The link between trauma and narcissism

Narcissism is a personality trait that is often associated with self-absorption, a sense of entitlement, and a lack of empathy towards others. While it is not necessarily a disorder in and of itself, narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a mental health condition that is characterised by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. Narcissism is often seen as a negative trait, and many people wonder what type of trauma causes it. In this article, we will explore the different types of trauma that can contribute to the development of narcissism.

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Types of trauma

Trauma can be defined as an event or series of events that are emotionally or psychologically distressing and overwhelming. Trauma can be experienced in many different ways and can result from a wide range of experiences. Here are some of the most common types of trauma:

Childhood trauma

Childhood trauma is one of the most common types of trauma that can contribute to the development of narcissism. Childhood trauma can take many different forms, including physical, emotional, and sexual abuse, neglect, and abandonment. Children who experience trauma often develop coping mechanisms to help them deal with the overwhelming emotions and feelings that come with the experience. These coping mechanisms can include developing a sense of entitlement, a need for control, and a lack of empathy towards others.

Relationship trauma

Relationship trauma can also contribute to the development of narcissism. Relationship trauma can include experiences such as being betrayed by a partner, being rejected by someone important, or experiencing the loss of a loved one. People who experience relationship trauma may develop a sense of entitlement, a need for control, and a lack of empathy towards others as a way to protect themselves from further emotional pain.

Victimisation trauma

Victimisation trauma refers to experiences in which a person is victimised by another person or group of people. This can include experiences such as physical or sexual assault, bullying, or discrimination. People who experience victimisation trauma may develop a sense of entitlement, a need for control, and a lack of empathy towards others as a way to protect themselves from further victimisation.

Identity trauma

Identity trauma refers to experiences in which a person's sense of self is threatened or shattered. This can include experiences such as the loss of a job, a divorce, or a major illness. People who experience identity trauma may develop a sense of entitlement, a need for control, and a lack of empathy towards others as a way to protect their sense of self and regain a sense of control.

How does trauma contribute to narcissism?

Narcissism can develop as a coping mechanism in response to trauma. People who experience trauma often feel overwhelmed by the emotions and feelings that come with the experience and may develop a sense of detachment from their emotions as a way to cope.

This detachment can lead to a lack of empathy towards others, which is a key characteristic of narcissism. Additionally, people who experience trauma may develop a sense of entitlement and a need for control as a way to protect themselves from further emotional pain.

Treatment for narcissism

Treatment for narcissism can involve a combination of different approaches, including therapy, medication, and self-help strategies. The specific treatment plan will depend on the severity of the person's symptoms and any co-occurring mental health conditions.

Therapy

Therapy can be a helpful treatment option for narcissism. A therapist who specialises in personality disorders can work with the person to help them identify and change negative thought patterns and behaviours. One type of therapy that may be helpful for people with narcissism is psychodynamic therapy, which focuses on exploring unconscious thoughts and emotions.

Medication

While there are no medications specifically approved for the treatment of narcissism, medication can be helpful in managing co-occurring mental health conditions such as depression or anxiety. Antidepressants and anti-anxiety medications may be prescribed to alleviate symptoms.

Self-help strategies

There are a variety of self-help strategies that can be helpful for managing narcissism. For example, mindfulness meditation can help people become more aware of their thoughts and emotions, which can be helpful in reducing narcissistic tendencies. Engaging in hobbies or activities that are not focused on personal achievement can also be helpful in promoting a healthier sense of self.

Group therapy

Group therapy can be a helpful treatment option for people with narcissism. In a group therapy setting, people with similar experiences can connect and provide support for each other. This can be particularly helpful for people with narcissism, who often struggle with feelings of isolation and inadequacy.


It is important to note that treatment for narcissism can be challenging, as people with the condition may resist the idea that they need help. However, with the right approach, recovery is possible.

If you or someone you know is struggling with narcissism, it is important to seek professional help from a mental health provider who specialises in personality disorders. They can help develop a treatment plan that is tailored to the individual's needs and goals.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Counselling Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Ian Stockbridge is the founder and lead counsellor at Hope Therapy and Counselling Services. 

As an experienced Counsellor, Ian recognised a huge societal need for therapeutic services that were often not being met. As such the 'Hope Agency'was born and its counselling team now offers counselling and therapeutic support throughout the UK.

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