Worrying can often be thought of as churning... the constant mulling over of things. For some, it can be something they do just when stress levels are high, for others, it can be something that they have struggled with for years. For the latter, they might identify with the term being a ‘worrier.’ As a result of this, they might feel that this will never change. Worrying can be hugely detrimental to our health and wellbeing and at times, on our relationships with others. For example, worrying can stop sleep being restful and peaceful or stop it altogether. Worrying can mean that we can’t concentrate to cook probably, so we eat more unhealthily. We can ask for reassurance from others continually or at times, say nothing at all. That this is something they have always done and will always do.
This is not the case.
Worrying can be changed. It is not something you have to put up with. Therapy can help people to look at when worry is helpful (it can be motivating/ lead to problem-solving) and when it is unhelpful (too worried to be able to problem solve/ too anxious to do something). It can look at why you worry, where it comes from and how to make a change.
Therapy can be scary. Perhaps you worry (yes; another worry) about whether you will change, or will you have to do something you don’t want to do or; indeed some people worry about not worrying (ironic isn’t it?). But it’s far more useful to think about how your life might look different, what you could be doing instead of worrying, the impact on your health and wellbeing and relationships.
Change is always possible, whether you only worry occasionally or you’ve found yourself to worry a lot in your life. It’s whether you think it might be worth trying out.
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About Claire Gask
Claire Gask is a BABCP (provisionally) accredited cognitive behavioural therapist. She works primarily with those experiencing low mood, anxiety and sleep difficulties. Claire has worked both in the NHS and in the private healthcare environment. She also has a private practice.