The healing power of sharing our stories

As a psychotherapeutic counsellor, I have had the privilege of witnessing the transformative power of storytelling in the lives of my clients.


The theory of narrative therapy, which deeply informs my practice, emphasises the significance of our personal narratives — the stories we tell ourselves about who we are, where we've come from, and where we're going. In this article, I want to explore the profound impact of sharing our stories and having them witnessed.

The stories we carry

Our lives are a tapestry woven from the threads of our experiences, beliefs, and emotions. We carry within us a multitude of stories, both positive, neutral and negative, that shape our self-image and our perception of the world. Some of these stories empower us, while others may weigh us down. Narrative therapy invites us to reflect on these narratives and consider how they influence our lives.

When clients enter therapy, they often bring with them stories of pain, trauma, and struggle. These narratives can be heavy burdens, holding them back and affecting their mental and emotional well-being. Through the process of narrative therapy, we are encouraged to externalise these stories, to view them as separate from ourselves, and to explore alternative narratives that can bring relief and growth.

Externalising the problem

One of the core concepts in narrative therapy is externalisation. It involves helping us see that the issues we face are not inherent parts of our identity but rather stories we've been living. By externalising the problem, we can begin to distance ourselves from it and gain a fresh perspective.

For example, somebody struggling with depression might have internalised the story that they are inherently flawed or broken. Through narrative therapy, we can work together to externalise this narrative, giving it a name or persona. This separation allows us to explore the experiences in a less judgmental and more compassionate way, paving the way for growth.

Co-authoring new narratives

Narrative therapy also emphasises the idea that we are not passive recipients of our stories; we are active authors. By recognising this agency, we can co-author new narratives that align with our values, strengths, and aspirations. This process is deeply empowering.

In therapy sessions, I often guide clients in reimagining their stories. We explore moments of resilience, courage, and growth. By amplifying these stories, we create a counter-narrative to the dominant, problem-saturated one. This shift in focus can instil hope and foster a sense of agency.

The therapeutic relationship as witness

In the journey of sharing and reshaping narratives, the therapeutic relationship plays a crucial role. As a psychotherapeutic counsellor, I see myself as a witness to my clients' stories. I provide a safe and non-judgmental space where they can express themselves openly and honestly and have their stories held. This act of bearing witness acknowledges the significance of their experiences and can validate their emotions.

Through the therapeutic relationship, clients often find the courage to confront painful chapters of their stories and rewrite them with newfound wisdom and resilience. Being heard and witnessed in this way can be profoundly healing.

In the realm of narrative therapy, we recognise that our lives are an ongoing, evolving narrative. Our stories are not fixed; they are adaptable and open to revision. By externalising the problems we face, co-authoring new narratives, and having these narratives witnessed and acknowledged, we can embark on a path of healing and transformation.

I am continually inspired by the resilience and strength of my clients as they navigate the intricate tapestry of their lives. Through the power of storytelling, we explore the rich terrain of human experience, allowing for growth, healing, and the emergence of new narratives that empower and inspire.

In the end, it is my belief that our stories are not just words on pages but living, breathing expressions of our essence. And when we find the courage to tell them, to share them, and to rewrite them, we unlock the potential for profound personal transformation.

If you’ve been wrestling with your own narrative and would like to begin to rewrite your story, I welcome you to get in touch. I work with adults of all genders across the UK.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Counselling Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Carys Jones, MSc, MBACP
Nantwich, CW5 6RF

I'm Carys, the BACP registered counsellor behind Out of the Woods Counselling. I work with adults of all genders across the UK on a broad range of issues. Prior to becoming a counsellor, I worked as a specialist sexual health outreach worker, working with youth, LGBT+ and sex work communities.

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