Pet bereavement counselling

"It was only a dog. You can always get another one." Sound familiar? It might be to any one of you who has had to suffer the excruciating, and often misunderstood, pain of pet loss and you may benefit from pet bereavement counselling.

Whether a pet is ageing, terminally ill, lost or stolen, placed in a new home or has died, the end of this relationship can cause significant emotional distress.

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For many of us, pets have become family members. When we face the loss of a pet we may experience a range of grief reactions. This is both natural and necessary.

In addition, there is something unique about pet bereavement - the issue of euthanasia. Many pet owners have had to make a decision that only tiny numbers ever have to make about a human relative - the decision to end a life, with all the guilt and inner turmoil that this entails.

Immediately after the death of a pet, the owner often feels shock or denial. It may be hard to accept the animal is no longer with us. Our homes may feel very empty, and our days long and lonely.

Many owners say it is an event equally as heartbreaking as losing a close family member – something they feel deeply ashamed about admitting, and both confused and frightened by the impact of this death.

Some also say they feel so grief-stricken by the death of their pet that they are forced to call in sick to work. In 2009, bereaved pet owners cost the UK economy £895 million in days off work (according to UK insurance company More Than).

Grieving is a process, not an event

The grieving process consists of several stages, including (not necessarily in this order):

  • shock
  • disbelief
  • pain
  • anger
  • desperation
  • guilt
  • acceptance

There is often no clear beginning or end to the grieving process. Each person grieves differently. You may get stuck in one phase, or skip others. Healing will take a dissimilar amount of time for each individual.

Healing from grief

The last stage of the process is acceptance and recovery. You may still experience sadness, but you will have accepted the reality of losing your pet and can look back with happiness on the many pleasant memories of your time together and still move forward with your life.

While coming to terms with losing a beloved pet can be devastating, it also reflects the joy they brought into our lives. Over time, the pain and sadness can diminish.

Occasionally, grief can remain unresolved. This is a real problem and was a major contributory factor for offering pet loss and bereavement counselling within my counselling practice in Gloucestershire.

How can pet bereavement counselling help?

Bereavement counselling can help you prepare for pet loss, understand your feelings and reactions upon separation from your pet help ease your emotional pain and support the grieving process.

Within my practice, I also offer support and consultation to veterinary professionals and nursing staff, who bear witness to pet loss and client grief through the course of their work, leaving them at risk for compassion fatigue and professional burnout.

If you are suffering or know of someone who is, please get some support from any of the excellent pet loss and bereavement support available in the UK. 

Further support:
Pet Bereavement Support Service 

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Written by Sue Christy
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