What is the long-term impact of divorce on children?

Divorce can be a challenging and emotionally charged experience for all parties involved, especially when children are part of the equation. The long-term impact of divorce on children is a matter of great concern for many parents. However, couples counselling can be a powerful tool to help manage the emotional and mental needs of children and equip parents with effective communication strategies.


In this article, we will explore how couples counselling can mitigate the impact of divorce on children and provide guidance on fostering a healthy environment for their emotional well-being.

Understanding the impact

Research consistently highlights that divorce can have a lasting impact on children, influencing their emotional and psychological well-being into adulthood. Common reactions include anxiety, depression, and behavioural issues.

However, it's important to note that not all children experience the same effects, and many factors, including age, personality, and the level of conflict during the divorce, can contribute to the variation in outcomes.

The role of couples counselling

Couples counselling can play a pivotal role in minimising the negative consequences of divorce on children. Here's how:

Promoting healthy co-parenting

Couples counselling can help parents establish a cooperative co-parenting relationship. Learning effective communication skills, conflict resolution, and collaborative decision-making can create a stable environment for children, even in the aftermath of divorce.

Understanding children's perspectives

Therapists can guide couples in understanding the emotional needs of their children at different developmental stages. Recognising and validating their feelings can help parents navigate the challenges of divorce more empathetically.

Creating consistency

Consistency is crucial for children during times of upheaval. Couples counselling can aid in developing consistent routines between two households, minimising disruptions and providing a sense of stability for the children.

Effective communication

The way parents communicate with each other and with their children significantly influences how they cope with divorce. Couples counselling helps parents refine their communication skills, fostering an atmosphere of openness and honesty.

Educating parents

Parents undergoing divorce need to educate themselves on the potential impact of divorce on their children. This involves gaining insight into age-appropriate ways to discuss the situation, being attuned to signs of distress, and fostering an environment where children feel comfortable expressing their emotions.

Addressing children's questions

Children often have questions about divorce that can be challenging for parents to answer. Couples counselling can provide guidance on age-appropriate responses, helping parents navigate these conversations with sensitivity and honesty. It's crucial to avoid placing blame on either parent and to reassure children that they are loved and supported by both.

Moving forward

Couples counselling equips parents with the tools needed to build a co-parenting relationship that prioritises the well-being of their children. As families adapt to their new dynamics, ongoing counselling can be a valuable resource for addressing evolving challenges and ensuring that the emotional needs of the children are consistently met.

Divorce is undoubtedly a difficult journey for families, but couples counselling offers a pathway towards minimising the long-term impact on children.

By fostering healthy communication, understanding children's perspectives, and committing to effective co-parenting, couples can create an environment that supports the emotional and mental well-being of their children, paving the way for a brighter and more resilient future.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Counselling Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Ian Stockbridge is the founder and lead counsellor at Hope Therapy and Counselling Services. 

As an experienced Counsellor, Ian recognised a huge societal need for therapeutic services that were often not being met. As such the 'Hope Agency' was born and its counselling team now offers counselling and therapeutic support throughout the UK.

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