Lorraine O'Brien Pg Dip Couple Counsellor, Supervisor, Registered Member BACP
There are many reasons why people seek counselling, there is no right or wrong reason, they can bring whatever is troubling them and stopping them leading the life they wish to lead. They may not even be aware of what the cause of their unhappiness is, and what is not working for them.
Counselling provides an opportunity to share concerns with a skilled listener in a safe, non judgmental and confidential environment. Through exploring your experiences, past and present, you can gain an understanding of how these experiences are linked to your current behaviours and situation. This can help you to move forward to a space which feels more balanced, comfortable and healthy.
I am a relational and integrative counsellor this means I use a variety a theoretical models in my practice; Psychodynamic, Attachment, CBT, Brief Solution Focused, Narrative, and Systemic. Working in this way gives me the tools to adapt the counselling session to meet the client's needs. I work respectfully with client's allowing them to set the pace of the work and their aim of counselling.
Who I work with.
I work with individuals who are experiencing issues such as Generalised Anxiety Disorder, Panic Attacks, Bereavement, Depression and Relationship issues. I have a lot of experience of working with employer assisted contracts where people access counselling through the work place. The issues may be work related or personal.
For people experiencing relationship issues, I work with both partners, mostly together, though I do sometimes see people individually too. I will also work with individuals who may feel confused about how they feel about their relationship, and want a bit of individual space to explore that. Or individuals where the relationship has broken down, and they are left feeling hurt, distressed, bereft or unable to move on for what ever reason.
Why Couple Counselling?
All of us experience peaks and troughs of life. Stress, depression and anxiety affect most of us, and at times it can feel debilitating, affecting both physical and emotional wellbeing. If you are having relationship issues, communication is one of the main areas that cause problems, and those problems lead to yet more stress and anxiety. Often it is a vicious cycle.
Relationships are complex, and multi layered, with spoken and unspoken rules about roles and expectations. Any change can affect the connection between the couple, causing tension, and conflict. In turn the difficulties in the relationship cause the individuals to feel stressed, anxious and even depressed. That in turn exerts more pressure bringing about relationship issues. That negative spiral can make it hard to feel the security and love that the relationship was built on.
Once communication begins to deteriorate between a couple, it is often very difficult to feel heard, and understood by your partner. Blame, guilt, accusations, insecurities, and anxiety are just some of the issues that generate conflict, and get in the way of resolving those relationship issues. When communication stops working well, intimacy and sex issues often also follow close behind. It is hard to want to feel close to someone you have just been arguing with.
How can I help?
I have worked for Relate for 25 years, and have a huge amount of experience of enabling couples to change how they communicate. By creating a neutral, empathic and non- judgmental environment, couples and individuals can explore what their relationship issues are, and gain understanding. With the understanding comes the ability to make more informed decisions about what they want, how they want the relationship to be, and set goals towards becoming happier.
I am a Registered Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, and work within the Ethical Framework.
I offer face to face counselling, Skype or telephone or email Counselling.
I also have a Supervision service for trained and student Counsellors.
What happens now?
If you would like to contact me, we can make an arrangement for you to come to my practice in High Lane, at a time that suits you. The first session is a consultation, and a chance for us both, or all three of us to work out if Counselling is the right course of action, and if I am the right person if it is.
If so, we agree on a contract, a number of sessions that you would like, and aim to work within that time frame. But it is flexible. If needed it can be reduced, or extended.
Training, qualifications & experience
- Certificate in Clinical Supervision
- Post Graduate Diploma in couple Therapy
- Narrative Therapy
- Brief Therapy: Individuals and Family
- Certificate in Marital & Couple Therapy Relate Marriage Guidance
- Counselling Online
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Asperger's syndrome
- Attachment disorder
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Postnatal depression
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How long are appointments, and what do they cost?
The first appointment is a 50 minute consultation appointment. Its an opportunity for us to talk through what your needs are, and whether we can work together on those needs. That first appointment costs £35.00
Each appointment thereafter is one hour, and will cost £50.00. That is payable by bank transfer in advance, or cash on the day.
Supervision is usually 1.5 hours, and costs £75. Concessions for Student Counsellors can be negotiated.
In addition to Couples Counselling I am also a qualified Counselling Supervisor and have many years experience in Supervision. I have space to accommodate a small Case Discussion Group, of up to four Counsellors. If larger group work is required, I will attempt to find a different venue.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Please contact to make arrangements.
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|