Shane Ibbs Counselling, Adults, Children, Couples, Families.
7 Grove Road
07955 671 090 / 07955 671 090
Does it feel like no one understands you, or that no one really listens to you? Or maybe you feel the need to talk about the things that are affecting your happiness in life. Things such as your relationships, or family issue's, perhaps about one of your children. Or perhaps you have experienced a break up of a relationship or a bereavement that continues to affect you. Sharing how you feel about someone or something that is or was very close to you, can eventually be very healing. Perhaps you just want or need to talk to an independent trained counsellor, in a confidential, safe, calm and non-judgemental environment. So that you can work out some solutions for yourself. If you do, then I may well be able to help you. My approach to counselling is refreshingly different. There will not be any 'psychobabble' and I am often described as a 'down to earth' kind of person. You will be able to talk about what you want to talk about, in the knowledge that it will remain confidential. And if you mainly want me to listen to you, so that you can 'just let it out', or 'let off steam', then I can offer you that as well. My approach is described by others as, 'calm, patient, non judgemental and down to earth'. People say that I am 'easy to talk to', and that it feels 'safe and confidential'. I can offer you these same conditions.
Many people struggle with feelings of anxiety, or guilt, or feel frequently depressed or in a low mood. If this is the case then I can help by listening to you and exploring these thoughts and feelings with you. In doing this people eventually begin to feel more in control as they understand more about their situation. To acknowledge our thoughts and feelings and where they belong and why they are there often leads to people living happier lives.
Anger and frustration is on the increase, if this sounds familiar, perhaps you would like explore some strategies to learn how to control these thoughts and feelings, more of the time.
Or maybe you worry that you have a problem with alcohol or drugs. Or perhaps you have some other unhelpful compulsive behaviour, that you wish to change for yourself.
If you recognise any of the above or, anything else that is troubling you, remember you have already taken the first step, by reading this. I suggest that you contact me for an initial chat to see if we could work together. Or maybe you are ready to arrange a meeting with me. If we agree to work together then I will use all of my understanding and experience gained from over 22 years of working with people, to help you, to explore things. To help you to find a possible solution, an answer or an understanding, to enable you to deal better with your situation. I am passionate about my work and enjoy working with people whatever their background or personal circumstances. I believe that you have a right to be listened to without judgement. Whatever your reason for seeking counselling you will be shown the respect that you deserve in a safe and relaxed environment. I value whatever it is that you want to talk about and I do not have a set agenda and will work at your pace. However I am able to bring more structure to the sessions if that is what you want.
Client Quote 'You have been there for me at the hardest time in my life. The most helpful thing has been, that you don't judge me, even when I am being difficult'. (adult female)
I work as an Independent Counsellor in Private Practice, this means that you will receive a speedy, personal and confidential service. This means that the things we discuss will not become part of your medical records. Of course if you wish to inform your GP of our sessions you are free to do so. Your personal information will not be shared with anyone. Keeping your information confidential, is very important to me. It is also part of the 'code of practice', of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) whom I am a member of and also a Registered Practitioner. The exception to this is if a child (or vulnerable adult) is at risk of very serious harm.
I have a strong and established track record of helping people to make a difference in their lives. I believe it is always possible to make a positive difference. I believe that there is always a 'way back up'.
My 22 years of experience has been gained in a variety of settings some of which have included; my own private practice working with, adults, children and adolescents, couples and families. My private practice means that I get to work with a very wide range of people and all the various problems and difficulties, that life can throw at us. I have also previously worked for many years as a counsellor for 3 large charities. I have worked at a Hospice as a Bereavement Counsellor and I gained a reputation for my compassionate work with children who had experienced a bereavement of someone close. This also included work with their parents and families. I have also worked with children, adolescents and their families, in relation to a young persons drug or alcohol misuse and all the associated problems that it leads to. In addition I have also worked in a specialist clinic for adults with drug and/or alcohol problems. I have also worked in other setting's with children and families in helping to resolve a variety of child and family difficulties. This broad range of experience means that I have worked with a wide variety of issues and with a broad range of people, across the age spectrum and from many walks of life. This has given me a rich experience to draw from. I continue to learn and am often inspired by the very people who require my services.
Children and Adolescents
I would like to say few words on working with children and adolescents. I have many years experience of working successfully with children and adolescents. When I work with children and adolescents I use a different approach. My approach is mindful of the three different stages of a child's development. Children and adolescents go through several different emotional and developmental stages and changes, before reaching adulthood. They see the world differently compared to adults. So it is important that a counselling approach takes account of this. I am always consciously mindful of this and tailor the work according to an individual child's age, ability and personality. A younger child will normally experience the work as 'play' although it will be therapeutic play.
Parent Quote; ' My son has only seen you a few times and you have helped him to open up more to us, which has helped us talk more with him' (Parent of an older teenager).
Parent Quote; 'Since coming with my son his school work has really improved and home life is now much calmer. I think I have learnt how to deal with things differently, I don't worry so much about the small stuff'. (Parent of 12 year old)
Adolescent Quote "Thank you Shane, you have really helped me to understand my thoughts about my best friend dying. I have not been able to talk about it before, to anyone. I feel okay talking to you. Now I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I feel like I can carry on with my life now". (Older Teenager)
In family work it is not just about counselling the person with the 'problem'. After all the 'problem' normally affects everyone in some way. It is in my opinion more about empowering parents/carers and children, to find new way's of working and being together, as a more supportive family unit. It is about building on existing parenting skills. It is about creating more understanding of each other. Some times I uses the analogy of the family being 'a team'. The best team's play together and work together, they do it for each other and recognise that they all bring something different and valuable to the team. They have a set of rules that they all subscribe to. Sometimes this gets lost in the business of our family lives. In my family work sessions I try to help families get back on track. Family work can be done, without everyone being there.
Quote " I feel much more confident in dealing with my family since seeing you. I am now much more able to stay calm and it has made me feel much more positive about my role as a parent". (Parent)
Quote "I really like it because you give me good ideas in how to handle my child and you let me choose which will work. It has made a big difference". (Parent)
Walking and Talking Nature Therapy Sessions;
I also offer 'Nature Therapy' counselling sessions. This is where the work is done outside in a green natural environment. It might be in a park, some other open green space or even in a wood. It might be simply walking and talking or it could involve some actual engagement with the natural environment, facilitated by me. And if you have your own ideas even better. It can be one to one, or with a family group, or even a work group/team. There is a growing body of evidence that 'Nature Therapy' is profoundly good for people. Research has been carried out in the UK, Scandinavia, USA and Japan. It has found that Nature Therapy can have positive effects on reducing levels of stress and anxiety. It can improve our thinking and our general emotional and mental welfare. It has been scientifically measured and been found to calm the brain's alpha waves and decrease cortisol (the stress hormone) levels in our bodies. It also increase's the bodies natural production of Serotonin, our own natural anti-depressant.
Client Quote; 'I find being out in nature with Shane clears my mind quickly, it helps me think, I feel more relaxed. It is now my preferred way of meeting for our sessions'. (Adult male client)
Client Quote ; 'Now we have tried some outside session's, I prefer it to being inside the counselling room'.
Length of counselling. As everyone is unique it is not possible to say 'how long'. Sometimes a one off consultation can be helpful. Although many people find that up to 6 sessions can be sufficient to make enough of a difference. Whereas other people, want to work longer. I work both short and long term with people depending on their wishes. This is can be discussed with me to help you decide what would best suit you. I normally review sessions along the way, to see how things are going and to check if you wish to continue with the sessions.
The Room. I run my Private Practice from a comfortable counselling room off Moulsham Street, close to Chelmsford town centre. With public parking close by. I can provide appointments in the day, evenings and some weekends.
Disability Access. I have experience of working with people who have a disability and am able to provide appointments for people needing access via a wheelchair or other mobility difficulties, at an alternative venue.
For your reassurance I am a member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and I was automatically put onto the new 'Professional Standards Authority for Health and Social Care Register'. The register is for counsellors who meet the new recognised standard's of training, professional practice and on-going personal and professional development.
Contact details. Please give me a call, or text me to make an appointment or ask a question on, 07955 671090. Alternatively you can email me with your enquiry at:- email@example.com
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When I am otherwise engaged and unable to take your call please leave a confidential voice mail, text or email message with the details of your telephone number and when and how I can get back to you and I will contact you as soon as I can. Thank you.
A THOUGHT; 'Out beyond ideas of wrong doing and right doing there is a field. I'll meet you there'. (Rumi)
ANOTHER THOUGHT; 'There are always other possibilities'.
Training, qualifications & experience
My qualifications include;
'Accredited Diploma' Integrative Counselling (BACP 'Accredited')
Post Graduate Diploma Family Therapy (Tavistock Clinic, London).
Certificate's using 'Creative Art in Counselling'
Certificate in 'Motivational Interviewing'
Certificate in 'Youth Work'.
Certificate in 'Brief Solution Focused Therapy'. (International Presentations via the 'Brief Therapy Practice' London.)
Certificate's and experience in 'Nature Therapy' (Outdoor Counselling).
I am a long standing Member of the, British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP).
I am also a, Registered Member, of the Professional Standards Authority for Health and Social Care.
I was recently invited and have joined a wilderness and nature therapy based charity, to help deliver therapeutic work with children and adolescents in an outdoor setting. Using the increasing evidenced based properties of nature and the natural environment, as a therapeutic tool in helping children who are experiencing emotional or mental health issue's, to gain personal qualities such as; personal resilience, empowerment, resourcefulness, increased self esteem, enhanced positive communication skills etc. I have also helped the organisation to deliver nature based learning and experiences in an outdoor setting to school children.
In recent years I was part of a small team that was given a National Award for our specialist therapeutic work with children, adolescents and their families. I have also worked in a specialist bereavement counselling service for children and their families, funded by the BBC's 'Children in Need' charity.
As a youth worker in the early 1990's I had experience as a facilitator on a County Council Education Dept, Outward Bound Courses held in Council owned woodland. I have also previously been a volunteer facilitator-guide for DeafBlind UK, working on an Outward Bound course for adults with duel sensory impairment.
I have been trained by the NSPCC and The Children's Society, to deliver seminars and talks to children, parents and professionals on a diverse range of children and parenting issues. I also have my own personal experiences as a parent of three children. I am occasionally invited to give bespoke seminar presentations to professionals who work with children and adolescents. I have also delivered bespoke workshops addressing the current issues that effect young people to groups of children and young people. My talks have been described as 'real', 'informative', 'lively' and 'fun'.
I am Professionally Insured and I have an Enhanced CRB Check, for working with children and 'vulnerable adults'.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Anger management
- Bipolar disorder/Manic depression
- Carer support
- Child related issues
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Family issues
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Parenting issues after family breakdown/break-up/divorce.
Parenting from a non-resident parents perspective, after separation or divorce.
I have an extra interest in male specific issues, for men, adolescents and boys.
I also take Pet bereavement very seriously.
Outdoor Nature Therapy Sessions are available.
My fees are £40 per session.
Fees may be negotiable according to your personal financial circumstances.
A Counselling session is 50 minuets.
Occasionally some people prefer a longer session, this can be arranged by mutual agreement.
If you are ex-Military personal the first session is free.
Nature Therapy sessions are individually priced, please ask for details.
My fee's to Professional bodies for my consultation services are subject to individual negotiation.
I also have experience of and enjoy working with Student Counsellors, needing to meet their training requirements for personal therapy.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
8am-8pm weekdays. Fortnightly Saturdays 9am-4pm, for a one off, initial consultation.
Types of client