Personal experience of counselling by Christine

14th September 2011

The first time I experienced long term counselling was when my ex left me (other issues did come up). After six months of trying to cope alone I realised that if I didn't talk soon I was going to have a breakdown or do something stupid.

I went to see a counsellor nearby and his empathy understanding and lack of judgements was the most wonderful feeling of freedom. I even used the F word at one point!! And he just sat there encouraging me to LET IT ALL OUT !! I laugh now.

I had always felt judged with my sister who became my surrogate mother and my ex husband; and therefore I held back or controlled my emotions to suit those people's needs, in case I upset them.

I had never felt unconditional love from any of the major people in my life. It was 'be this way' or you wont be loved!! Very difficult.

Counselling does seem to still carry a stigma on TV and people can often then think they are MAD if they go to see a therapist. Which is extremely damaging to the counselling name and to the people who are struggling.

It's really just about accepting that sometimes we all need help in life and that we can do something to change how we perceive and deal with things. If you have been had to keep quiet for a long time; scared to say anything, then sometimes it takes a lot of support to help you realise that you are allowed your own thoughts, feelings, opinions and life style choices.

I would say please don't struggle alone and if the first counsellor doesn't suits you then find someone else.......
I've had counselling and taken a counselling course and so I know what its like both sides.

Its made me a far better person.

Take care out there.