Bogumila Malinowska
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About me
I am an experienced, accredited counsellor/psychotherapist and mindfulness/Zen teacher.
I have worked with a range of clients for some years on a wide variety of issues, including:
- couples and relationship counselling
- mediation and communication
- struggles with trust and anger after infidelity
- young people's struggles
- work-related stress
- trauma-related symptoms
- addiction to alcohol, drugs and sex
- traumatic experiences
I can help you deal with
- triggers
- communication problems
- anger management
- stress and anxiety management
- low self-esteem
- anxiety
- depression and bereavement
- overthinking
- a difficult workplace and communicating your needs
As a Zen teacher, I can assist you with your concentration and focus, dealing with overthinking, difficult choices and making decisions, and with staying balanced.
I work with individual adults, couples, young people, children aged 8 and older and families, with issues such as anxiety, depression, PTSD, ADHD, stress and anger management.
I help young people to deal with addiction to media, alcohol, drugs, compulsive decisions, and habits that affect work, study and relationships.
I have supported parents/grandparents with improving their parenting skills, empty nest syndrome, and bereavement. I can also help people dealing with pet loss. I use traditional Gestalt, person-centred, psychodynamic, and internal family systems therapies, as well as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), creative therapy, focusing on feelings, solution-focused writing therapy, Zen and mindfulness.
Couples therapy
My couples therapy is based on non-confrontational communication, Imago dialogue, Gestalt, emotionally focused approaches, attachment and differentiation theory, examining the pursuer/distancer dynamic, and David Schnarch's empowering therapy, which is excellent for couples facing infidelity and intimacy problems.
Choosing the way of working will be based on diagnoses around the stage in the relationship. I also offer integrative sex and couples therapy based on certification and training.
What I can offer
I understand that your experiences and goals are unique and important. I possess mindfulness/Zen skills through my long practice. At the same time, I recognise that your time is precious and that you want to have things resolved as soon as possible. I will try to fulfil your expectations and help you achieve your goals, motivation and dreams.
Some of the techniques I use will help you improve your grounding skills, motivation, energy level, concentration, mood, sleeping and concentration quality, your ability to deal with difficult people at work, to gain simple joy from every moment, and how to deal with depression and anxiety.
What is unique about my service?
The unique quality of my service is that I am also a Zen Master, authorised after decades of practising Zen and as a mindfulness teacher. This authorisation was achieved through a traditional path of years spent on meditation retreats and meeting Zen teachers who approved my skills to teach koans (intuition developmental techniques about responding in the moment).
Processing thoughts, emotions and past events is a way to gain clarity in the moment and to make the best decisions. I will help you with this process.
Insurers
I work with individual clients and couples in private practice and for the private health insurer Bupa, as well as other private insurers.
The session
During a therapy session, you can really get to the roots of problems. I will help you to process feelings and thoughts. This can be scary, and is sometimes unbearable to do alone.
I will give you the tools to deal with difficult feelings, so that you will be well equipped for what you are facing in life and I will help you to build your network of support.
I am available for short therapy support for individuals and couples, children and parents, and for longer-term therapy.
Going to a therapy session for the first time may bring some level of anxiety, as well as curiosity. It can be a great way to approach self-development and self-investment.
My clients say that they feel comfortable with me and my way of working from the very first session because I create an atmosphere of understanding, openness and simplicity without judgement.
How can counselling help you?
I help you to see what is holding you back and to overcome hindrances. I think that the way we look after our mind can greatly affect our decisions, relationships, our mental, emotional and physical condition, and how we respond to changes in our day-to-day life.
I believe that therapy should bring positive changes to our lives from the very first session.
I am told that after a therapy session, clients feel freed from self-judgement and negative thoughts and are uplifted and inspired to work towards development.
I have worked with difference and diversity in various ways. I recognise the impact of different forms of oppression on personal development, and on the chances that are available to people.
How many sessions will you need?
I am happy to work short or longer term with people. Short-term work often involves specific issues and goals. This is also true for longer-term work but can make way for a more free-flow exploration of issues as they arise.
During therapy sessions, we focus on the moment and come to recognise the roots of patterns and problems.
- I am fluent in Polish and understand Russian.
- Reduced fees are available for the unemployed, clients on a low income and students.
Getting in touch...
I offer a free 10-minute initial consultation to discuss how I can help you, which you can book easily here.
Alternatively, if you have any questions or would like to book a session, then you can call or text me on 07742 979050 or click here to send me an email.
Training, qualifications & experience
Gestalt integrative couples therapy, London
ADHD / BACP training
August 2024 Grief in short-term therapy - Workplace options and EAP training
July 2024 Neurodivergence, informed family therapy, OCD, ADHD and Autism
July 2024 Burnout - BACP therapy network
June 2024 - Integrative sex and couples therapy certification / PESI learning
July 2024 - Dealing with difficult people in our life / What makes destructive leaders? / Confer. training certified
July 2024 Neuroscience in therapy - PESI-certified course
March 2024 BACP - Children, young people, family neurodiversity
March 2024 Burnout - BACP network, London
March 2024 Chrysalis - Self-harm - how to deal with clients who self-harm
January 2024 Personality disorders, PESI
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing, modified), Attachment-focused EMDR modified: healing trauma, anxiety, grief and loss, sexual abuse, nightmares and sleeping problems
- Sleeping problems - PTSD, nightmares, Justin Havens training
- Helping clients with spiritual abuse trauma, BACP course
- Conference - Working with narcissistic personality
- BACP accredited in-person, centred and integrative therapy
- National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society - accredited
- Counselling Degree, Middlesex University 2014-2016
- Introduction to Counselling Skills, London City Lit College 2012-2013
- Degree in teaching Zen mindfulness, koans (I am a Dharma Master and I had just started training to become a Zen Master in accordance with the traditional procedure) - intuition development, 2009
- Further Teaching Diploma Degree, Poland 2000-2003
- Master’s Degree in Teaching and Pedagogical Studies, Poland 1979-1988
- Training Level Two couples counselling - Exploring differentiation Principal trainer: Deborah Winterbourne
- Couples therapy training, Imago, etc.
- Couples Institute, October 2020 - Confrontation - Online course
- Couples therapy course, London October/November 2020, Deborah Winterbourne
- Pornography/sex and gambling addiction, September 2020
- Group therapy - BACP course
- Coach training - BACP course
- Creative working - BACP course
- Helping with insomnia - BACP course
- Working online with clients
- Creative therapy
- Working with LGBTQ clients
- Let the voices be heard!
- An international conversation on counselling, psychotherapy and social justice: British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) webcast training, December 2019
- Sex addiction - BACP private practice conference in Brixton, November 2019
- Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), muscle dysmorphia, particularly in males. Mind or body - what’s in charge? British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) Conference, November 2019
- Love and its shadows - Working with relationships, online resources/training, 2019
- The new man love - about expressing emotion and the male need for love in a healthy way, 2019
- Impact of anxious attachment, May 2019
- Modern dating and love relationships - British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) South London private practice training, 2019
- Gestalt training at the Gestalt Centre in London, October 2018
- Trauma and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, 2018
- Addiction, Bereavement, Relationships, British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) - CPD, 2018
- Mosac - an organisation for families of children who have been sexually abused. Working styles with families of young people and children who have been sexually abused, 2017
- British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) Conference on understanding identity and diversity in the therapy room, 2017
- Understanding dementia - therapeutic ways of communicating with people with dementia, helping the family, 2017
- The new male sexuality - training and reading about dealing with relationship and intimacy issues
- Fight. Flight, Freeze - an experiential exercise to see what happens to us in alarming or critical incidents - BACP online training
- Workshops and mindfulness retreats in South Korea, US, Poland, and Russia, 2016-2019
- Working with identity issues, 2016-2019
- Mosac - working with non-abusive parents and people who are related to sexually abused children and young people, 2017
- Workshop on working with LGBTQ people at the Westminster Drug Project, 2015
- The City and East London Bereavement Service – training, 2015
- Introductory Workshop - Counselling Place2Be, London, 2014
- Child Protection Certificate Course, London, 2013
- Challenging behaviour therapy for young people, London, 2012
- Certificate in Personal Coaching, London Coaching Academy, 2009
Member organisations
school Registered / Accredited
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The National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society
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In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
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The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
- Existential crises connected with changes
- Men's health improvement
- Men's relationship with emotions
- Family therapy
- Healthy parenting
- Healthy relationships with money
- Difficulty with adapting to a new job or place
- Sex addiction urges
- Competitive environments and identity
- Money and spirituality
- Dealing with power abuses and racism in the workplace
- Spirituality and everyday life
- Struggling to accept being single
- Childlessness
- Pregnancy
- Abortion
- Single parent support
- Grief
- STD
- Body image issues
15 minutes free before booking the first session.
Individuals £50 per 50-minute session (depending on location, time of therapy session and your income).
Couples
£70 for longer sessions of 70 minutes.
I am recognised by Bupa, AXA, Vitality Health and other private health insurers as a professional psychotherapist and counsellor.
Payment is made at the end of each session (bank transfer or PayPal)
10% discount on payment for 6 sessions in advance.
In cases of changed circumstances, the fee can be discussed and reviewed.
Counselling is available on Skype or Zoom for clients in London, outside London and international clients. It is possible to arrange sessions in person in advance (to ensure fulfilment of COVID restriction rules).
I offer a significant discount to the elderly, people on a low income and clients with disabilities: £45/50-minute session.
*Concessions may be available, so please discuss this with me.
Therapies offered
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Fees
£55.00 - £75.00
Concessions offered for
Health Insurance/EAP
Additional information
- Individuals - £55-£65 per 50-min session (depending on location, time of therapy session and your income). For couples, longer sessions are 60 min and £70
- I am recognised by Bupa, AXA, Vitality Health, and other private health insurers, EAP, Care First, Hope for Justice, and Right Mind as a professional psychotherapist and counsellor
- Payment is made at the end of each session (bank transfer, PayPal, cash)
- Payment can be made before sessions
- Payment for 6 sessions in advance - 10% discount
In the case of changed circumstances, the fee can be discussed and reviewed.
Sessions are in person by arrangement. Other counselling sessions are also available on Skype or Zoom or by phone for clients from London, outside London, or outside the UK
*Concessions may be available, please discuss your circumstances with me.
When I work
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Mon-Sat 8am-8.00pm, Sun 2pm-7pm. I offer face-to-face, Zoom, Skype, individual, couples and family therapy, private or Bupa, AXA private insurance recognised professional, EAP, Care First
Further information
My goal is to lead you to self-trust, resilience and to develop intuitive as well as logical responses to difficult events in the moment. I know that dealing with habits can be tricky but there are some ways to unlearn unhelpful behaviours and ways of thinking.
I offer tools to deal with difficult feelings, so that you can support yourself between sessions.
Between-sessions support is important and I will give you access to tools and skills. You should experience improvement in your mood and situation in a short amount of time.
I am an active listener, very intuitive, non-judgemental, empathetic and mindful. I think I am effective for all my clients but specifically for those who want to improve work and relationships, who have experienced various types of abuse, including spiritual and narcissistic abuse. I am not only a therapist but am also an authorised Mindfulness and Zen Master in the South Korean tradition, with about 40 years of experience.
I lead short and long retreats in different parts of the world, including the US, Europe and South Korea.
I can help you to deal with overthinking and to reclaim joy in your life. I understand we face options and the necessity to make decisions every day. Some of those choices are life-changing. I have a few techniques in my therapy toolbox to help you with these moments.
Different areas I deal with:
- Eating disorders
- Couples therapy
- Intimacy in relationships
- Anxiety
- Low self-esteem
- Negative thinking
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Negative thinking that is limiting life
- Panic disorder
- Family issues
- Phobias
- Feeling sad
- Depression
- Separation and divorce anxiety
- Employment (e.g., problems with managing, struggling with a toxic atmosphere in the workplace)
- Panic attacks
- Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) - different types of OCD
- Relationship and sexual problems
- Work and career-related issues
- Abuses in the workplace
- Dealing with a narcissist
- Supporting clients going through infertility
- Surviving emotional abuse (gaslighting, silent treatment, narcissistic personality, passive-aggressive behaviour, etc.)
- Self-harm
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Guilt
- Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD)
- Muscle dysmorphia, particularly in males
- Menopause
- Insomnia
- Bereavement
- Trauma
- Physical, emotional and sexual abuse
- Loss
- Illness
- Shame
- Fear of change
- Fear of ageing
- Addictions - substances, emotional, behavioural, workaholism, sex, gambling, shopping, the internet
- Hoarding
- Lack of concentration
- Feelings of emptiness and unclear life directions
- Parental issues
- Parenting
My Therapy Room is in easy reach of Upper Holloway, Crouch End, Archway, North London, Hornsey, Haringey, Holloway, Manor House, Highgate, Tufnell Park, Seven Sisters, Finsbury Park, Dartmouth Park, Highbury, Parliament Hill Fields, Lower Holloway, South Tottenham, Wood Green, Stoke Newington, and Kentish Town
Nearest train stations: Crouch Hill (0.1 miles), Harringay (0.7 miles), Finsbury Park (0.8 miles), Upper Holloway (0.8 miles), Harringay Green Lanes (0.9 miles), Hornsey (1 mile), Drayton Park (1.6 miles), Kentish Town (1.8 miles), Alexandra Palace (1.8 miles), and Gospel Oak (1.8 miles)
Nearest London Underground tube stations: Finsbury Park (0.8 miles), Archway (0.8 miles), Manor House (1 mile), Arsenal (1.1 miles), and Highgate (1.3 miles)
I have also worked and still work in different settings, including teaching, leading long meditation retreats, working with young and elderly clients, and people suffering from addiction and abuse. I help women going through menopause, adoption issues, and self-image and self-esteem issues in any gender.
I think we all need happiness, to be understood. We want intimacy. We want to be fulfilled in our relationships, work and family life. We need good techniques and people with the skills to support us. We need a support network.
