About me
You left the relationship, so why does it still feel like it has a hold on you?
Most people believe that once they understand what happened, they’ll finally feel free.
I don’t.
Many of the women I work with have experienced toxic, emotionally abusive or narcissistic relationships. They already know the relationship wasn’t healthy. They’ve read the books, watched the videos, and can clearly see the patterns.
Yet they still overthink.
Still doubt themselves.
Still feel emotionally connected to someone they know wasn’t right for them.
That’s because understanding the relationship isn’t always enough.
The real shift happens when you begin to understand yourself.
Does this sound familiar?
- You’ve left the relationship, but still feel emotionally pulled back.
- You know it wasn’t healthy, yet part of you still questions yourself.
- You replay conversations, searching for answers.
- You worry you’ll repeat the same patterns in future relationships.
- You notice familiar patterns in yourself but don’t know how to change them.
- You feel stuck between knowing what happened and actually feeling free.
What actually keeps people stuck?
It isn’t a lack of willpower. It isn’t because you’re “too sensitive.” And it isn’t because you haven’t tried hard enough.
Often, it’s because you’ve been trying to change the pattern without understanding what created it.
Awareness is important. But awareness alone doesn’t always create lasting change.
My work focuses on helping you understand the deeper emotional patterns beneath your thoughts, reactions and relationships, so healing becomes something you experience, not just something you understand.
How we’ll work together
Therapy with me isn’t just about talking through what happened. It’s about understanding why it affected you so deeply and what keeps those patterns going.
Together we’ll explore:
- Why the relationship had such a powerful emotional hold.
- The deeper patterns that keep showing up in your relationships.
- How earlier experiences may still be influencing the present.
- Why you react the way you do.
- How to rebuild trust in yourself.
- How to move forward without carrying the same emotional weight.
My approach
I’m a qualified psychodynamic counsellor (BSc, MSc, MBACP), with a trauma-informed and compassionate approach.
I specialise in supporting women recovering from toxic, emotionally abusive and narcissistic relationships.
My work combines professional knowledge with genuine curiosity, helping you understand yourself without judgement, so you can finally stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and start understanding why you feel and respond the way you do.
The Unpack™ Book Series
I’m also the author of The Unpack™ Book Series, created to help people understand themselves, recognise unhealthy relationship patterns and begin breaking free from them.
Sessions
In person: Stoke-on-Trent (ST2) Milton
Online or telephone: Across the UK
£50 per session
Free consultation
I offer a free 15-minute consultation where you can ask questions, tell me a little about what’s brought you here, and decide whether working together feels right for you.
Because understanding yourself changes everything.
Training, qualifications & experience
I’m a qualified psychodynamic counsellor (BSc, MSc, MBACP), but my journey into this work is deeply personal.
Becoming a mum made me look at my own life differently. I knew I wanted to break unhealthy cycles for my son, so I began my own therapy. That experience changed my life and eventually led me to train as a therapist myself.
My passion is supporting mums who are healing from difficult or abusive relationships, rebuilding their confidence and creating a healthier future for themselves and their children.
I also wrote the Unpack book series (Amazon⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️) to reach and support as many women and mums as possible.
This work isn’t just a career to me. It comes from years of personal experience, healing and learning, and that understanding is at the heart of how I support the women I work with.
You can find out more via my website
relightcounselling.co.uk
Member organisations
BACP is one of the UK’s leading professional bodies for counselling and psychotherapy with around 60,000 members. The Association has several different categories of membership, including Student Member, Individual Member, Registered Member MBACP, Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Accred) and Senior Registered Accredited Member MBACP (Snr Acccred). Registered and accredited members are listed on the BACP Register, which shows that they have demonstrated BACP’s recommended standards for training, proficiency and ethical practice. The BACP Register was the first register of psychological therapists to be accredited by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA). Accredited and senior accredited membership are voluntary categories for members who choose to undertake a rigorous application and assessment process to demonstrate additional standards around practice, training and supervision. Individual members will have completed an appropriate counselling or psychotherapy course and started to practise, but they won’t appear on the BACP Register until they've demonstrated that they meet the standards for registration. Student members are still in the process of completing their training. All members are bound by the BACP Ethical Framework and a Professional Conduct Procedure.
Accredited register membership
The Accredited Register Scheme was set up in 2013 by the Department of Health (DoH) as a way to recognise organisations that hold voluntary registers which meet certain standards. These standards are set by the Professional Standards Authority (PSA).
This therapist has indicated that they belong to an Accredited Register.
Areas of counselling I deal with
Other areas of counselling I deal with
💜 Single Mums,
💜 Mums raising children with disabilities or special educational needs
💜 Women and Mothers Carrying Past Trauma
Therapies offered
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Fees
£50.00 per session
Additional information
I do offer discounts for people in financial hardship this may be discussed at the time of your discovery call
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Please Visit www.relightcounselling.co.uk to book a free discovery call, this is to see if I am the right therapist for you.
Further information
Through psychodynamic therapy, we will explore the unconscious influences that shape your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours, helping you gain clarity and insight into areas where you may feel stuck.
I am committed to creating a non-judgmental, safe space for you to explore any aspect of your life at your own pace. Our work together will be guided by your unique needs and goals, whether you're seeking healing from past trauma, building confidence, improving your relationships, or navigating difficult life transitions.
