The idea behind mindfulness is that by focusing on the present moment, we can reduce stress, see opportunity and enjoy everyday pleasures. As well as being a useful tool for combatting stress, depression and anxiety, mindfulness can also be utilised in other areas of our lives – including relationships.
Life moves at a dizzying pace, and it can be hard to find the time to stand still with your partner. This can lead us to work on autopilot and, over time, this can take it’s toll on a relationship.
Take a look at the following pointers on how to be more mindful in your relationship.
Focus on one sense
When you are spending time with your partner, try to hone in on the present moment by focusing on one sense. If you’re out for dinner, you may want to focus on the taste of your food. If you’re sitting together on the sofa, focus on your sense of touch and how it feels to have him/her by your side.
Doing this helps to ground you to the here and now, stopping your thoughts going elsewhere.
Many people believe multitasking is the most efficient way of getting things done. The reality however is that concentrating on too many things at once can lead to decreased productivity and more errors. Instead, focus on one thing at a time – especially when with your other half. For example, if your partner is telling you about their day, don’t sit there scrolling through your phone – actively listen to what they’re saying.
Initiate tech-free times
Being connected to the Internet 24/7 has its drawbacks. When your phone/tablet/device is constantly going off with notifications and alerts, it can be hard to stay in the present moment. Arrange some tech-free time with your partner so you can talk and simply be together without distraction.
This is a communication basic. By listening to your partner entirely, you are letting them know you are present for them. They will feel heard and validated, which is essential for any healthy relationship.