Dee Smart - Couples & Family Therapist Reg. MBACP
Smart Endeavours Relationship & Family Therapy
Norreys Avenue - (Free Parking)
07903 823715 - (text only)
Hi, my name is Dee and I'm an experienced Relate Practitioner specialising in relationship and family therapy. I am also a counselling trainer and coach.
A couple relationship brings two separate and unique individuals together who have different ways of viewing the world developed by their cultural influences, religious beliefs, education, aspirations and parental conditioning. These values and beliefs are bound to clash causing misinterpretations and assumption-making as time goes on. My role is to help both individuals understand each other's perceptions of their reality.
I work with issues such as pre-marital counselling, communication problems, sexual issues, extra-marital affairs and infidelity, sexuality, gender roles, entrenched positions, cultural and religious differences, separation, divorce, anxiety, depression, stress, panic attacks, trauma, rape, domestic violence and abuse, parenting skills, anger management, self-harm and many other issues...
MY WAY OF WORKING
As a Relationship & Family Specialist, I work with:
- Family Members
- Children & Young People
- Trainee Counsellors
Systemic Therapy explores how individuals operate within the many 'systems' they have in their lives e.g. couple relationships, families, friends, work groups etc. We do not live in a vacuum, we are relational beings and every relationship we have may impact us either positivity or negativity, and is ever changing.
I integrate a range of therapeutic approaches to enable you to reach conclusions about your own life and find your voice. Every individual I see is valued unconditionally, as each will have their own individual story and perception which has played a major role.
During arguments each person uses past examples of their partners ‘bad’ behaviour as ammunition whenever a mistake is made thus continuing the cycle of distrust, especially if there has been an affair or infidelity they are trying to overcome, causing an impasse. Betrayal of the couple relationship can be considered fundamental with infidelities and affairs. Betrayals may not always involve a sexual connection with another person; internet porn, ‘sexting’ or close emotional relationships are considered just as painful to many partners.
Children see and hear everything, they may not overtly comment to this effect but the behaviour they witness is teaching them how to deal with conflict, and they will mimic their role models. Differing parenting styles is another recurrent theme in couples counselling and there are tried and tested techniques and strategies that will enable parents to tweak and compromise their individual style in order to demonstrate a more united front for the health and well-being of their children. Coaching tends to help couples in this area.
Domestic Violence and Abuse
Sometimes relationships can become more volatile in nature, with one or both partners unable to control their anger due to built up resentment of unresolved issues. This may develop into controlling behaviours such as verbal, emotional or physical abuse and couples can become trapped in a dysfunctional and sometimes co-dependent relationship of control, guilt and fear.
If both individuals are willing to engage in the therapeutic process and are able to take responsibility and accountability for their own actions then it is possible for a relationship to be brought back from the brink of despair.
Some couples complain about having different sex drives, or their partner may want to experiment with more ‘kinky’ sex toys or fetishes. Perhaps one partner would like to explore ‘role-play’ scenarios and fantasies that they’d like to share with their partner. Or perhaps the couple have ‘gotten out of the habit’ of love-making and now just feel awkward talking about sex or having any type of intimacy.
All of these issues and others can be explored openly and honestly both individually and collaboratively, within couple counselling. I am trained to coach you into becoming closer sexually if that’s what you both want for your relationship.
A Way Forward:
I provide a safe and confidential space where thoughts and feelings can be freely expressed openly and honestly without judgement which allows couples, families and individuals to fully 'hear' themselves and/or each other, sometimes for the first time in a long time.
More often than not, friends and family have their own agenda because they too have invested in your issue, relationship or life. As a Relationship Therapist, the only agenda I have is to give you the best service I possibly can, individually, collectively and ethically.
Training, qualifications & experience
Relate Practitioner Certification
PG Dip Relationship Therapy
PQ Dip Counselling Children & Adolescents
PG Cert Supervision - Completes 2018
PG Cert Pastoral Studies
BA HONS Theological & Pastoral Studies
Pastoral Counselling (upon request)
- Family Systems
- Solution-focused / Brief Relationship Counselling
- Mental Health & Couple Counselling
- Counselling with a Sexual Focus
- Domestic Violence & Abuse
- Substance Misuse and the Couple
- Working with Relationship Breakdown
- Separation & Divorce
- Child Development
- Child Protection & Safeguarding
- Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse
- Impact of Sexual Trauma on Relationship
- Gender & Sexual Identity
- Bereavement & Loss
- Suicidal Risk & Support
- Disordered Personalities
- Mindfulness in the Relationship
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Bipolar disorder/Manic depression
- Child related issues
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Internet addiction
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
Other areas of counselling I deal with
- Issues related to Religion and Beliefs
- Differences in Cultural Value Systems
- Clashing Parenting Styles
- Gender Roles and Identity
- Generational Influences e.g. Parents, Grandparents etc
Photos & videos
All Fees are Negotiable
£60 - Couples Counselling (60 minute session - weekly)
£75 - Family Group (90 minute session - fortnightly)
£45 - Adult Counselling (50 minute session - weekly
£30 - Young People (50 minute session - weekly)
£30 - Trainee Counsellors (50 minute session - weekly)
Initial Consultations are 90 minutes duration
- Please contact me personally for fees regarding Children and Young People (under 18yrs)
- Sessions can be open-ended or short-term
- Enhanced DBS
- Concessions are available for benefits claimants (documented)
- Payments are made a week in advance by BACS or in cash
If you are happy with what you've read so far and you feel that I might be able to help then please;
- Just send me a text message with your telephone number or send me an email with your telephone number requesting an initial consultation, and I will respond via email to set up an introductory call.
- In this call, I will ask for the basics of your concerns/ issues, just so I have an idea as to whether I am the right person for you.
- We can then arrange a day and time that is right for you for an Initial Consultation Appointment (see below).
- If you are happy to continue with me after the 90-minute Initial Consultation, the sessions will continue as outlined above
- We will also discuss a short collaborative contract so that we are all aware of how we will be working together.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Daytime hours and Evenings
Types of client