Natural Health Clinic
98 Cathedral Road
07533 496568 / 07533 496568
How do you work with distress ?
Therapy involves a process of discovery for each one of us. It is an organic, natural unwinding as we really start to listen to our 'felt sense', of what is happening inside us, and sensing into the innate intelligence of the body.
What is happening now? When we recognise what is between us and being freer, we touch into our unmet needs, our pain, our sense of distress. We recognise the 'story' of our pain - such as painful memories or trauma.
Can you accept what is here? When we allow our pain its space, we are more able to be with it. It might be a clear sensation, such as a burning in the eyes, heartache, or a twisted feeling in the stomach. It might be a flickering feeling in the body that appears and then disappears. It could be a vague, unformed feeling that is at the edge of or below the line of awareness.
Can you deepen into that space ? If I come into contact with my feelings and sensations which are at the edge of my awareness, I can widen my capacity to be with it. This can be likened to seeing a wild animal at the edge of the wood: you can't chase it, or call to it, but you can let it know that you sense it, that it is seen.
How resourced are you? This is where I nurture what I find with empathy, wisdom and compassion. This means seeing things clearly, and developing the capacity to be with. I can slow down and be with what is present. When I am able to 'put the brakes on' anxiety by resourcing myself, I can deepen the inquiry into my distress.
We leave our bodies regularly, but we need to be awake to our bodies' intelligence. As John O'Donohue puts it: 'Our bodies know that they belong to life. It's our minds that make our lives so homeless.'
A Relational Approach
I help clients in distress in whatever form that manifests, from troubled emotions or difficult relationships to problems with stress, anxiety, depression, anger, self-esteem or shame. Every client is unique, and the therapy I offer is compassionate and non-judgemental. I work with sensitivity and creativity, with the individual's wellbeing held throughout the work.
When we become separate from our self, we can manifest distress in our lives in many different forms, such as trauma, confusion, fear, deep sadness, anger and addiction. The intention of a therapeutic interaction is to help someone to reconnect with themselves, knowing that as they do so, their own innate wisdom can guide them in the right direction.
How do we recover our connection to our self?
A process of looking at ourselves begins with finding what is in the way of our connection to ourselves. We were all born in a state of compassion to ourselves before gradually disconnecting and then suffering, so an important question to ask ourselves is: how does disconnection show up in this present moment? When we check in with ourselves, with real compassion, we can touch the truth which can help us to move through difficulty.
A compassionate approach is not afraid of going to some difficult places in the present moment. Recognising where we may be disconnected from ourselves, can clear the pathway for authenticity. This isn't about working on being authentic, but of patiently looking into what is in the way of authenticity.
A Humanistic therapy
If we can come into relation with ourselves with kindness when we are stuck or fixated, there is the possibility for a shift in our identity. This can happen when we we pause, allow, investigate and bring kindness to ourselves. When we are stuck we may feel like the stuck person, and too anxious or hurt to move. Therapy can help us to rest in a very compassionate awareness that is in relationship with the stuck parts of ourselves, to get in touch with a larger sense of who we are.
'Anguish maintains its power only as long as we allow it to intimidate us. If we try to avoid a powerful wave looming above us on the beach, it will send us crashing into the sand and surf. But if we face it head-on and dive right into it, we discover only water.' - Stephen Batchelor
II sit with a client as they look closely at what is going on for them, and encounter their difficulties, and invite the client to stay with what is going on. I encourage you to notice distress as it comes through feelings, thoughts and images which is a process that can lead to a more embodied (or in-the-body) experience. By not buying into a familiar reaction to what is happening, we can open ourselves up to the possibility of responding in another way, which can often feel like a relief. Acknowledging emotional pain can be an important way to recognise ourselves, and be with our authentic experience of ourselves in the present moment.
In addition to counselling for 5 years, I have been working in education for 20 years, and am currently studying a masters in psychotherapy, which focuses on mindfulness techniques, being present and noticing our inner processes. My own transition from working in the field of education into psychotherapy has come from my own deepening into suffering and awareness of my own anxiety and therapeutic process.
Therapy is £40 for the hour's session, and we would meet weekly at the same time each week. If reading this has interested you, I would suggest that we meet for an initial fee of £20 as an introduction to see what therapy with me would be like.
Tel: 07533 496568 / 02920 192157 email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Training, qualifications & experience
2016-2020 - MA in Mindfulness Based Core Process Psychotherapy
2015: MBACP - Member of British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy
2011-2015 - Foundation Degree in Humanistic Existentialist Counselling - Vale and Glamorgan College
2015: Private Practice, Natural Health Clinic
2013: Counsellor - Mind
2011: Counsellor - Cruse Bereavement
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Anorexia nervosa
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Asperger's syndrome
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Binge-eating disorder
- Bipolar disorder/Manic depression
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Borderline personality disorder
- Bulimia nervosa
- Carer support
- Chronic fatigue syndrome/ME
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Eating disorders
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Internet addiction
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
- Pregnancy and birth
- Relationship issues
- Schizoid personality disorder
- Schizotypal personality disorder
- Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
- Separation and divorce
- Sex addiction
- Sex problems
- Sexual abuse
- Suicidal thoughts
- Tourette's syndrome
- Work-related stress
£40 for a 60 minute session.
The first session will be at a reduced rate of £20, to see what therapy with me would be like, and to go through a contract and assessment. This is because it is really important that you feel comfortable with the therapist that you work with.
'Practice is not about changing what we do so much as being very observant and experiencing what's going on with us. Awareness is our true self; it's what we are. So we don't have to try to develop awareness; we simply need to notice how we block awareness with our thoughts, our fantasies, our opinions, and our judgments. We're either in awareness, which is our natural state, or we're doing something else. The mark of mature students is that most of the time, they don't do something else. They're just here, living their life. Nothing special.' - Charlotte Joko Beck ('Nothing Special. Living Zen')
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Some evenings, some day time availability
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|