SUSAN STUBBINGS Counsellor & Counselling Supervisor, Adv. Dip. Reg MBACP
There are times in our life when we all need support to handle the challenges life conundrums throw at us. Gaining support, sharing and exploring with a professional experienced and compassionate counsellor will make all the difference. You don't have to cope or go through things which concern you, intense feelings or traumatic experiences alone, whatever difficulties you are experiencing together in partnership we can make sense of and find the way forward for you to create or recreate peace of mind and empowered living.
I am available on-line and for telephone support for clients and supervisees who live within the UK.
The upsurge of Covid 19 took us all by surprise and you may feel you’re not adapting as you would like or feel you have been thrown into a deep ocean left sat at the bottom not knowing what to do. Has the thought of returning to the outside world evoked feelings of panic or overwhelming anxiety? Your resilience may have gone into hiding and your self-esteem and confidence may be sliding downwards. This is where counselling will be of benefit to you.
The lockdown may have evoked past hurts and opened wounds that you thought had been healed and find yourself feeling surprised at the surge of emotions. Are you trying to come to terms with difficulties you were struggling with before pandemic hit? Such as childhood sexual abuse, trauma or abandonment issues, struggling with addiction, health anxieties, panic or phobias? Relationships under strain or at breaking point and this situation has aggravated and now has become unbearable.
Are pre-existing problems more difficult because of having to stay home, save the NHS and save lives and you feel your life has somehow been undervalued or getting on top of you? Do you feel alone or lonely? Then counselling will be of benefit to you.
These are vastly different and difficult times we are living through as we all come to terms with what is happening around us. The Pandemic may have hit you personally and as a family you may be suffering the death of a precious loved one and the suddenness of what happened has left you shell-shocked trying to cope with the aftermath of the affects of shock of loss and anxious about the future.
I have supported others suffering with the trauma of the death of a cherished loved one for the past 18 years and work three days a week within a Hospice setting. Please get in touch if you are struggling with the sudden death of a beloved.
By Appointment only. My private practice includes:
Counselling Support face-to-face (post pandemic) telephone and on-line support for individuals from 18 years of age, couples and families living within the United Kingdom!
An experienced Counsellor, Counselling Supervisor, Professional Supervisor, Accredited Bereavement Counsellor (Cruse) and group Facilitator. Registered member of BACP
I work with and from Heart compassionately creating connections & peace of mind in partnership with you at your pace - one step at a time
People have many concerns which bring them into counselling and indeed it takes courage to acknowledge and strength to seek support from another. The process is both rewarding and life enriching.
I have a special interest and breadth of experience supporting and working with people who have suffered traumatic events and suffering with the impact and aftermath and people trying to manage anxieties.
Trauma is considered any experience which is deeply distressing, disturbing and shocking to our emotional, physical, psychological or spiritual well-being and can be through death of a loved one, accidents, assault, health diagnosis, domestic violence, sexual emotional or physical abuse, including historical childhood sexual abuse and relationship which could be considered to envelope unhealthy Narcissist traits and/or process.
Together in partnership we will find a way!
Over the years as a practitioner, I have gained width and breadth of experience working with several charities in and around Doncaster, proficient, skilled and experienced supporting others with a wide variety of human concerns and difficulties.
Private practice - 18 years counselling experience able to support people presenting a wide range of difficulties and concerns which impact upon here and now living.
We can suffer many losses throughout our life which impact upon our daily living greatly, for example, through death, divorce, retirement and redundancy, loss of a strong sense of self, lost identity, a sense of purpose, to loss of self-esteem, confidence, motivation or loss of relationship and/or others behaviours and what might have been.
Our health whether it be emotional, mental, physical and/or spiritual or in all dimensions, can bring us face-to-face with many losses, regrets and negativity we did not ask for and do not want to face. Even some of our own behaviours we don't understand or want and no longer serve us can leave us not knowing which way to turn . This is where counselling will help and support you.
Whilst we don't always have a choice what life chooses to hurl our way, we do have a choice in how we handle and cope with what life has thrown; even if we don't believe or know how to put that choice into action. This is where counselling will help and support you.
Seeking help and support at times of vulnerability, takes strength and courage, gaining support can help the transition from what we once thought we were to what we can become and work with, rather than against, to get the very best from and of ourselves, for our self and be the best we can become regardless of our individual situation, life can be happy and peaceful.
No life is perfect, living is complex and can be cruel at times, as individuals we all make unhealthy choices, we make mistakes, but we don't have to be our mistakes!
Life can be what you choose it to be, with effort we can choose healthier options to and cope with what life throws at us. This is where counselling will help and support you.
I also offer counselling supervision to colleagues engaged in counselling, professional and volunteer counsellors, professionals in none counselling roles and emotionally charged environments.
Employed as Child and Family Counsellor within a Hospice setting 3 days a week. Supporting families facing the toughest of times.
Supporting staff in supervision, professional and voluntary counsellors, staff De-brief, authoring, delivering and facilitating family bereavement support groups and CPD sessions. Utilising a variety of delivery methods, integrating several theories and schools of thought.
Whilst this work can be emotionally charged it is a privilege to support families facing and going through the toughest of times in their lives and rewarding to be a part of supporting families growth around their loss and grief.
Cruse Bereavement Care Doncaster for 7 years - To date accumulating 16 years experience supporting people bereaved including sudden, traumatic and/or expected death of a loved one. Those struggling to come to terms with a loved one who completed suicide and those who have lost loved ones through murder and family members shocked and impacted by their loved one who committed murder!
Victim support - supporting people suffering the impact, shock and trauma of finding self a victim of crime.
Serious crime trained connecting with and supporting people through the traumatic experience of finding self a victim of mugging, sexual assault /abuse and/or domestic violence.
Surestart family centre - which aimed to offer every child the best start in life, supporting families in their own homes with child behavioural issues, early year care, practical and emotional issues, improving well-being.
Counselling and supporting people impacted by alcohol misuse - users and family members impacted by someone else misuse within a local charity, gaining seven years’ experience supporting users, family and extended family members. Please note if you are actively misusing alcohol where you are not in control, to the point of what we would consider reaching or needing a detox then please contact your GP for advice on services that will meet your needs.
The seat of my passion sits in supporting others enduring suffering; I believe in the ‘whole person’ and holistic well-being; experienced and consistently committed to supporting people struggling with life difficulties. I have worked with people bringing depth of despair, worries and at the end of their tether; I am committed to alleviation of the confusion, pain and despair surrounding a wide range of human concerns and worries.
Counselling is a life enriching process - Counselling is a commitment to Self.
Together we can make a difference to your emotional & mental health, creating mental wealth and well-being.
The way I work.......
My practice is underpinned by the premise ‘one size doesn’t fit all’ supporting through an integrative therapeutic framework from a Humanistic foundation.
I respect and honour each person as an individual with unique needs. I believe every person has the ability to reach for and achieve their fullest potential, this potential is forever flowing, moving and changing as life moves forwards for the better or worse, we can move with our individual life and get the very best of our self. I believe we hold the right to be self-directing at our own pace; supporting through a genuine non-judgmental, compassionate way of Being.
Consultative Supervision for practitioners engaged in one-to-one client support, professionals, volunteers and students in training. Offering a space to reflect upon all dimensions of your work whilst developing your counselling role.
Training, qualifications & experience
- Registered Member of British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapists Reg MBACP
- Accredited Bereavement Counsellor (Cruse)
- BACP certificate of proficiency
- First Aid qualified
- CPCAB Advanced Diploma In Therapeutic Counselling
AQA Certificate in Counselling Children & Adolescents
- AQA Sociology A Level
AQA Psychology GCSE
AQA Sociology GCSE
- NOCN Brief Interventions (BI)
Drug misuse awareness
- Advice & Guidance L3 - City & Guilds
Customer Service L3 - City & Guilds
- British Sign Language - BS -L1
- First Aid at Work L3
Training & CPD:
Proficient and experienced in the following:
- Online and Telephone Counselling (80 hours)
- The Open University and the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy - Working on-Line Primer
- Mindfulness-Based CBT Diploma
- Couples & Family Therapy Diploma
- Cruse Bereavement Care
Certificate in Supervision
Certificate Bereavement Program (60 hours)
Certificate of Accreditation
Certificate of Telephone Counselling
- Victim Support Training program
Serious Crime Trained
Supporting victims of domestic violence
Supporting victims of sexual abuse
- Doncaster Alcohol Services (DAS)
Solution Focused Brief Therapy Skills
Brief Intervention (BI)
Stages of Change Model
Motivational Interviewing (MI)
Body Process in Counselling
Child Sexual Abuse
Working with relational Trauma, dealing with disorganised attachment
Trauma & the Body - Somatisation and dissociation
- Healthcare NHS Trust
Time limited Counselling/Brief Therapy
The Inner Family
Healing the Inner Family
- Hospice CPD
Working with Suicide
Bereavement Master Class - Lois Tonkin 'Growing around Grief'
Completed many on-going training workshops to maintain and enhance my awareness, skills and knowledge. I believe in life-long learning and personal and professional development.
Completed a successful project funded by the National Lottery to identify 'Best Practice' for Assessing client needs; wrote, developed and delivered a Post Bereavement Assessment tool facilitating over 200 client assessment sessions, training 2 further Officers in the use and delivery of the tool and took lead to group supervision. I achieved Accredited Bereavement Counsellor status.
I have written, developed and facilitate a 6 monthly Psychoeducation Bereavement Support Program within a Children's Hospice setting; delivering on a monthly basis supporting families through the chaotic and traumatic effects the death of a precious and beloved Child brings.
I have written, developed and facilitate professional workshops on self-care, vicarious trauma, anxiety awareness, building resiliency and raising awareness of relational dynamics.
Knowledge and skill is important but it is of little use unless it is applied to daily living. Personal experience has been my biggest teacher and continues to be so.
I am no stranger to the journey you may be contemplating embark upon; perhaps the only difference is I set sail before you and am now the captain of my own ship and committed to on-going life-long process of growth and development.
It is my belief ALL persons regardless of age, experience or capabilities can fulfil their fullest potential starting from where they are in the here and now.
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
BACP is one of the UK’s largest professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy. Therapists registered with the Association fall into a number of different membership categories such as Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP and Registered Member MBACP (Accred), each standing for different levels of training and experience. MBACP (Accred) and MBACP (Snr Accred) members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
Registered members can be found on the BACP Register, which was the first register to achieve Accredited Voluntary Register status issued by the Professional Standards Authority. Individual Members will have completed an appropriate counselling and/or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but will not appear on the BACP Register until they've progressed to Registered Member MBACP status.
All members are bound by a Code of Ethics & Practice and a Complaints Procedure. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
Accredited Register Scheme
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I am interested in listening to and supporting ALL people:
Particularly interested, experienced in supporting recovery, repairing & rejuvenating the specific wounds left by:
- Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) from chronic long-term repetitive stress which may be from Childhood sexual, emotional or physical abuse, personal attacks, rape, repeated violations of personal boundaries, Narcissistic process in relationships, living in crisis or poverty.
- Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) from witnessing or being involved in domestic violence, relationship trauma, natural disasters, survivor guilt, a diagnosis of life-threatening conditions, flashbacks, nightmares, long-term mental health or physical issues.
- Loss of identity/Self - low self-esteem, confidence or self-worth.
- Healing from abusive relationships including domestic violence and relationships which can be considered a Narcissist process and way of relating.
- Alleviating suffering from:
High Anxiety states - Nervous breakdown, Generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) - Panic, Phobias, Social phobia's.
I have a particular interest and well read in Psychoanalytical psychology and the concepts of Carl Jung which emphasizes the importance of the individual psyche and the personal quest for wholeness.
I work successfully with parts of psyche and the patterns of behaviour which keep us stuck and are hard to change; for example anxiety, repeated patterns and complex stress disorders.
Inner Child healing, working with you to find your inner Child, connecting with and taking the inner journey to heal at deeper levels.
Working together in partnership to raise self-awareness, transforming that which is here and now and create and work towards your fullest potential becoming all you desire and wish to become to Self-actualize and the Individuation process Jung advocated.
Counselling is a powerful source of support for people who wish to develop personally I offer personal development sessions for those who don't necessarily need or want a 'talking therapy' but wish to develop, strengthen their Self-esteem, grow in confidence. The counselling room becomes a space for people who wish to understand Self emotionally or work on patterns of behaviour, to explore their spirituality rather than religion or build emotional resilience. Counselling support can be a journey for self-discovery and development.
It can also be a space to support building interpersonal and life skills i.e.
- Building Emotional authenticity.
- Time Management
- Debt management.
To name a few.
Counselling therapeutic hour:
Individual: £35 - Couples: £55
Supervision session 90 minutes:
Professionals £50 - Students/ Volunteers/Carers £35
Groups and families:
By discussion on needs and requirements.
I offer short-term and long term support and/or brief interventions as your needs dictate!
My portfolio is available to view at this session!
Concessions offered for
I work within the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) of which all members are bound by their code of ethics and which is accredited by Professional Standards Authority.
The pendulum of the mind osculates between sense and nonsense, not between right and wrong.
Reach high, for stars lie hidden in your soul. Dream deep, for every dream precedes the goal
Pamela Vaull Starr
Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway.
To embark on the journey towards your goals and dreams requires bravery. To remain on that path requires courage. The bridge that merges the two is commitment.
Allowing hope not pain to make the important decisions for life - because
Dying matters, life matters, peace matters - each and every individual person matters equally.
Please visit my website for further information http://www.pendulumofpeace.com