Haoli Rein - Registered MBACP (accred) - Individuals and Couples
When life is challenging and you need someone to talk to, it can be daunting looking for the right person to work with and, for that reason, I offer an introductory session free of charge, so that you can meet me and see if you feel comfortable working with me.
So, who am I and how can I help you?
My name is Haoli (said like Hayley with an 'O' in the middle) and I'm a qualified and experienced counsellor, accredited by (and registered with) BACP (the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists). My aim, however, is to provide a warm and welcoming space where you can explore the difficulties you're facing right now, in a confidential and non-judgemental environment, with someone who's outside of the situation. Of course, talking to a stranger can sometimes feel quite challenging in itself, but I hope that in meeting me, you'll feel comfortable enough to start building a relationship that feels safe enough to start exploring the issues you're struggling with.
So, what experience do I have?
My experience includes working with many different issues such as depression, anxiety, panic, low self-esteem, anger, relationship and family issues, and all kinds of loss (which could include areas such as health, employment, divorce, miscarriage, bereavement etc.) I also work extensively with people who've experienced abuse of all kinds (be it emotional, physical or sexual) - and recognise the impact that this can have on one - physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Of course, all of these issues can cause deep emotional pain, and have a serious impact on life in general, and I therefore offer the time and space in which to talk about how you feel, and aim to help you find a way through to a place of greater contentment and well-being.
How do I work?
As each individual person is different, my way of working is based on your own specific needs, meaning that you, the client, are at the very centre of my work. (For those who want to know more about the model of counselling, I use an integrative model which is Person-Centred at its core, but which draws from Psychodynamic insights and uses CBT and creative methods when appropriate.)
What about counselling for couples?
When dealing with relationship issues, I draw heavily from "Attachment Theory" and "Emotionally Focused Therapy", which not only looks at troublesome patterns being repeated in the relationship, but also goes deeper to what's behind the behaviour. It looks at the deep longings of each person and aims at replacing negative cycles with a greater feeling of “bonding” and, in this way the relationship becomes a healing environment in which each finds support and encouragement once again instead of anger, blame and accusations - all of which can tear the couple apart.
How long does counselling last?
The answer lies mostly in what your needs are - and what will work best for you. I therefore offer both short-term therapy (6-12 sessions) which can help you discover your inner strengths and to work out coping strategies to help manage day-to-day living, or longer-term therapy which draws more from psychodynamic insight, and which helps to make sense of the present, by exploring the past.
Where do I work?
I work from my home which is on the northern side of Swindon, and close to Asda/Orbital Shopping Centre, just off the A419. The room I use is completely private, and has its own separate entrance on the left hand side of the house.
Parking is usually available outside this door, but if not, please feel free to park on my driveway, and then come round to the door on the left hand side.
Training, qualifications & experience
I'm an accredited Counsellor with BACP (British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists) and a UKRCP Registered Independent Counsellor/Psychotherapist. As an independent practitioner, I'm also registered with the BACP Register of Counsellors and Psychotherapists, which is approved by the Professional Standards Authority for Health and Social Care.
I hold a CPCAB Level 5 Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling, a BA (hons) degree in Psychology and a PGCE. That means I'm also a qualified teacher and, for some while, I was lead tutor on a Level 3 counsellor training course.
I'm part of the Swindon Counsellors and Psychotherapists' Network (SCPN), was a member of TAG (Trauma and Abuse Group) whilst it was operational and, apart from my private work, I worked as a Counsellor in the Voluntary Sector for ten years.
I'm also a registered member of the ACC (Association of Christian Counsellors), but have no expectation that my clients will hold this same world view and, believing as I do in the intrinsic value of every human being, I'm more than comfortable working with people of any faith - or no faith at all.
Accredited register membership
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Attachment disorder
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Panic attacks
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship problems
- Separation and divorce
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Work-related stress
The first meeting is always free, after which I charge £40.00 per session for individuals, and £55.00 per session for couples.
Sessions usually take place on the same day and time each week, although I can be flexible for those working shifts or on work rotas. Sessions last 50-60 minutes.
Unfortunately, my home doesn't provide access for clients with mobility difficulties.
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Day and early evening appointments available
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|