Danielle Tolner Registered MBACP
07827 224 898
Welcome to my profile. My name is Danielle and I’m really looking forward to working with you.
I am an Integrative Therapist working mainly as a Counsellor in schools and I specialise in attachment, anxiety and identity disorders in young people. I can offer an alternative to the long wait at C.A.M.H.S (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services) and can offer time- limited or open- ended, face- to- face work.
Free Introductory Session.
Approaching counselling can be daunting and I aim to make this process easier. I would like to invite you for a free exploratory session in which I can explain the way I work, you can ask any questions that you may have and discover whether I am the right Counsellor for you. If you are the parent or carer of a young person under 18, I want to reassure you that I’m more than happy to meet with you at this initial meeting to demystify the counselling process, although the body of any counselling session would remain confidential.
How I work
The principles of Person- Centred Counselling are at the core of my practice, with its emphasis on the quality of the counselling relationship. I provide a warm, safe space, in which I will work alongside you at your own pace, as you explore what is bothering you. I integrate training in Transactional Analysis (T.A) to offer a deeper understanding of relationships and your patterns of relating and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Mindfulness, to offer an additional array of practical techniques to address depression and anxiety, which you are welcome to try out in the safety of the counselling room. In all of my practice I am guided by the ethics of the B.A.C.P: The British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapists, a professional body to which I belong, as a registered member. I also belong to its C.C.Y.P (children and young people division) and am fully insured. I regularly attend Child Protection Training and am enhanced C.R.B checked.
Working with Young People
My main area of expertise is in working with young people, something I have been doing for the past ten years in a variety of settings, five of those as a Counsellor in schools. Adolescence is a time of flux and I want to help you navigate what can be a confusing process. Whether you are struggling to manage anxiety levels as exams approach, or struggling with your self –image, issues of identity or sexuality; whether you are coping with bullying, loss, bereavement, or difficulties in relationships at home or at school; whether you are feeling angry, depressed, overwhelmed, out of control, or struggling to cope; through the counselling process, I can help you make sense of what you are experiencing and support you in a warm, safe, confidential space.
Aswell as achieving a Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling, which integrated Person- centred training with Transactional Analysis and C.B.T, I have consolidated my knowledge and training in T.A with the ‘Introduction to Transactional Analysis’ (T.A 101) and ‘The Foundation Year’. I have extended my C.B.T training by attending a workshop on ‘Child- Centered C.B.T: incorporating play- imagery and metaphor in children‘. I have trained with Addaction addiction charity and BeatBullying, ‘Show racism the Red Card!’, Barnado’s R. U. Safe team, (who support vulnerable young people), Papyrus (suicide prevention in young people) The Child Bereavement Trust and with Place2Be:‘ A Day with Steve Biddulph’. Steve Biddulph is the author of books such as ‘Raising Boys’ and ‘Raising Girls’.
Through my work in schools, for the past three years I have run an Anti- Bullying group, contributed to the schools diversity policy, represented Buckinghamshire Schools at Stonewall’s ‘Education For All’ National Conference last July and in March 2015, presented at ‘The Third Preventing Bullying Conference for Secondary Schools’.
Working with Adults
In addition to offering counselling to young people from age 11-24, I can also offer counselling to adults, especially those involved in Education, whether as parents, employees, students or counselling trainees. Having worked in Education for the past ten years, I am aware of the particular stresses involved in this field.
Working with grief, in particular after the loss of a child.
Since completing befriender training in 2006, I have also volunteered as a befriender for SANDS (Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Charity). As a bereaved parent, I understand this very particular experience of loss and can support both parents and siblings through the grieving process.
Availability and cost of counselling
The availability of counselling is important to me. Normally, my sessions last 50 minutes and cost £40, however, I offer a discount on my fees to £25 for counselling trainees and those on low incomes. Accessibility is equally important and I understand that it is not always possible for you to travel. I can offer counselling after school hours in your home (within a half hour radius of my home) or my home, between 4:00-6.30pm (with some flexibility) and in my home on Fridays from 1pm, or Saturday mornings, 10am -1pm. My counselling space is on the ground floor, with a very low step to negotiate and I have available free parking outside.
I can offer telephone counselling on occasion, if you are unable to physically attend a session, but I can also offer telephone counselling once we have met for several sessions. In most cases, face- to- face counselling works best, but I understand that it is sometimes not possible and I aim to meet your need.
I hope I have gone some way in answering any potential questions, but if there is anything you would like clarified, or if there is anything else you would like to know, please don’t hesitate to contact me, either by phone, text or email and I will get back to you promptly. As I live in a rural area, text or email is the most reliable means of communication.
Training, qualifications & experience
- 2006 - SANDS Befriender Training
- 2006 –CPCAB: Certificate in Counselling Studies
- 2009 –ITA Institute of Transactional Analysis: T.A.101.
- 2011 – C.P.C.A.B: Diploma in Therapeutic Integrative Counselling
- 2012 - T.A Works: Transactional Analysis Foundation Learning
- 2013 - BACP Register Certificate of Proficiency
Recent Additional Training/CPD
- 2011- How Attachment Theory affects behaviour.
- 2011- Domestic Violence/ Impact on Child Welfare.
- 2011/12/13- Addaction: Drug & Alcohol Awareness in Young People
- 2014- Sexual Exploitation of Young People and Overview of the ‘R. U. Safe?’ service.
- 2014- A day with Steve Biddulph- ‘Being Human’
- 2015- Child centered CBT: metaphor and imagery in children aged 7-11.
- 2015- Child Bereavement UK: adolescence and bereavement.
- 2015- Papyrus: working with young people to prevent suicide.
- 2016- Nick Luxmore: Young People and Sexuality
- 2016- C.A.M.Hs: Eating Disorders in Young People
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Asperger's syndrome
- Child related issues
- Eating disorders
- Family issues
- Gender dysphoria
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Passive aggressive behaviour
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Additional Sessions to address Exam Stress
In addition to working with generalised anxiety, I can also offer tailored therapy for exam stress.
This half term, I am offering morning or afternoon sessions at my reduced rate for students with upcoming exams. This can be on an individual basis, or in pairs with a friend. This would consist of two sessions:
- Session 1: an exploration of what makes you anxious, the biological response+ introductory relaxation technique.
- Session 2: practical strategies to address anxiety around revision and sitting exams, extended relaxation technique
Shorter, condensed sessions are also available.
I have worked with a number of students suffering from chronic anxiety to help them minimise their anxiety levels, enabling them to maintain school attendance, sit exams and achieve their potential and thereby expand their life chances and I would like to do the same for you!
Feel free to contact me for more details or to book sessions.
£40- 50 minutes; £25- for counselling students and those on low incomes.
"Thank you, Danielle, I've got my boy back"
'..I am so pleased I made that call to you; from the outset you have been extremely kind and understanding. We have all been on a bit of a learning curve over the last few months and hopefully we can now move on with more insight, understanding and confidence...'
From Young People:
" You get me" 'I feel more able to cope' 'talking about things has just helped' 'I feel better in myself and more confident'
'It's helped me with social issues with friends and family and helped me figure out my true emotions.'
'..I have better control over things, stress and how I'm thinking about things...'
'I have found the coping with anger techniques useful...I have learnt a lot and I am very grateful for all the help I have received.'
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Term time: Mon- Thurs: 16:30- 18:30; Fri: 13:00- 17:00; Sat: 10:00-14:00 November onwards: Mon- Thurs: 10:00- 18:30; Fri & Sat as above.
Types of client