About me
Most of the people I work with are in their late twenties or thirties. From the outside, life often looks like it is coming together — a demanding job, a relationship perhaps, friends, plans. Underneath, something is wearing thin.
They are tired in a way they didn't expect to be at this age, anxious in ways that don't always have a clear cause, and quietly worn down by the gap between how their life looks and how it actually feels to live it.
The themes I most often work with are anxiety and stress that won't quite settle, early burnout, low self-esteem, and relationship patterns that keep producing the same painful outcomes — closeness that feels unsafe, distance that feels lonely, a partner or friendship dynamic that echoes something from earlier in life.
People come because they are overthinking and not sleeping. Because they snap at the people they love and then can't shake the self-criticism. Because they say yes when they mean no, and feel quietly furious about it. Because the inner critic has been on duty for too long. Because they have started to wonder whether they are living a life they actually chose, or one they slid into because it was expected.
The things you arrive with are real, and we will work on them directly. I'll also pay attention to what is underneath them. In my experience, anxiety and self-criticism rarely arrive on their own. They usually belong to particular parts of you that have been working hard for a long time — a part that learned early to perform for approval, a part that braces for failure, a part that keeps everyone else's feelings in mind, a part that performs distance so as not to be hurt. Each of these parts has a story and a positive intention. None of them is the whole of you.
A lot of the work is learning to know these parts more clearly, take them a little less personally, and stop being run by them. From a quieter place inside, what you actually want, value, and choose tends to come into view.
That is the heart of the Psychosynthesis approach I trained in: warm, considered, and grounded in a respect for the whole person rather than a focus on what is "wrong" with you.
I offer weekly sessions, in person and online, and we work together for as long as is genuinely useful. We will begin with an initial conversation so we can talk about what is going on, what you are hoping for, and whether I am the right person to help. There is no obligation to continue after that.
Contact me today to schedule an initial consultation.
Training, qualifications & experience
I hold a diploma in Counselling, a diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling and a Masters Degree in Psychosynthesis Psychology from the Institute of Psychosynthesis in London, which is accredited by Middlesex University.
I adhere to the code of ethics and principles for approved professional practice and receive regular clinical supervision for my client work and I am professionally insured to practice.
LGBTQ+ affirming.
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Procrastination, depression, lack of motivation, emptiness, loneliness, lack of meaning
Therapies offered
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Fees
£75.00 per session
Concessions offered for
Additional information
Sessions last for 50 minutes at a cost of £75.
I operate a sliding scale and have a limited number of low-cost counselling spaces for those on a low wage.
When I work
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Available weekdays and some weekday evenings.
Further information
If you feel ready to take the next step in finding the help you need, feel free to email, text or call me to arrange an initial session. We can then talk together about what you would like to get out of your counselling sessions and discuss how to move forward on your journey of healing and self-development.
Text or call me on: 07769 734980
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