Alex Vendittelli
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About me
I'm a qualified psychotherapeutic counsellor offering couples therapy in-person and online.
Couples Therapy - A Space to Reconnect
You might notice yourselves stuck in familiar cycles: repeated arguments, emotional distance, or the feeling that you’re not being fully heard or understood. These patterns often form a loop where one partner’s reaction triggers the other’s and over time, it’s easy to lose sight of the closeness you once shared.
Couples therapy offers a space to step out of those loops, slow things down, and explore your relationship with curiosity rather than blame. Whether you're working through a specific issue like trust, sex, jealousy, navigating an open relationship, life transitions, or just feeling stuck, therapy can help you better understand your dynamics and find new ways to connect.
I take a collaborative and open approach, balancing appropriate challenge with a deep respect for each partner’s experience. Rather than offering quick fixes, I work with you to explore the deeper emotional patterns, unmet needs, and histories that may be shaping your current struggles. We’ll look at how you communicate, how you protect yourselves, and how you might better support each other emotionally.
This is a space where your relationship is not only accepted but understood. A space to reconnect with what brought you together in the first place, and to build something even more resilient and meaningful together.
How to Begin
I offer a free 20-minute Zoom consultation where you can ask questions and get a sense of how I work. If it feels like a good fit, we’ll schedule an initial assessment session to explore your concerns in more depth. Sessions typically take place weekly, at the same time each week.
Training, qualifications & experience
Diploma in Transactional Analysis Psychotherapeutic Counselling - Metanoia Institute
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Therapies offered
Fees
£85.00 per session
Concessions offered for
Health Insurance/EAP
Additional information
Individuals: £85/session
Couples: £120/session.
Payment is by bank transfer the day before each session. I operate a 7-day cancellation policy.
When I work
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Further information
What to Look for When Choosing a Therapist – Especially as a Gay Man
Starting therapy is a meaningful and often vulnerable step, and finding the right therapist can make all the difference. While credentials and training matter, it’s equally important to feel safe, seen, and genuinely understood. For gay men, this often includes finding someone who gets the nuances of your experience without needing constant explanation. Here are a few things to consider as you begin your search:
1. A Sense of Connection That Feels Real
Therapy works best when you feel truly met, as a whole person. That doesn’t mean your therapist will share every aspect of your life or always agree with you, but that they create a space of openness, curiosity, and respect. For many gay men, this might mean working with someone who understands the emotional terrain of coming out, navigating relationships, family dynamics, or the subtle impacts of growing up in a heteronormative world. Whether through shared identity or simply through deep empathy, the right therapist makes you feel less alone.
2. Shared Identity or Thoughtful Difference
You may be drawn to a therapist who is also gay, and for good reason, there can be deep comfort in not needing to explain certain aspects of your experience, from internalised homophobia to chosen family to dating apps. At the same time, a therapist of a different background can still offer powerful support, as long as they are genuinely open, informed, and committed to understanding your world without judgment. What matters most is whether the space feels inclusive, affirming, and safe to bring your full self.
3. A Style That Matches Your Needs
Therapists differ in how they work, some offer more structure and tools, others focus on exploration and insight. Ask yourself what feels most helpful right now: Are you looking for someone to help you process a breakup? Explore patterns in your relationships? Work through shame or anxiety? You can (and should) ask a potential therapist how they work and see if it aligns with what you’re looking for.
4. Credentials and Commitment
Your therapist should be professionally trained and registered with a recognised organisation, such as the BACP or UKCP. This ensures they adhere to ethical standards and are engaged in ongoing professional development, including education around identity, sexuality, culture, and intersectionality.
5. A Space Where You Don’t Have to Filter
Most importantly, therapy should be a space where you don’t have to edit, perform, or shrink parts of who you are. Whether you connect through shared experience or respectful difference, therapy should support your growth, not ask you to conform to someone else’s expectations. You deserve a space where your story, your identity, and your complexity are fully welcomed.
