Talking about suicide
Suicide can affect anybody and is a very complex issue. The Samaritans highlight it as a gender and inequality issue. Nearly 3/4 of suicides are male. Suicide is preventable. Suicide can seem like a way out of living through or having experienced pain and emotional and psychological trauma.
If you are feeling suicidal or thinking suicidal thoughts it is important to talk to someone about how you feel. You do not have to struggle alone and support is available right now:
Samaritans: 116 -123
CALM: 0800- 58- 58- 58
There is no right or wrong way to talk about suicidal feelings. Talk to someone whom you know and trust. Try to focus on now and not the past or future. Ensure you are around other people. Do an activity that you enjoy. Find a safe place. Stay away from drugs and alcohol (which impact upon judgement).
Talking decreases that sense of isolation and loneliness; even if you think nobody wants to listen they do. Talking can enable you to vent off whatever you think and feel. Talking can help ground you.
Suicidal thoughts and feelings can be compelling, all encompassing, disturbing, frightening. They may feel unbearable, you may feel a complex range of thoughts and feelings with varying frequency, such as low self-worth, loneliness, self-loathing, sadness, despair, anger, hopelessness, loss and grief.
Do TRY to talk to someone. Speak with a friend, loved one, counsellor, GP - anyone who listens can help restore a sense of hope.
It might be worthwhile for you to consider the following:
- How have you previously coped?
- Watch for how you are speaking to yourself.
- Thinking and feeling are not permanent and can change.
- Time is a healer.
- You can make changes to how you think and feel.
Write out your thoughts and feelings.
- List what you are grateful for.
- What gives you meaning and purpose?
Counselling can provide a safe and non judgmental space in which to acknowledge your thoughts and feelings and the impact that they have upon you. Having that connection can be vital; an environment of hope, empowerment, empathy and warmth.
Talking honestly about your experiences and opening up can help dissipate their impact and power. Acquiring better coping skills, techniques and looking towards change, a better self understanding and awareness whilst increasing your sense of meaning and purpose can be invaluable. It is OK to reach out for whatever it is you are experiencing.
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About Justin Lee Slaughter
I am Justin. I have a varied range of experience, a background in counselling and psychotherapy, social science and in healthcare with a broad range of experience in both adult and adolescent mental health. I manage a successful and established private counselling practice as well as currently volunteering as part of a counselling team at THT.