On the power of stories
One of the great advantages of being a therapist is being in the presence of people’s stories, having the privilege of being let into their lives and being a witness to them.
The therapist's job is not only to hear what is being said but also help clients tell their story and express what is hidden or difficult to put into words, to notice what is not being said, to help put together what may seem disjointed, to make sense of it all.
The beauty and the power of stories in literature, films, real life and in the counselling room - to help us get in touch with our deeper selves and to connect with others is unquestionable. And yet, there are stories into which we can get trapped, stories we can carry with like as a burden, sad or tragic stories we keep repeating and telling ourselves until we identify with them completely.
They can turn into our deepest, core beliefs about ourselves, about other people, the world or the future. Everything that happens to us gets then filtered through them, proving to us that they are true. A breakup of a relationship can confirm to us that we are unlovable, an unkind remark by a stranger will be a sign that people are bad, an unfortunate accident the proof that the world is a cruel and dangerous place.
What happens to us can often be out of our control, but it is important to remember that we can control how we interpret what happens, what meaning we give to it and what we tell ourselves afterwards. We can choose which story to believe and decide to let go of the one that is no longer serving us well. We can choose to begin creating a new story.
The story we tell ourselves is the most powerful story of all.
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