Haoli Rein

When life is challenging and you need someone to talk to, it can be daunting looking for the right person to work with and, for that reason, I offer an introductory session at a reduced rate of £20.00, so that you can meet me and see if you feel comfortable working with me.

So, who am I and how can I help you?

My name is Haoli (said like Hayley with an 'O' in the middle), I'm an experienced counsellor, accredited by the BACP, and my aim is to provide a warm and welcoming space, where you can explore the difficulties you're facing. Of course, talking to a stranger can sometimes feel quite challenging in itself, but I hope that in meeting me,  you'll feel comfortable enough to start building a relationship that feels safe enough to start exploring the issues you're struggling with. So please feel free to email me - or send a text if you prefer - and we can get that first session into the dairy. (Please note, you're also welcome to try calling me, but as I'm often in with a client, it's probably best to email or text instead.)

So, what experience do I have?

My experience includes working with many different issues such as depression, anxiety, panic, low self-esteem, anger, relationship and family issues, as well as all kinds of loss (which could include areas such as health, employment, divorce, miscarriage, bereavement etc.) I also work extensively with people who've experienced abuse of all kinds (be it emotional, physical or sexual) - and recognise the impact that this can have on a person - physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Of course, all of these issues can cause deep emotional pain, and have a serious impact on life in general, and I therefore offer the time and space in which to talk about how you feel, and aim to help you find a way through to a place of greater contentment and well-being.

How do I work?

As each individual person is different, my way of working is based on your own specific needs, meaning that you, the client, are at the very centre of my work. For those who want to know more about the model of counselling, I use an integrative model which is Person-Centred at its core, but which draws from Psychodynamic insights and uses CBT and creative methods when appropriate. When working with trauma, I work within a "3 phase model", which focuses initially on safety and stabilisation before processing of memories, whilst also using "Lifespan Integration" protocols in order to access and heal trauma held in the body. (For more information on Lifespan Integration, please go to: https://lifespanintegration.com/uk/)

What about counselling for couples?

When dealing with relationship issues, I draw heavily from "Attachment Theory" and "Emotionally Focused Therapy", which not only looks at troublesome patterns being repeated in the relationship, but also goes deeper to what's behind the behaviour. It looks at the deep longings of each person and aims at replacing negative cycles with a greater feeling of “bonding”, which enables a healing environment in which each finds support and encouragement once again. This, instead of anger, blame and accusations - all of which can tear the couple apart.

How long does counselling last?

Most clients attend counselling for around 6-12 weeks. However, the time needed for individuals to reach their chosen goals varies considerably, so I currently offer sessions for up to six months; although we’ll review the work on a regular basis to ensure that our time together is proving useful for you.  Please be aware, however, that I am looking to retire in the second half of 2024 and, if our work together isn’t completed by then, I will endeavour to help you find another suitable therapist, should you wish me to do so. 

Where do I work?

I work from my home which is on the northern side of Swindon, and close to the Asda/Orbital Shopping Centre, just off the A419. The room I use is completely private, and has its own separate entrance on the left hand side of the house.

Parking is available on my driveway, or outside the door on the left hand side.

I charge a reduced rate of £20.00 for the first session, after which I charge £50.00 per session for individuals, and £65.00 per session for couples. When working with Lifespan Integration, however, I charge £25.00 for the introductory session, then £60.00 per session thereafter.

If clients are unable to attend a session, I ask for 48 hours' notice, otherwise I charge a £25.00 cancellation fee. 

Sessions usually take place on the same day and time each week, although I can be flexible for those working shifts or on work rotas.

Unfortunately, my home doesn't provide access for clients with mobility difficulties, but I'm more than happy to work with people remotely, if this works better for them.