Kathy Garton

You’re done with the bullshit.. the eggshells, the blame, the emotional chaos.. It’s time to name it, feel it, and move the fuck on.. to find your voice, trust your gut, and start living life on your own damn terms.

I work online with individuals (13+), couples & family members who are done second-guessing themselves after years of toxic, abusive, or narcissistic relationships.. whether that’s with a partner, ex, or family.

Are you stuck in a toxic or narcissistic relationship?  Maybe it’s with a partner, ex, or family member. Or maybe you’re in a relationship where past trauma keeps showing up...fueling the same shitty arguments, emotional shutdowns, or reactive patterns...even though you both want things to work.

Does this sound familiar?

• Walking on eggshells, terrified of saying no
• Keeping constantly busy so you don’t have to feel
• Feeling unsure who the fuck you even are anymore
• Struggling with anxiety, depression, PTSD/CPTSD, sleep issues, chronic pain, migraines, stomach problems, or autoimmune conditions.

These can all be signs of trauma, and they don't have to define you.

Why I get it

I grew up in a narcissistic family. I know firsthand how deep this shit cuts...and I believe appropriate self-disclosure matters. Sometimes it helps to know your therapist really gets it.

I’m straight-talking, honest and actively involved in sessions. Expect:

• Honesty & validation
• Emotional support
• Reframing & perspective shifts
• Parenting support if needed
• And yes, I swear (sometimes only “WTF?!” will do)
   

Couples Counselling for Trauma, Toxic Patterns & Healing

Maybe one, or both, of you experienced childhood abuse, neglect, or toxic relationships that still impact how you connect today. That trauma doesn’t just magically fuck off and it affects how you argue, connect and trust.

Couples therapy with me is a chance to:

• Understand yourselves and each other on a deeper level
• Rebuild trust (if possible)
• Break toxic cycles
• Decide if staying together is truly right

Couples counselling takes commitment, honesty, and courage. But the payoff is worth it: healthier connection, stronger boundaries, and clarity about your future... together or apart.

I help couples:

• Recognise trauma responses playing out in your relationship
• Spot toxic patterns without shame
• Understand how you trigger each other
• Break cycles & build healthier boundaries
  Improve communication
• Decide honestly whether to grow together... or part respectfully

I don’t take sides. I witness how you relate in real time and support both of you toward a healthier future. This work isn’t about blame, it’s about honesty, healing, and choosing what’s next.

Joint Work (for 2 family members)

Maybe one of you stayed in contact with your parents while the other went No Contact.  Maybe you both stepped away.

Rebuilding a healthy relationship is fucking hard.  

If you grew up in a family where healthy boundaries did not exist, it would be a bloody miracle if you automatically knew what they were, or how the fuck to use them!

Joint work gives you space to slow things down, under what's really going on, improve communication, & build something more balances, respectful, & genuinely supportive; together.

Couples & Joint Family Foundation Sessions:

The foundation process is to help you decide whether ongoing therapy is right for you.

Whether you’re working through relationship difficulties as a couple, or trying to navigate things with a family member, we start with the same foundation process.

Initial joint session:

We’ll talk together about what’s happening, what’s brought you to therapy and what you each hope might change.

I’ll ask questions to help me understand the dynamics and patterns between you, and what may be keeping you stuck.

We’ll then decide together whether continuing feels right.

Individual session each:

You’ll each have your own 1:1 session, giving you space to talk openly about what’s going on for you.

What you share individually is confidential from your partner or family member.

Final joint session:

We’ll come back together to review what’s come up across the foundation sessions and decide whether further joint therapy would be helpful.

We’ll decide together whether ongoing couples or family therapy feels right and whether it would be helpful for you

Therapy with me

You don’t have to keep living like this. With the right support, you’ll feel some relief almost straight away.

Yes... it’s bloody scary to share honestly. Healing may be the hardest and bravest thing you ever do, but it’s worth it. You've already done the hard bit, survived the abuse/toxic behaviour. Together, we’ll explore new perspectives, boundaries (including contact, low/no contact, and forgiveness), and the tough decisions you’ve been avoiding.

As a single parent, I had to make what felt like impossible decisions for me and my now adult child... so I know how heavy that shit can feel. You’ll have my full support on your healing journey, which is always unique to you.

You don't need to have all your shit together to start therapy.  You just need a willingness to show up.  I'll support you to figure out the rest.

I have trained in Narcissistic Abuse, Trauma, Abuse & Self Harm/Risk. I have specific training to work with Adults, Teens, Couples & Family Systems. I have lived experience of Narcissistic Abuse & family issues.

Practical Info

Sessions available: Mon, Tue, Thu, Fri (11am,1pm & 3pm)

Format:  Online or phone only.

Questions or ready to book an initial session?

Email me:  kathy@kathygarton.co.uk
 

• Complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD)
• Family Estrangement
• Going No Contact
• Scapegoat/Invisible Child

• Initial individual session £75; allowing potential new clients the time needed to ask questions & get an idea for how I work. 
• Ongoing Individual sessions £150

• Couples & Joint Family Foundation package £745 (pre-ongoing sessions, see details below)
• Ongoing Couple & Joint Family sessions £250

Couples & Joint Therapy Foundation package £745

• Initial joint session: £250
• Individual sessions: £150 each
• Final joint session: £250
• Pay £495 upfront for the remaining 3 sessions, saving £55.

10% discount available when ongoing sessions are paid for in advance.

I do work with some overseas clients.  Please let me know asap if you are requesting support from me, but living abroad.  I can generally work with clients living in Europe, but I will need to check counselling regulations for where you live.

Unfortunately, I cannot work with clients living in the US, due to US counselling regulations.