Lorraine Bygrave

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Accredited EMDR Psychotherapist, Anxiety & Trauma Specialist
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Benfleet, Essex, SS7 1PW
Available for new clients
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About me

I am an experienced and accredited psychotherapist and EMDR practitioner. I offer in-person therapy in Essex and online therapy for people all over the UK and the world. I provide friendly, empathic, and non-judgmental care.

I specialize in many areas of psychotherapeutic treatment, including trauma, relationship problems, phobias, and addictions. I also help people who are suffering from feelings of anger, anxiety, depression, and stress. Therapy can also help with confidence, communication, assertiveness, and anger problems, and can help you to look at things from other perspectives.

My therapy journey with you can help you to better understand, manage, and cope with your feelings, and to gain a better understanding of yourself.

Seeking therapy is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. It shows that you are ready for change. I am here for you to listen and to help you find the answers. The hardest part is often making that first phone call, but once you have done that, it shows that your inner strength is helping you through.

I help people of all ages and tailor my sessions accordingly. This is because young children, adolescents, and adults require different approaches and adaptations according to their needs.

I am a fully insured and accredited EMDR Practitioner, as well as an accredited member of The National Counselling Society. I am registered with the BACP and hold a certificate of proficiency. I also hold an enhanced DBS certificate for working with children as well as an Approved Adoption Counsellor by Barnardo's LINK.

Here is what happens during therapy:

First, we will arrange an assessment appointment, either by email, text, or telephone, whichever is most convenient for you. In your enquiry you will provide me with a brief paragraph letting me know what you would like help with.

At the assessment, I will find out a little more about you, your history, medication, and health issues, and then discuss your reasons for seeking therapy. I will also discuss your expectations, goals, and where you would like to be in your life in the future. In this meeting, we will both be able to decide whether we feel comfortable working with each other. I will explain how I work and which type of therapy would help you most in your current situation.
Throughout the sessions, we will work towards the root cause of your issues, confront them, and move forward into a new, more satisfying lifestyle, whilst offering a safe environment for you to explore the issues that are affecting your life.

Here are some of the therapy approaches I use:

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a type of therapy that is used to treat trauma and other mental health conditions. EMDR works by helping the person to process the traumatic event in a safe and controlled environment. This is done by using a variety of techniques, including eye movements, taps, or tones

We will look at your history, develop resources which will help you both during, in between and after therapy. These will be valuable tools which will help you to calm and regulate your nervous system.

Mindfulness and Meditation is encouraged as well as exercise and healthy eating.
Once everything is in place we will look at what is troubling you now and connect to your negative beliefs and emotions that you may have about yourself.

We will then trace them back to when you first started to have this belief. This will then be processed using bilateral stimulation or Eye Movements.
Once processed a positive cognition will be installed. This will help you to feel better about yourself and help you cope and look at your future in a different way.

The whole process of EMDR therapy will help to change your thought process. It will help you to understand yourself more, be kinder to yourself and value yourself.

In turn this will help to reduce stress, anxiety and depression which if not treated can have an immense affect on your physical body.

Intensive EMDR Therapy is a type of EMDR therapy that is done over a shorter period of time, typically 3-5 days. This type of therapy is often used for people who have severe trauma or who are not able to make progress with traditional EMDR therapy.

IADC therapy, or Induced After Death Communication therapy, is a type of therapy that helps people who are grieving the loss of a loved one. It is based on the belief that death is not the end of our existence, but rather a transition to another state of being.

IADC therapy generally involves two sessions on two consecutive days. The first session focuses on reducing the sadness associated with grief by using a modified protocol of EMDR therapy. EMDR therapy is a type of therapy that helps people to process traumatic memories. In the first IADC therapy session, the therapist will help the client to identify and focus on the memories that are associated with the grief. The therapist will then use eye movements, taps, or tones to help the client to process the memories.

Once the client has processed the memories in the first session, they will be in a better state to experience the second session of IADC therapy. The second session focuses on cultivating a state of receptivity. In this state, the client is more open to receiving messages from their deceased loved one. The therapist will help the client to relax and to focus on their thoughts and feelings. The therapist may also use guided imagery to help the client to connect with their deceased loved one.

In this state of receptivity, most clients perceive a deep and loving connection with their deceased loved one. They may experience this connection through one or more of the five senses, or through some other sense-of-presence perception. For example, they may hear their loved one's voice, see their loved one's face, or feel their loved one's touch.

IADC therapy can be a powerful experience for people who are grieving the loss of a loved one. It can help them to gain closure, to find comfort, and to move on with their lives. If you are interested in learning more about IADC therapy, I encourage you to do some research. There are many books and websites that can provide you with more information. 

Here are some of the benefits of IADC therapy:

It can help people to gain closure and to find comfort after the loss of a loved one.
It can help people to connect with their deceased loved ones and to receive messages of love and support.
It can help people to heal from grief and trauma.
It can help people to live a more meaningful and fulfilling life.
If you are considering IADC therapy, it is important to remember that it is not a miracle cure. It is a process that can take time and effort. However, for many people, IADC therapy has been a valuable tool for healing and transformation.

Attachment-informed Therapy is a type of therapy that is used to help people who have attachment-related problems. Attachment theory is a theory of human development that focuses on the importance of early relationships in shaping our later relationships. Attachment-informed therapy can help people to heal from the wounds of their past and to develop healthier attachment patterns.

Change can be difficult and can bring up a whole abundance of emotions. I will be there to support you through that journey.

If you are interested in finding out more about my services, please do not hesitate to contact me. I would be happy to answer any questions you have and to discuss whether I am the right therapist for you.Therapy Approach

My approach is integrative. This means that I can draw on all of my training and previous client experiences, and life experiences and utilize use a wide range of counselling approaches, which will enable me to assess your needs and offer a unique service to each individual.

Some of my therapy approaches include EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), TA (Transactional Analysis), SFBT (Solution Focussed Brief Therapy) Person-Centred, Psychodynamic and Mindfulness.

Why choose me for therapy?

  • Tailored therapy for each client
  • Friendly
  • Professional
  • Confidential
  • Caring
  • Non-judgemental
  • Fully qualified
  • Fully insured
  • Safe and comfortable environment
  • Provides counselling for all ages
  • Enhanced DBS checked
  • Accredited Member of  Professional Bodies.
  • Adoption Trained
  • Committed to Ongoing Professional Development

Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any questions, I will look forward to hearing from you..

Training, qualifications & experience

Trained in IADC Therapy

Trained in AI-EMDR Therapy

Image Transformation Therapy

EMDR Levels 1,2,3 and 4

EMDR Child Trauma Training Level 1 and Level 2

EMDR Accreditation EMDR Complex Trauma Certificates

EMDR - Pain Control - Mark Grant

EMDR - RTEP (Recent Traumatic Episode Protocol)

EMDR - GTEP (Group Traumatic Episode Protocol)

Hosted by Trauma Response Network to aid immediate responses to Mass Trauma and Acts of Terrorism within the U.K

Attachment-Focussed Healing Developmental Deficits and Adults Abused As Children

With Laurel Parnell, PhD.

The Feeling- State Addiction Protocol with Robert Miller, PhD.

Image Transformation Therapy

Eating Disorders and EMDR with Pam Virdi

Rewiring the Addicted Brain with Laurel Parnell.

Flash Technique with Philip Manfield

Approved by the Police Firearms Officers Association

Approved Adoption Counsellor by Barnardos LINK

Certificate in Counselling Supervision

Practitioner Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Certificate of Proficiency British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy

Level 4 AQA Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling

Level 2 AQA Introduction to Counselling Concepts.

Level 2 AQA Certificate in Counselling Skills

Certificate for Counselling Children and Young People

Certificate for Supporting Substance Misuse Clients Awareness

Certificate for Children's Family and Play

Certificate for Safeguarding Children Training

Certificate For Safeguarding of Vulnerable Adults.

Certificate For An Introduction To Family Therapy

Familiar with attachment and trauma, adopted, foster children and their carers.

Certificate of Attendance on Offender Behaviour & Specialist Risk Assessment

Certificate of Attendance on the Management of ADHD and associated problems in Children

Certificate of Attendance For Open Door In House Safeguarding Children and Case Management training.

Certificate of Attendance For Sexual Health Awareness Foundation Training (SHAFT)

Certificate of Achievement on successful completion of the "Losing The Will To Live: Self Harm and Suicide" Training

Certificate of Attendance Jim Knipe's "EMDR Toolbox"

AIP Methods for treating Complex PTSD & Dissociative Personality Structure

A weekend with Master EMDR Clinician Jim Knipe

Induced After Death Communication (IADC Therapy) with  César Valdez

Member organisations

Registered / Accredited

Registered / Accredited

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National Counselling & Psychotherapy Society (NCPS)

The National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society

This Not For Profit association of counsellors and psychotherapists aim to support the counselling profession, members and training organisations.

In 2013 the NCS register was accredited by the Professional Standards Authority under the Accredited Voluntary Register Scheme. Accredited by the Professional Standards Authority.

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP)

BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred).

Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision.

Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training.

All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.

EMDR Association UK (EMDR UK)


Accredited register membership

National Counselling & Psychotherapy Society
Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

National Counselling & Psychotherapy Society
British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy
Accredited Register Scheme

The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).

This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.

British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy

Areas of counselling I deal with

Other areas of counselling I deal with

Offering therapy In person, Online and telephone.

In Person - Lorraine's practice is set in a peaceful location in the heart of Benfleet.

There is parking, its near to Benfleet Train station and bus routes.

On Line via Zoom and Bilateral Base (an online platform designed especially for EMDR Therapy)

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Free initial telephone session

Health Insurance/EAP

  • Aviva
  • WPA
  • Vitality

Additional information

I offer a free 15-minute telephone consultation. Thanks book a consultation please click on the link 👇 







Please contact me for a referral form:- enquiries@benfleetcounselling.co.uk.

Fees do vary depending on the length of your session.

90 minute sessions are also available and are charged pro rata of my hourly rate.

When I work

Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat Sun

Monday - Thursday 9.00am - 7.00pm

Fridays 9.00am - 1.00pm

Further information

With effect from July 2023, I will be offering Intensive  EMDR Therapy. This is the equivalent of 3 months of therapy in one week.  I will be also offering IADC Therapy.

IADC therapy is Induced After Death Communication and is suitable for people who are "stuck" in their grief. 

Benfleet Counselling And Psychotherapy Ltd, Benfleet Water Tower, 335 Benfleet Road, Benfleet, Essex, SS7 1PW

Type of session

In person
Home visits

Types of client

Children (0-12)
Young people (13-17)
Young adults (18-24)
Adults (25-64)
Older Adults (65+)
Employee Assistance Programme

Key details

DBS check

In England and Wales, the Disclosure and Barring Service (DBS, formerly known as CRB) carry out criminal records checks for individuals working with vulnerable groups, such as children. To find out more, visit gov.uk , or contact this professional directly

I have a therapy rooms both on the ground floor and 2nd floor. If you struggle with stairs, please let me know and I will make sure that the ground floor therapy room is available.

Online platforms

Microsoft Teams


In person

I offer supervision to both students and qualified counsellors.

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