Latest articles on counselling and therapy

We’ve all seen the jokes about couples arguing during the forced isolation period. Even before this unusual time, relationships have always been tested to the limit by simply living together. It’s easy in the beginning when couples date...

Communication Relationship therapists emphasise communication. Counselling sessions often begin with a couple being asked how their week together went and how they’d got on with commitments made in the previous session. A frequent response is,...

Making the decision to go to relationship counselling for many couples is a positive and brave move towards becoming more connected and happier together. However, for those who are not familiar with what 'therapy' is all about, it can feel like a...

How important is sex in a relationship? This is the conundrum often questioned by both parties in a committed relationship. There is no right or wrong way of having sex. In addition to that, there is no amount of sex that a couple must have or not...

Having a young family changes everything. Alongside the joys of parenting, there are plenty of challenges too – which can reveal sharp differences in what we value most as individuals. For couples, it’s time for compromise and...

I want to highlight in this article the impact of infidelity on a relationship, the cost not just financially, but emotionally on how that could shape any response. That couples counselling could help heal the trauma felt and build a more...

Echoism is a term that has been popularised in the last couple of years and which has, until recently, been largely misunderstood as a form of narcissism. The term was originally used in 2005 by Dean Davis, an American psychoanalyst. Davis alerted...

Could online couples counselling work for you? In this article, I shall explore the topic of carrying out couples counselling online via Zoom (or other secure platforms), and explaining how it works, as well as looking at the benefits of...

The idea for this article came from listening to the psychoanalyst and clinical psychologist Peter Fonagy speaking on Radio 4's The Life Scientific (Jan 2020). Along with colleagues, Fonagy developed a therapeutic approach called mentalisation, or...