SUSAN STUBBINGS Counsellor & Counselling Supervisor, Adv. Dip. Reg MBACP
Is peace of mind something you dream about? Feeling stressed, work getting on top of you, depression dragging you down? Trying to come to terms with childhood sexual abuse, trauma or abandonment issues. Struggling with addiction, health anxieties, panic or phobias? Or coping alone with the death of a loved one; the way they died or who died, are your relationships fraught with anxieties, worries and pain?
Then counselling will be of benefit to you. There are times in our life when we all need support to handle the challenges life conundrums throw at us. Gaining support, sharing and exploring with a professional experienced and compassionate counsellor will make all the difference. Whatever difficulties you are experiencing together in partnership we can make sense of and find the way forward for you to create or recreate peace of mind and empowered living.
An experienced Counsellor, Counselling Supervisor, Professional Supervisor, Accredited Bereavement Counsellor (Cruse) and group Facilitator. Registered member of BACP.
A creative, innovative and experienced Counsellor and Counselling Supervisor working in partnership with you to bring forth your strengths, work through any concerns, strengthen your coping skills and build your resiliency for your future to enhance your overall well-being.
I work with and from Heart compassionately creating connections & peace of mind in partnership with you at your pace - one step at a time .....
I respect and honour each person as an individual with unique needs. I believe every person has the ability to reach for and achieve their fullest potential. Clients hold the right to be self-directing at their own pace; supporting through a genuine non-judgemental, compassionate way of Being. Creatively exploring ways with you to live more resourcefully empowering you to maintain, enhance and/or regain sovereignty over your own living. Exploring a variety of choices for the Self in a person-centred way and fostering a way of Being which is meaningful to each individuals’ sense of Self.
People have many concerns which bring them into counselling and indeed it takes courage to acknowledge and strength to seek support from another. The process is both rewarding and life enriching.
Probabilities leave no room for manoeuvre therefore I work creatively with you to find the possibilities in every situation ...
Together in partnership we will find a way!
I have gained wide experience of working with several charities in and around Doncaster and I am able to support a myriad of concerns and difficulties people present.
Private practice - 16 years counselling experience able to support people presenting a wide range of difficulties and concerns which impact upon here and now living. For example Childhood abuse including historical sexual abuse, domestic violence, anger management, relationship difficulties, bereavement through sudden death, people impacted by a loved one completing suicide and people presenting with suicidal ideation to loss for example through divorce, job loss, retirement and redundancy, loss of self or identity and low self-esteem or confidence. Through to mental health difficulties including anxiety, depression, OCD, self-harm or dissociations and all manner of traumatic events people get thrown into.
Supervision - 14 years experience of supporting colleagues engaged in counselling. Supervising professional and volunteer counsellors, professionals in none counselling roles and emotionally charged environments. Supporting people starting out on their career undertaking counselling training and people developing through further training. For many years and until recently I worked at our local college am familiar with the counselling programs, supporting students undertaking the BA Hons counselling solutions Top-up and CPCAB programs of counselling studies. I understand the pressures of working within placements for the first time, juggling home, work and studying at this level along with family life. I offer a professional service with a reduced fee for students in training.
Employed as Child and Family Counsellor within a Hospice setting 3 days a week. Supporting through a myriad of delivery methods and specialising in trauma, end of life care, support and bereavement counselling supporting families through the devastation of life-limiting and life-shortening diagnosis, palliative care and the chaotic bereavement process which the death of a precious loved one brings. Supporting staff in supervision, professional and voluntary counsellors, staff De-brief, authoring, delivering and facilitating family bereavement support groups and CPD sessions.
Whilst this work can be emotionally charged it is a privilege to support families facing and going through the toughest of times in their lives and rewarding to be a part of supporting families growth around their loss and grief.
Cruse Bereavement Care Doncaster for 7 years - To date accumulating 16 years experience supporting people bereaved including sudden, traumatic and/or expected death of a loved one. Those struggling to come to terms with a loved one who completed suicide and those who have lost loved ones through murder and family members shocked and impacted by their loved one who committed murder!
Victim support - supporting people suffering the impact, shock and trauma of finding self a victim of crime. Serious crime trained connecting with and supporting people through the traumatic experience of finding self a victim of mugging, sexual assault /abuse and/or domestic violence.
Surestart family centre - which aimed to offer every child the best start in life, supporting families in their own homes with child behavioural issues, early year care, practical and emotional issues, improving well-being.
Counselling and supporting people impacted by alcohol misuse - users and family members impacted by someone else misuse within a local charity, gaining seven years’ experience supporting users, family and extended family members.
The seat of my passion sits in supporting others enduring suffering; I believe in the ‘whole person’ and holistic well-being; experienced and consistently committed to supporting people struggling with life difficulties. I have worked with people bringing depth of despair, worries and at the end of their tether; I am committed to alleviation of the confusion, pain and despair surrounding a wide range of human concerns and worries.
Counselling is a life enriching process - Counselling is a commitment to Self.
Together we can make a difference to your emotional & mental health, creating mental wealth and well-being.
The way I work.......
My practice is underpinned by the premise ‘one size doesn’t fit all’ supporting through an integrative therapeutic framework from a Humanistic foundation.
By Appointment only. My private practice includes:
Counselling Support for individuals from 18 years of age, couples and families.
Consultative Supervision for practitioners engaged in one-to-one client support, professionals, volunteers and students in training. Offering a space to reflect upon all dimensions of your work whilst developing your counselling role.
Training, qualifications & experience
- Registered Member of British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapists Reg MBACP
- Accredited Bereavement Counsellor (Cruse)
- BACP certificate of proficiency
- First Aid qualified
- CPCAB Advanced Diploma In Therapeutic Counselling
AQA Certificate in Counselling Children & Adolescents
- AQA Sociology A Level
AQA Psychology GCSE
AQA Sociology GCSE
- NOCN Brief Interventions
Drug misuse awareness
- Mindfulness-Based CBT Diploma
- Advice & Guidance L3 - City & Guilds
Customer Service L3 - City & Guilds
- British Sign Language - BS -L1
- First Aid at Work L3
Training & CPD:
- Cruse Bereavement Care
Certificate in Supervision
Certificate Bereavement Program (60 hours)
Certificate of Accreditation
Certificate of Telephone Counselling
- Victim Support Training program
Serious Crime Trained
Supporting victims of domestic violence
Supporting victims of sexual abuse
- Doncaster Alcohol Services (DAS)
Solution Focused Brief Therapy Skills
Brief Intervention (BI)
Stages of Change Model
Motivational Interviewing (MI)
Body Process in Counselling
Child Sexual Abuse
Working with relational Trauma, dealing with disorganised attachment
Trauma & the Body - Somatisation and dissociation
- Healthcare NHS Trust
Time limited Counselling/Brief Therapy
The Inner Family
Healing the Inner Family
- Hospice CPD
Working with Suicide
Bereavement Master Class - Lois Tonkin 'Growing around Grief'
Completed many on-going training workshops to maintain and enhance my awareness, skills and knowledge. I believe in life-long learning and personal and professional development.
Completed a successful project funded by the National Lottery to identify 'Best Practice' for Assessing client needs; wrote, developed and delivered a Post Bereavement Assessment tool facilitating over 200 client assessment sessions, training 2 further Officers in the use and delivery of the tool and took lead to group supervision. I achieved Accredited Bereavement Counsellor status.
I have written, developed and facilitate a 6 monthly Psychoeducation Bereavement Support Program within a Children's Hospice setting; delivering on a monthly basis supporting families through the chaotic and traumatic effects the death of a precious and beloved Child brings.
I have written, developed and facilitate professional workshops on self-care, vicarious trauma, anxiety awareness, building resiliency and raising awareness of relational dynamics.
Knowledge and skill is important but it is of little use unless it is applied to daily living. Personal experience has been my biggest teacher and continues to be so.
I am no stranger to the journey you may be contemplating embark upon; perhaps the only difference is I set sail before you and am now the captain of my own ship and committed to on-going life-long process of growth and development.
It is my belief ALL persons regardless of age, experience or capabilities can fulfil their fullest potential starting from where they are in the here and now.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Carer support
- Childhood bereavement
- Domestic violence
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I am interested in listening to and supporting ALL people:
Particularly interested, experienced in supporting recovery, repairing & rejuvenating the specific wounds left by:
- End of life - Sharing time with someone you love who has been given a life-shortening or terminal diagnosis can be both frightening and isolating. Being with someone you love not knowing what will happen next is emotionally, mentally and physical exhausting. Taking care of yourself can be none existent; but it is vital if you are to make the most of the time you have together. Support can make a difference to the unpredictability and anticipatory anxieties around at this time to ensure good quality of time is spent together.
- Diagnosed Life-limiting or life-threatening accepting and working with a diagnosis of illness or disease which restricts life in any way can be overwhelming both for the person with the diagnosis and those who care for them. Gaining support at these times will be crucial for mental health and well-being and support your coping skills.
- Bereavement Counselling - death of a spouse, friend, partner, precious Child- bereaved by traumatic deaths i.e. death by Suicide, murder, road traffic accidents or sudden unexpected death.
- Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) from chronic long-term repetitive stress which may be from Childhood sexual, emotional or physical abuse, personal attacks, rape, repeated violations of personal boundaries, Narcissistic process in relationships, living in crisis or poverty.
- Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) from witnessing or being involved in domestic violence, relationship trauma, natural disasters, survivor guilt, a diagnosis of life-threatening conditions, flashbacks, nightmares, long-term mental health or physical issues.
- Loss of identity/Self - low self-esteem, confidence or self-worth.
- Healing from abusive relationships including domestic violence and Narcissist process relationships.
- Alleviating suffering from:
High Anxiety states - Nervous breakdown, Generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) - Panic, Phobias, Social phobia's.
I have a particular interest and well read in Psychoanalytical psychology and the concepts of Carl Jung which emphasizes the importance of the individual psyche and the personal quest for wholeness. I work successfully with parts of psyche and the patterns of behaviour which keep us stuck and are hard to change; for example anxiety, repeated patterns and complex stress disorders. Working together in partnership to raise self-awareness, transforming that which is here and now and create and work towards your fullest potential becoming all you desire and wish to become to Self-actualize and the Individuation process Jung advocated.
Counselling is a powerful source of support for people who wish to develop personally I offer personal development sessions for those who don't necessarily need or want a 'talking therapy' but wish to develop, strengthen their Self-esteem, grow in confidence. The counselling room becomes a space for people who wish to understand Self emotionally or work on patterns of behaviour, to explore their spirituality rather than religion or build emotional resilience. Counselling support can be a journey for self-discovery and development.
It can also be a space to support building interpersonal and life skills i.e.
- Building Emotional authenticity.
- Time Management
- Debt management.
To name a few.
Counselling therapeutic hour:
Individual: £35 - Couples: £55
Supervision session 90 minutes:
Professionals £50 - Students/ Volunteers/Carers £35
Groups and families:
By discussion on needs and requirements.
I offer short-term and long term support and/or brief interventions as your needs dictate!
My portfolio is available to view at this session!
- Coming ready or not - New Year resolutions
- Self-efficacy a ‘buzz word’ but what does it actually mean?
- Am I going mad?
- So what exactly is anxiety?
- The impact of the death of a child
- Normal responses to abnormal situations
The pendulum of the mind osculates between sense and nonsense, not between right and wrong.
Reach high, for stars lie hidden in your soul. Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal
Pamela Vaull Starr
Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway.
To embark on the journey towards your goals and dreams requires bravery. To remain on that path requires courage. The bridge that merges the two is commitment.
Allowing hope not pain to make the important decisions for life - because
Dying matters, life matters, peace matters - each and every individual person matters equally.
Please visit my website for further information http://www.pendulumofpeace.co.uk
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Entrance has one step so not suitable for wheelchair users or person's not able to stand or step up or down. Disabled toilet facilities available on ground floor
Flexible evenings, weekends, Thursday and Friday appointments available; please feel free to contact me by phone between 8am-8pm. Warm regards Sue
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|
Supervision & training
Supervision is essential to maintain effective, sustainable practice. It is a safe, rich source of support, learning, reflection, time to mull over, review, compassionately evaluate, question, explore new pathways, gain a different perspective, a space for you to breath, take stock, hear Self, understand, grow and develop. .