Musings on procrastinating - what is it you want?

To move beyond our self-imposed limits and out of our comfort zones we need to stretch ourselves. Too often we yearn to achieve our potential, we have inspired thoughts only to discover physical, emotional or imagined impairment which amazingly pop up on cue:
Our negative beliefs can stop us seeing what's really possible, they denigrate, destroy and kill joy. Instead of testing reality we stick to our tried and tested structures:
  • Is it true? We can't get up half an hour earlier for that invigorating jog?
  • Check to see - can I call my old friend, how will it end?
  • Work it out - is there any way I can add a USP to my CV?
Instead of listening to our harsh inner critic finding fault or to our sneaky superego "it's too late, I can't do it". Answer those voices. Let it rip, be aware of how we negate our potential. Put things in perspective, self-realisation is a lifetime's journey and remember:
  • Everything worthwhile requires work.
  • Learning is a process, a series of small steps so dare to dream, to play, to enjoy.
  • Take a moment to visualise, to close your eyes, let your imagination take you on a trip.
  • See the view, from planets new, what's happening in you? Take a different perspective from the one you have used all your life.
    • And when you see what you saw, what's it like to be a different me?
    • What's it like for your consciousness?
    • What do you want to say to yourself?
    • When you allow yourself to change your mind and let rip?
  • Take time off and indulge those fantasies.
  • Somewhere deep down, you know you long to say "it's ok, go ahead, you may enjoy it".
  • Explore, create your naturally evolving creativity.
  • Give yourself permission, which voice speaks loudest?
  • Try out something new but watch out for the old structure, the ingrained saboteur and the resistant character.
What are you saying you want? Do you find time slips past without starting those projects you think about? Is there a list of dreaded chores festering at the back of your mind? Therapy can help to change your patterns of procrastination.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Counselling Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Mary Mcilroy, BACP Accredited (Anxiety specialist). Bupa listed 30060387
Muswell Hill N10 & Central London SE1

I am a registered counsellor with the BACP. The areas where I work are: London Bridge/The City of London and Muswell Hill/London N10. Although I help people mainly with issues of anxiety and depression, I cover many other areas. Please visit my website for more information:


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