Religion, culture and suicide - revealed
When you hear that someone has completed suicide, one of the first thoughts we have is "how did that happen, they seemed happy", and your heart goes out to that person's loved ones. Now add to the knowledge that the person who died was religious, then what happens? One of the first thoughts that enters your mind may be "oh my god, they have sinned".
Is this the correct response? The answer to that is clearly no. Most religions do not agree with taking your own life, and followers of those religions will agree to that. But, living in western society changes the way we think and act, and years ago, there was no talk of mental health at all. When we go to school we learn and adapt all of our cultures together seamlessly and live. It is when that knowledge gives you the courage to know yourself that can be the cause of isolation, i.e, learning that you are gay, are in the wrong body, don't feel that you fit in. You cannot tell your friends and family for fear of judgement. Once the feelings are internalised, they can branch out, and all sorts of negative thoughts can emerge, which you can no longer cope with.
The question arises of how we change peoples thoughts. Secondly, we need to create an understanding of what suicide actually means, and how we reach that stage. If you are stuck in a family where you are only allowed to mix in with family or extended family, then you will not be able to talk about feelings, and when you have reached the point that you cannot live another second, then the choice is made. Imagine if you had pain inside your body, and there is no way of that pain going away, you have tried self-harm, that only works temporarily, and then your pain comes back. There is no medication, as you have not been able to talk to the doctor, as they could be someone your parents know quite well, and you fear the outcome. Some people may think your faith should carry you through, but the response to that is that everyone's tolerance to pain is different.
Firstly, we need to identify that religion is only part of our identity, our culture. At birth, it is passed down to you by parents, so that you are brought up having that as part of life without question until you reach an age where you can decide if that religion is right for you. We now see a lot of media coverage on changing religion, and then the backlash from the community arises. They are not familiar with the notion that nowadays we have a choice. Living in families where culture and religion are tied together, speaking about emotions are unheard, unsaid. You will never hear someone saying "I feel", as it is taken as if you are "mental"; no one will marry you, or in some cultures can be seen as if you have taken over by the devil. Once we inform people that there are mental health illnesses, then these prejudices will slowly go away. We do that with education and understanding.
How do we change that?
1. Try and talk to someone - not every counsellor from an ethnic group will know your family
2. If possible, look to speak someone online. It could be the samaritans, or a counsellor online - they will not know you, and it will be totally confidential
3. As communities, arrange talks around these subjects.
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