Sarah Butcher

I am an Integrative Kink Therapist, Coach & Educator, specialising in working with Individuals and Couples on Kink, BDSM & Alternative Lifestyle Relationships. 

With a background in training as a Humanistic Integrative Therapist, my approach to working with humans starts with knowing that you are the expert in your own world and that you have the capability to live a life that feels authentically aligned with your true values, beliefs and desires.  

My experience also translates into offering therapy through the lens of Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversity (GSRD), meaning my therapy room is a safe space for sex-positive, kink-informed, poly-aware, and LGBTQIA+ friendly therapy for individuals and couples. 

While your main reasons for seeking counselling may not directly be related to your sexuality or relationships, I know how important it is to feel comfortable to share these aspects of your life should they need to come up in therapy.

I have over 13 years of personal experience in Kink, BDSM & Alternative Lifestyle Relationships, and have been a coach and educator in this space for almost 6 years. I am a big believer that working with our sexuality is the key to healing in many other aspects of our life. 

When we dive into sex, especially kink, it unlocks the door to our shadow self, which in turn allows us to connect with other parts of ourselves that may need some care and attention. This could include but is not limited to, limiting beliefs, inner child work, confidence and self esteem, trauma, shame, attachment and much more. 

Whether you're looking to explore your desires and understand more about your kinks, or you're facing some challenges related to your sexuality, desires, intimacy & relationships, our work together will use compassionate and conscious inquiry into your thoughts and feelings and can draw on a variety of theories and tools from different aspects of psychology, spirituality, and mindfulness, to support you in your journey to living in alignment with your highest, most authentic self. 

Sessions can be held online on Zoom, or you can enquire about a limited number of F2F slots available in Bournemouth. 

Counselling or coaching?

Counselling sessions are 50 minutes long and available on a weekly or bi-monthly basis to explore any issues or challenges you are facing in your world. I provide a safe space for you to share your feelings and make sense of what is going on for you.

Coaching sessions are 1 hour long and available on a weekly, bi-monthly or monthly basis and are designed to focus on particular goals or challenges. Together we can get clear in what you're working towards, and I can provide education, mentorship and support that is more directive than counselling, whilst still using compassionate enquiry to help you gain clarity in your world. 

Next steps

To find out if we are a good fit to work together, please send me a message with a little bit of information about what you'd like to explore through our work together, and if this aligns, we can arrange a free 15 minute discovery call to discuss this further. 

Individual therapy sessions are £75 for 50 minutes 

Individual coaching/mentorship sessions are £111 for 1 hour

Couples Coaching is £222 for 90 minutes

Or, discounts available for booking in blocks of 4, 6 or 12 sessions.

All sessions are held online. Please enquire directly for limited F2F availability in Bournemouth. 

My availability can be flexible so please do contact me with your preferences if you are not sure. Evening sessions are in high demand.