Paul Lipman - MBACP. Accred reg. - Individuals, Couples & Family.
01883345352 / 07843472163
Welcome as we can all do with a little extra help at some point in our lives and I remember how difficult asking and choosing a counsellor can be. That’s why I'm always happy to hear from you and we can discuss what you need, before deciding if you wish to meet.
People seem to find me warm and easy to talk to. Perhaps because I have always approached others difficulties with compassion and counselling in a positive and “down-to-earth” way. What you also get is a normal and genuine relationship and a calm and confidential space in which we can safely solve your difficulties together.
How i can help
I offer both short-term focused counselling and in-depth therapy and over the years, both in private practice and alongside in National Counselling organisations have helped people of all ages, genders and backgrounds, with all kinds of difficulties and come with a wealth of experience, which I can use to help you....
...whether you are struggling with feelings, to find an answer or wishing to change something about yourself. And I also help Couples finding it hard to make their relationship work and families having a difficult time. Also with specialist training in “Trauma”, those who continue to suffer from past events.
If you wish. there is much more about me and what I do on my website.
Over time, I imagine there is little I haven’t heard or sat alongside my clients with and therefore I understand the struggle between wanting to get back to normal as quickly as possible and how difficult it can be to share those parts of yourself and your life that are causing you problems.
That’s why you have all the time and space you need to tell me what you wish when ready and whilst I will do all I can in every session to help you move forward, I balance this with, approaching sensitively and at your pace, gently encouraging when needed, what may be difficult to explore - as it’s at these times you are most likely to get what you came for.
I have a very broad and in-depth knowledge and am trained in many approaches and this enables me to tailor the help I offer because everyone is unique. When helpful we can also work creatively and I can share new skills which will help speed counselling, cement what you gain from our time together and you can use to make every-day life easier.
Whatever you come for, I offer you committed help. So you not only find your solutions as quickly as possible but leave, having had a positive experience and benefiting long into the future.
If you wish, you are very welcome to contact me to ask any questions and tell me about the help you need, before deciding what to do or to arrange a no obligation session at which: you have the opportunity to tell me about your difficulties, ask any questions and I will explain how I can help. You can then decide if you think counselling with me is likely to be helpful and if you wish to continue.
I help regularly with
- Abuse (physical, emotional or sexual)
- Difficult feelings such as: Anxiety, Generalised Anxiety, Panic, Depression, Shame, Stress, Fear, Extreme Sadness, Guilt or Loss..
- Childhood issues surfacing in adult life
- Deep-seated lack of confidence, low self esteem, shyness, passivity or inability to say "no"
- Disturbing images, flashbacks or memories
- Divorce & Separation
- Decision making / procrastination
- Phobias and obsessions.
- Post-traumatic stress - when you are affceted by a past event.
- Parenting and Family issues
- Physical ills, such as: headaches and stomach problems with no medical diagnosis.
- Relationship difficulties
- Sexual anxiety
- Work related issues
Training, qualifications & experience
I am a Registered Member of The British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy, on
the professional standards authority, accredited register.
I've counselled for National counselling organisations, also helping other health care professionals such as: other counsellors, counsellors in training, those in the NHS and in The Forces, and over the years in my own practice.
- Academic Diploma in Integrative Counselling.
- WPF Certificate in Psycho-dynamic counselling
- Child development
- Relational Development and Personal Communication
- Trauma and recovery
- Person Centred, Transctional Analysis, Gestalt and Relational approaches.
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
- Depression, anxiety, anger, self-harm, eating disorders, attachment disorders, loss and grief, sexuality, abuse, self harm, obsessions, addiction, post traumatic stress, Bipolar and Asperger syndrome.
- Bereavement Counselling.
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Trauma. (PTSD)
Specialist training by Babette Rothschild, one of the worlds foremost leading experts and authors in treating Trauma and PTSD. This means I understand the Autonomic Nervous System which is vital in choosing safe approaches.
BACP Accredited - Couples , Relationships & Communication
See my website for full details..
Anger Programs/ Courses
I have run Police funded Anger management courses for a Southern based counselling organisation.
BACP Accredited - Creativity
Working with: Arts, imagery, visualization, role play, body language and mindfulness techniques.
Other (experiential training)
- Group Therapy / Psycho educational workshops
- Gestalt systemic and family constellation therapy.
- Gestalt experiential therapy
- Gestalt Group facilitation and coaching
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Bipolar disorder/Manic depression
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Internet addiction
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Relationship issues
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
Other areas of counselling I deal with
SEXUAL, PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE FROM CHILDHOOD
An area of particular interest for me and in which I have specialised trauma training, is: helping when you continue to suffer from a long held difficult or traumatic experience; such as living with sexual, physical or emotional abuse from childhood.
Any of these can lead to: angry reactions that come from nowhere, depression, low self esteem,physical illness and sometimes a permanent state of anxiety or self harming. You may also find keeping a relationship difficult.
COUPLES & RELATIONSHIPS
Talking with someone trained can really make a difference. Knowing yourself and your partner more deeply and combining this with new communication and listening skills can completely change how you experience each other and the nature of your relationship.
I come with the skills, experience and knowledge to help you work through whatever is difficult and find a way forward that is right for both of you.
This is coaching for those who don't need counseling but struggle to make and keep the relationships they want. By combining both therapeutic and coaching approaches I can help you:present yourself in a way that others can see the qualities you want them to see, for you to become confident in any social or work setting and develop the skills to know how to handle any conversation.
Situated in a peaceful and private location half a mile from Caterham main line station.
Hayes/ Bromley (BR2)
The Strawberry House Practice, which is situated 100 meters from Hayes main line station and gives you a modern and confidential space.
I can offer early morning, daytime, and evening appointments at both Caterham and Bromley and also on
Sundays between 8am - 4pm.
No obligation first session, gives you the opportunity to decide if you wish to continue.
initial assessment session £25.
Individuals - £45.session
Couples - £75 / 90 minutes.
Couples - £55 / 1 hour
I try and make counseling available to as wide a range a people who need it as possible. Therefore when not taken and needed, I have a few reduced fee appointment times at Caterham.
SPECIALISED "TRAUMA" training, including "POST TRAUMATIC AND ACUTE STRESS DISORDER".
Inside ourselves we have what is called an "Autonomic Nervous System" and one of its roles is to silently run in the background to keep us safe. It is the system that floods our bodies with hormones in readiness for "Fight or Flight" when we hear, see or experience an event that could be life threatening. The ANS is ahead of our thinking and in fact it takes over. We don't think to act we just do. An example would be if ever you have swatted a fly from your face ot suddenly stopped at the edge of a roadside curb without remembering you made that choice.
For some unfortunately their system becomes very sensitive and long after the event because the body remembers and an unconnected noise, smell, event or action can re trigger the system. Again flooding the body with hormones and for many they re experience the past as though it is happening today.
That is why specialist training is vital when you have suffered from a Trauma. Most therapies invite you into your feelings however for those suffering from acute forms of trauma this can be dangerous. Not only can the person be re truamatised but each time they are, the event is wired deeper into the bodies memory.
I have had specialised training which although designed to help those specifically with Post Traumatic stress and Acute stress and enables me to work safely with clients it is equally valuable with any condition that requires the person to be able to regulate and control their bodies response as sometimes with extreme Anxiety, Abuse and Anger for example.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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I offer Monday to Friday early morning, daytime and evening appointments at Caterham (CR3) and Bromley (BR2) and on Sundays between 8am - 4pm.
Types of client