Nick Haynes
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Raleigh Park Clinic 45 Raleigh Park Rd Oxford Oxon OX2 9AR View map |
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07890 850563
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Profile
I work as a Relate trained couples counsellor and individual counsellor in private practice in Oxford. I specialize in resolving communication and relationship issues which affect the intimacy and closeness in a relationship.
Whilst many couples come to counselling to help them stay together, some may not be sure about the future of the relationship or may want help to separate. As a counsellor I work with whatever the intended outcome is for which the couple are seeking counselling.
My principal counselling style is what is called integrative.
This simply means that I use a number of different theoretical understandings and counselling techniques that I feel fit your specific needs as a couple or individual.
The main theoretical understandings that I draw on are psychodynamic, including attachment theory,person-centred approach, emotionally focused therapy EFT, aspects of cognitive and behavioural therapy, systemic theory and T.A (transactional analysis).
Psychodynamic theory includes looking at how the past creates the present and how the family that we grew up in has an effect on our present day behaviour and how we relate to our partner when we are in a relationship.
An important aspect of how we relate with our partner is called our attachment style. When there are problems in a relationship it is often because both partners are feeling insecure, may be feeling anxious, have lost touch with their feelings of closeness and do not know how to get back the reassurance and the connection with the other that they need.I work with couples to help to identify the feelings and patterns of interactions that are causing the disconnection and to find new ways of engaging with the other that re-establish the security, intimacy and trust in the relationship.
If you decide to call me and book a session I call this first session an assessment session. I do not assume that you know when you first contact me either that you are sure that you want to go ahead with a number of counselling sessions or of course that you know that I am the right counsellor for you.
Attending this session does not commit you to counselling with me and it is fine after we have met on this first occasion if you want to go away and think about it or try elsewhere.
I also work as a mediator and offer preparation for family mediation ( pre-family mediation) for couples and individuals who are in the process of separating and divorcing and need help with communication, relational and emotional issues before making practical agreements in family mediation. See www.peopleincommunication.co.uk
Training, Qualifications & Experience
Certificate in Counselling Skills- Central School of Counselling and Therapy, London 1994
Certificate in Counselling Theory- Central School of Counselling and Therapy, London 1994
Combined Certificate in Counselling- Central School of Counselling and Therapy, London 1994
Ta101 ( Transactional Analysis) - Institute of transactional Analysis, London 2002
The Relate Graduate Certificate in Couples Counselling- University of East London, 2006
ADR Family Mediation Foundation Training, Bristol 2008
As an Associate Member of the BACP I am bound by it's Ethical Framework for Good Practice in Counselling and Psychotherapy (where practitioners undertake research) and subject to the Professional Conduct Procedure for the time being in force.
I have a background in counselling, healing and the business world.
I work in Oxford as a counsellor in private practice and also for Relate seeing couples and individuals.
In addition I trained as a family mediator and run a mediation service that offers support for separating and divorcing couples - www.peopleincommunication.co.uk
As part of my training I have undergone my own counselling over many years and can work with the personal, practical and spiritual in my counselling.
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and Betrayals
- Anger Management
- Anxiety
- Bereavement
- Couples Counselling
- Depression
- Domestic Violence
- Emotional Abuse
- Low Self-Confidence
- Low Self-Esteem
- Relationship Issues
- Separation and Divorce
- Sexuality
- Spirituality
- Stress
- Work Related Issues
Other areas of counselling I deal with
Pre-marriage relationship information and counselling.
Marital mediation for couples who wish to make agreements to remain married rather than go through divorce.
I also offer counselling/mentoring if someone specifically wanted to talk through a dilemma or knotty issue they are having difficulty deciding on and would like a "sounding board".
It could be about a work or personal issue but one that they feel that they would benefit from using someone to jointly explore and clarify the issue without being told what to do. It could be a one-off session
Therapies Offered
- Cognitive and Behavioural Therapies
- Psychoanalytical and Psychodynamic - Psychodynamic Therapy
- Humanistic Therapies - Transactional Analysis
- Other Therapies - Integrative
- Family/Systemic Therapy
Fees
Couples and Individual Counselling £48 per 50 min session
Mediation and Communication Resolution - www.peopleincommunication.co.uk
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