All relationships will come up against conflict, no matter how perfect they appear to be on the outside. Contrary to popular belief, it is rarely the conflict itself that causes difficulties in a relationship, but the way you deal with it.
What doesn’t work:
There are several tactics that you may use to try and deal with conflict that simply lead to further conflict. You may find yourself threatening or blaming your partner to make them see things your way.
Alternatively you may shut down, refusing to deal with the situation, or complying with everything your partner says to avoid the issue. The trouble with all of these tactics is that they fail tackle the underlying issue – meaning the conflict is never truly resolved.
What does work:
1. Having intent to learn
Conflict occurs when both parties feel differently about a situation. While it is tempting to look at the conflict as a ‘win/lose’ situation, try to view it as an opportunity to learn. Win-win resolution…