult Behaviors: Angry reactions, self- harming, excessive moodiness, emotional eating are examples. It is any behavior which causes you or others difficulties.
Feelings: Anxiety, Depression, Panic, Extreme sadness, Shame, Guilt, Fear and feelings of loss or being lonely.
Obsessions or Phobias: Any fear or repeating pattern of behavior or thinking which reduces your quality of life and can lead to anxiety or panic.
Low self -esteem: Not a lack of confidence. This is a deep seated belief, often without words that you are not good enough and less than others, in some way. (See my article)
Decision making: When you struggle to make even the smaller decisions in your life and can spend time obsessing or become anxious and sometimes feel sad about.
Negative thoughts: For when you get stuck in an internal record of playing negative thoughts about yourself, life or others.
PTSD - Trauma: When you continue to be affected by a past event. Typical symptoms: Anxiety, Flashbacks, Sweats, Dissociation, Heart pounding, extreme fear and experiencing the event again and again. ( More details further down the page)
Couples and Relationships: For those struggling to make their relationship work, separated or needing support through a separation. (Full details on my site)
Parenting and Family issues: Comprehensive help. (Full details on my site)
Sexual matters: For when you are struggling with any aspect of an intimate or sexual relationship.
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a Registered Member of The British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy, on the professional standards authority, accredited register.
I've counselled for National counselling organisations, also helping other health care professionals such as: other counsellors, counsellors in training, those in the NHS and in The Forces, and over the years in my own practice.
- Academic Diploma in Integrative Counselling.
- WPF Certificate in Psycho-dynamic counselling
- Child development
- Relational Development and Personal Communication
- Trauma and recovery
- Person Centred, Transctional Analysis, Gestalt and Relational counselling.
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
- Depression, anxiety, anger, self-harm, eating disorders, attachment disorders, loss and grief, phobias, panic, sexuality, abuse, self harm, obsessions, addiction, post traumatic stress, Bipolar and Asperger syndrome.
- Bereavement Counselling.
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Trauma. (PTSD)
Specialist training by Babette Rothschild, one of the worlds foremost leading experts and authors in treating Trauma and PTSD. This means I understand the Autonomic Nervous System which is vital in choosing safe approaches.
BACP Accredited - Couples , Relationships & Communication
See my website for full details..
Anger Programs/ Courses
I have run Police funded Anger management courses for a Southern based counselling organisation.
BACP Accredited - Creativity
Working with: Arts, imagery, visualization, role play, body language and mindfulness techniques.
Other (experiential training)
- Group Therapy / Psycho educational workshops
- Gestalt systemic and family constellation therapy.
- Gestalt experiential therapy
- Gestalt Group facilitation and coaching
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Bipolar disorder/Manic depression
- Borderline personality disorder
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Internet addiction
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Relationship issues
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
SEXUAL, PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE FROM CHILDHOOD
An area of particular interest for me and in which I have specialised trauma training, is: helping when you continue to suffer from a long held difficult or traumatic experience; such as living with sexual, physical or emotional abuse from childhood.
Any of these can lead to: angry reactions that come from nowhere, depression, low self esteem,physical illness and sometimes a permanent state of anxiety or self harming. You may also find keeping a relationship difficult.
COUPLES & RELATIONSHIPS
Talking with someone trained can really make a difference. Knowing yourself and your partner more deeply and combining this with new communication and listening skills can completely change how you experience each other and the nature of your relationship.
I come with the skills, experience and knowledge to help you work through whatever is difficult and find a way forward that is right for both of you.
SPECIALISED "TRAUMA" TRAINING - Are you affected by a past event, series of events or the drip , drip of a stressful situation?
When you continue to be affected by a past event, no matter how long ago, you may be suffering from Post Traumatic stress or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
A trauma can occur when you have seen, heard or been involved with:an event, series of events or the drip drip effect of being trapped in a situation where repeated "smaller" events have added up to a trauma. Sometimes the body has suffered a trauma and which you might not label a trauma.
Typical symptoms can include:
- Panic attacks
- Generalised anxiety (often continuous)
- Dissociation( when you focus out and lose tough with whats happening now)
- Memories, thoughts and feelings triggered by unconnected: events, noises, smells and .
- Sweating, heart racing, numbness
The incorrect help is not only ineffective, it can also be extremely dangerous and lead to individuals being retraumatised and locked into a deepening pattern of symptoms.
Situated in a peaceful location half a mile from Caterham main line station.
Hayes/ Bromley (BR2)
The Strawberry House Practice, which is situated 100 meters from Hayes main line station and gives you a modern and confidential space.
I can offer early morning, daytime, and evening appointments at both Caterham and Bromley and also on - Sundays between 8am - 4pm.
No obligation first session, gives you the opportunity to decide if you wish to continue.
Individuals Caterham - £45 session
Individials Bromley - £50 session
Couples - £75 / 90 minutes
Couples - £55 / 1 hour
I am committed to providing effective and safe help and in achieving that I:
- Retain Professional indemnity insurance
- Abide by and go beyond the BACP Code of ethics
- Commit to ongoing professional development, keeping up with the latest advances and knowledge.
- Collaborate with other professionals if helpful, without breaking confidentiality
- Have professional clinical supervision to ensure I offer effective therapy and which is a BACP requirement.
- Never help outside my area of competence or experience.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
I offer Monday to Friday early morning, daytime and evening appointments at Caterham (CR3) and Bromley (BR2) and on Sundays between 8am - 4pm.
Types of client