Heather May. BACP Registered. Diploma Couples Therapy.
I am a humanistic and soulful counsellor working near the Fiveways area of Brighton. I am also a qualified couple therapist and clinical supervisor. I believe in the healing power of the therapeutic relationship and you are likely to find me an approachable fellow human being. I welcome each person as an individual and encourage you to determine the way and the pace at which we work.
We can all have times in our lives when we need support to face current difficulties, or to talk though issues from the past. Deciding to start counselling can be a really courageous commitment, and can also be one of the most generous gifts we give ourselves.
Working with the right counsellor can enable us to face those aspects of ourselves that we might have feared, or which have perhaps caused us profound unhappiness in our lives and exploring such feelings in a safe space can help us develop more meaningful and fulfilling lives.
If you would like to book an initial session to get a sense of what you might feel like working with me, please do get in touch. I will do everything I can to put you at ease.
Within the past fourteen years I have supported people who have worked on a wide range of issues. These have included;
• Low self esteem
• Identity crisis
• Relationship issues, sexuality, intimacy
• Abuse, trauma
• Loss, bereavement, dying, suicide
• Work related issues
• Loss of meaning or direction
• LGBTQ issues
Crisis in relationships can often leave partners feeling stuck or powerless to find a way though the chaos.
In times of stress and conflict in our relationships we can easily find ourselves revisiting the same conflicts or experiencing the same patterns of what happens in our arguments, and in our culture where there is less wider community support for relationships and more emphasis on the nuclear family, relationships and what is expected of them can come under enormous strain.
Often the conflict that erupts with what can feel like extraordinary pain, and which may touch into feelings such as an acute longing to be heard and understood by the other becomes a power struggle, and this struggle that often gets set up at such times can be too much to bear and couples may separate.
In embarking on couples therapy and by trusting that their relationship can be held in a safe containing space, couples can begin to explore the depth of feelings and responses that may have given rise to such painful conflict and can begin to explore some empathic understanding.
It is important to explore the patterns and to find ways of coping from day to day when the struggle feels overwhelming, but it is invariably by taking time to paradoxically go deeper into the feelings and letting what has to die, die that the relationship can emerge into a new and much more fulfilling place.
Please do call me if you and your partner are interested in an initial session of couple therapy.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Training, qualifications & experience
BA (Hons) Social Sciences (Open University)
Tavistock Certificate in Applied Systemic theory.
PG DIP Person Centred Counselling (University of Brighton)
Advanced Certificate in Couple Counselling (Time2 Relate)
Diploma in Couple Therapy using the Arts (Time2Relate)
Certificate in Supervision with soul (Re-Vision)
I am a registered member of BACP, and as well as in my established private practice, I have worked at Brighton Women's centre and for some years at Brighton & Hove LGBT Switchboard’s counselling service.
I have extensive experience of working with people who feel alienated and marginalised in our society including working with people who identify as LGBTQI .
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
Individual sessions cost £45 for 50 mins
Couple sessions cost £70 for 60 mins
Introductory meeting with individuals £15 for 30 mins
Concessionary places are also sometimes available. Please do ask about lower cost sessions.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
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Daytime availability and some weekday evenings.
Types of client
Supervision & training
I view supervision as the crucible or container where the therapy work can be transformed.View supervision profile