Embracing wholeness: Why You don't need fixing

You are not broken. You do not need fixing. I know you are doing the best you can in the circumstances and environment you face. I know this because my training as a person-centred therapist has fostered my firm belief that each and every person possesses inherent worth and capacity for growth.


I know that many of your difficulties and challenges are a normal response to your life experiences and may have helped you survive in the past. Therapy supports you to understand yourself and find your potential and options for change.

You are worthy 

In a world that often emphasises "fixing" or "improving" oneself, the person-centred approach to therapy offers a refreshing perspective: You are not broken! Your ability to thrive might be hindered by conditions and experiences, resulting for example in anxiety and low self-esteem.

Despite the challenges you may face or the struggles you may encounter, you are a complete and valuable human being deserving of acceptance and respect. Rather than viewing you through a lens of pathology or deficiency, person-centred therapy celebrates your strengths, experiences, and perspectives.

Actualising tendency

At the heart of the person-centred philosophy is the fundamental trust in the actualising tendency, It means that you are striving for your best life within the conditions you live in. Therapy provides the conditions in which you can thrive.

The person-centred approach emphasises empathy and unconditional positive regard as essential elements of the therapeutic relationship. By creating a safe and non-judgmental space, person-centred therapists aim to empower clients to explore their thoughts, feelings, behaviours, experiences, for them to find their self-esteem and possibilities for change.


The therapist aims to be congruent within the relationship. That means they are transparent and genuine. Person-centred therapy encourages you to embrace your authentic self fully. By fostering self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-trust, this approach empowers you to connect with your inner wisdom and make choices aligned with your values and aspirations. Through genuine self-expression and exploration, you can cultivate a deeper sense of authenticity and wholeness in all aspects of your life.

The therapist’s role

As your person-centred therapist, my role is not to "fix" you but to accompany you on your journey of self-discovery and personal growth. My expertise lies in creating a nurturing and supportive environment wherein you feel heard, understood, and valued for who you are. Through active listening, empathy, and unconditional positive regard, I facilitate your exploration of emotions, thoughts and life experiences and therefore your potential and capacity to move towards a more fulfilled life.

The client’s role

In person-centred therapy, the client leads as they are the expert on their life. The focus is on your subjective experience and the meaning you assign to your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. Through self-exploration and reflection, you can gain deeper insights into yourself, your relationships, and your circumstances. This process of self-discovery fosters self-compassion and empowers you to make conscious choices and enact meaningful changes in your life.

I firmly believe that you do not need fixing. You are already whole, complete, and worthy of acceptance and love just as you are. Through person-centred therapy you can move towards living a more fulfilling life by embarking on a journey of self-discovery, authenticity and personal growth that enables you to embrace your inherent potential and ability to deal with all that life brings.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Counselling Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Hanna Bohrisch, Counsellor for Women in SW1, online, for Walk & Talk in W5
London SW1W & W5

I am a person-centred counsellor in London and offer walk and talk, online and in-person therapy. Though I specialise in counselling women I warmly welcome clients of all gender identities who resonate with my approach and feel I could support them on their journey.

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