About me
Counselling for Individuals (including ADHD), Couples and Partners
I am Carl, a qualified integrative counsellor and relationship therapist. I work with adults and young adults aged 16 and over, as well as couples and partners. I work in person from my room in Shoeburyness and online.
Would you like to live according to what is important to you despite the challenges life brings?
How I work
The relationship with yourself is your most vital one because it shapes your life through the decisions you make and connections you forge with others. With me, you will learn to trust your instincts and make authentic choices, rather than just doing what you feel you "should."
While anchored in the person-centred approach, I integrate therapies like ACT, CBT, EFT, Mindfulness, Imago and Gottman to tailor our sessions to your unique needs. My practice is built on two core beliefs: change requires feeling safe to be yourself, and you deserve a rich, meaningful life.
We won't deny life’s inevitable challenges. Instead, we will work together to manage struggles such as ADHD, burnout, grief, or relationship issues, overcome obstacles, and help you cope with adversity so you can live according to your what is important to you and who you are.
I invite you to connect in calm, supportive space where you can speak openly and feel heard as you are, and accepted as who you are.
Individual counselling
I commonly work with:
- Anxiety, stress and burnout
- Depression and low mood
- Grief, bereavement and other forms of loss
- Self-esteem, shame and identity
- ADHD, autism and AuDHD
- Relationship difficulties
- Gender expectations and relationship roles
- Attachment wounds and the effects of difficult early experiences
- Traumatic experiences
Communication styles and assertiveness. - Motivation, purpose and meaning.
I will gently support you through deep struggles whether you are facing childhood trauma, grief, anxiety, or the heavy feeling of "not enough." Together, we will explore and heal what lies beneath, with the goal of helping you feel liberated to make your own choices.
While I will ask challenging questions, my priority is to hear you and understand your experience. Unlike well-meaning friends or family, you won’t feel like you’re burdening me, and I will never tell you what to do, but will instead empower you to find your own way.
Relationship Therapy
You may still love one another but feel unable to communicate without becoming defensive, withdrawing or escalating into conflict. Trust may have been damaged by betrayal, secrecy, acting out or repeated rejection. Alternatively, the relationship may have become distant, leaving one or both of you unsure whether it can continue.
I can help with:
- Communication difficulties and recurring conflict
- Emotional or physical disconnection
- Trust, betrayal and infidelity
- Rejection and abandonment
- Differences in emotional or relational needs
- The impact of ADHD on a relationship
- Relationship breakdown
- Separation and divorce
I don’t assume that every couple wants to remain together. It can help you understand what has happened, decide whether and how the relationship can move forward, or navigate separation more cleanly with less unnecessary conflict.
In relationship therapy, the relationship itself is my focus and I do not take sides. You will both have the space to express yourselves, understand your dynamic, and learn to communicate your emotional needs more clearly.
Using proven approaches like the Imago and Gottman methods, we will work through the past hurts and resentments that have built up over time. Whether your goal is to deeply heal your partnership or transition into a healthy co-parenting or friendship dynamic, we will focus on helping you truly see and understand each other again.
ADHD-informed therapy
While ADHD is genetic, factors like stress, trauma, and your environment deeply shape how manageable it feels. You may have spent years masking or facing criticism for being "too much" or "not trying hard enough," which can take a heavy toll on your confidence and identity.
As an ADHD-informed therapist, I can help you untangle how ADHD interacts with your emotions, relationships, and self-esteem, while we work through any lingering shame or stress. Our goal isn't to make you conform, but to help you truly understand yourself and build a life that genuinely works for you.
Locations
I offer online therapy throughout the UK, and in-person therapy from my room in Shoeburyness .
Getting Started
Starting counselling can feel like a big step, so I aim to keep the process simple and comfortable.:
Free 15-minute introductory call
You’re welcome to book a free 15-minute call to ask questions and see if I’m the right fit for you. There’s no obligation to continue.
Training, qualifications & experience
You deserve counselling that is safe, professional and grounded in trust. My work follows the ethical standards of the National Counselling & Psychotherapy Society (NCPS) and the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). I am an accredited member of both.
I hold a Level 4 Counselling Practitioner Diploma in integrative counselling. My training is rooted in the person-centred approach and supported by CBT, Transactional Analysis and psychodynamic theory. This foundation helps create a safe, non-judgemental space where difficult experiences can be explored and understood.
I am certified in Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) with The Association for Psychological Therapies (APT). It is about helping you live the life you want, even when difficult thoughts and feelings show up. Rather than trying to get rid of anxiety, sadness or painful memories, we learn how to stop them controlling our choices, so you can move towards what matters most to you.
However, ACT doesn’t ask you to pretend difficult experiences didn’t happen or to question your reality. Instead, it acknowledges that painful thoughts and emotions are understandable responses to what you’ve been through. Together, we explore how those experiences may still be influencing your life today, and how you can begin making choices based on what matters to you now, rather than what your past demands of you.
I have additional training with Cruse Bereavement Support to work with grief and loss, and am certified in Couples & Relationship Therapy.
My work is also informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy. I trained as an Emotionally Focused Individual Therapist (EFIT) through the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy. This approach is grounded in attachment science and focuses on understanding emotions, strengthening connection and restoring a sense of safety in relationships.
Alongside therapy I also draw on Positive Psychology, which focuses on strengths, meaning and resilience. This can be helpful when navigating life transitions, burnout, identity questions, grief or major changes. It also helps to move forward with ADHD.
I subscribe to the science that informs the mind-body connection and integrate mindfulness and meditation into my practice. I will always check in case it is not for you.
I continue to train so the counselling I offer remains current, responsive and suited to the needs of the people I work with.
Member organisations
school Registered / Accredited
Being registered/accredited with a professional body means an individual must have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by their member organisation.
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
The National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society This Not For Profit association of counsellors and psychotherapists aim to support the counselling profession, members and training organisations. In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
I embrace diversity and inclusivity because you deserve to be heard for who you are or who you choose to be.
Therapies offered
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Fees
£60.00 - £120.00
Concessions offered for
Health Insurance/EAP
Additional information
My fees for individual therapy are as follows:
- 50 minute sessions cost £60
- 60 minute sessions cost £65
- 90 minute sessions cost £80
My fees for relationship therapy (two or more clients) are:
- 90 minute sessions cost £90
- 120 minute sessions cost £120
Each session is payable in advance.
I am a registered provider for WPA, Aviva and VitalityHealth, offering counselling services through their healthcare and Employee Assistance Programs (EAP). All engagements of this type must be pre-authorised by your healthcare/EAP provider.
Please note that your EAP provider may not cover my entire fee.
When I work
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Further information
For In-person counselling, my therapeutic base room is in Shoeburyness, in the top of the house where it is quiet and we won’t be overheard or disturbed. There is free on-street parking in the street and also in adjacent streets within a 5 minute walk. I can also arrange in-person sessions closer to you in Southchurch or Leigh-on-Sea if travelling to Shoeburyness is a problem.
I don’t offer a toilet facility.
I also host online video counselling via Google Meet with telephone counselling as a backup. I can also offer FaceTime and WhatsApp.
