Natural Health Clinic
98 Cathedral Road
07533 496568 / 07533 496568
It is not our fault that we have this difficult brain with its hyperactive threat system, which we did not choose. But we can all learn to use what we know about our brain to work positively for real change in our lives. We can learn to replace poor coping mechanisms with efforts that work better in helping us to protect ourselves, to have good relationships, and to have happier lives. We can check in with ourselves: how would my Compassionate Self approach this situation if it were in control? This is hard work and is done with the deepest respect for the courage that you show, because you are worthy of this effort and of compassion.
'A compassionate approach recognizes that life is filled with difficulties, and that we will feel pain, fear, sadness, anger, loss, grief, difficulties, and broken-heartedness in our lives. It recognizes that these are not signs of weakness, but are normal human experiences.' (US psychologist Russell Kolts).
I am a humanistic therapist, and focus on mindfulness based psychotherapy. I work with clients who are in distress in whatever form that manifests, from anxiety, anger, depression, self-esteem, deep sadness or fear or a sense of being stuck in some way.
Compassion-Focused therapy draws upon evolutionary psychology, a model of emotions based in neuroscience, and uses contemporary practices to develop self-compassion and mindfulness which have their roots in Buddhist psychology. Compassionate therapy helps us to understand the ways that our emotions can become unbalanced in our lives and how we can learn to work with our feelings and life-difficulties in direct, compassionate ways. The therapy aims to apply powerful change strategies in ways that are designed to help to reduce distress, such as shame and self-criticism, and to promote compassion for all, including both the self and other.
Mindfulness based psychotherapy integrates aspects of Buddhist psychology alongside Western psychotherapeutic development theory. It combines them both with the latest insights and research findings from neuroscience. Buddhism teaches about the nature of the self, western psychotherapy understands how we develop into the self in response to life's experiences and neuroscience (the study of the brain and the nervous system) explains how the self manifests in our bodies in the present moment.
This therapeutic approach invites us to bring attention to our inner life. We work at seeing our thoughts and not getting caught up so much in believing them. This work involves feeling our feelings, and staying with our feelings so that a space can open up with the possibility of connecting with our wholeness. Mindfulness based psychotherapy works with the power of our awareness in the present moment to explore the nature of who we are and how we suffer. When we notice our thoughts and emotions as they arise, and become aware of them, we can decide what actions we want to take, rather than being controlled by them.
This approach gives us a way of working in the present moment to explore and potentially transform both our relationship to ourselves, and our relationship to others. Instead of our bad mood feeding itself, we can work with our brains to create positive spirals We can help ourselves to feel safe, and develop emotions like compassion that help us to regulate our system and create more balance.
I help clients in distress in whatever form that manifests, from troubled emotions or difficult relationships to problems with stress, anxiety, depression, anger, self-esteem or shame. I work with sensitivity and creativity, with the individual's wellbeing held throughout the work.
When we become separate from our self, we can manifest distress in our lives in many different forms, such as trauma, confusion, fear, deep sadness, anger and addiction. The intention of a therapeutic interaction is to help someone to reconnect with themselves, knowing that as they do so, their own innate wisdom can guide them in the right direction.
A compassionate approach is not afraid of going to some difficult places in the present moment. Recognising where we may be disconnected from ourselves, can clear the pathway for authenticity.
If we can come into relation with ourselves with kindness when we are stuck or fixated, there is the possibility for a shift in our identity. This can happen when we we pause, allow, investigate and bring kindness to ourselves. When we are stuck we may feel like the stuck person, and too anxious or hurt to move. Therapy can help us to rest in a very compassionate awareness that is in relationship with the stuck parts of ourselves, to get in touch with a larger sense of who we are.
The client / therapist relationship is built on secure trust, genuine concern, understanding and challenge. This aims to help someone to open up to new ways of relating to ourselves and others, so that they can re-own parts of them that they have split off from since childhood and integrate these parts in their psyche. This can help someone to relate to others with more richness, while their internal world will be less divided and conflictual. They will then be able to experience both themselves and other people more fully and more truly.
'Anguish maintains its power only as long as we allow it to intimidate us. If we try to avoid a powerful wave looming above us on the beach, it will send us crashing into the sand and surf. But if we face it head-on and dive right into it, we discover only water.' - Stephen Batchelor
In addition to counselling for 5 years, I have been working in education for 20 years, and am currently studying a masters in psychotherapy, which focuses on mindfulness techniques, being present and noticing our inner processes. My own transition from working in the field of education into psychotherapy has come from my own deepening into suffering and awareness of my own therapeutic process.
Frequently Asked Questions:
What is the first step?
The first step is for you to contact me via phone or email to express your interest in us working together. It is important to find a therapist to work with who feels right for you. This is why I suggest an initial 1 hour consultation - at a reduced fee of £20 - this gives us an opportunity to meet and get a sense of each other ... for you to find out how I work and for me to find out what brings you to psychotherapy.
How long is a session and how often do we meet?
Each session lasts for one hour and if we decide to work together, we will meet on the same day at the same time each week. We will agree on this at our initial consultation. I suggest that we initially commit to working together for six weeks and then review where we are at this point.
How much does it cost?
Therapy is at £40 for the hourly session, as I am currently working towards full accreditation and am also studying the masters in Mindfulness Based Psychotherapy, having already qualified as a humanistic therapist.
How long does it take?
The work can be short term, working on something quite specific or longer term if we are going to explore deeper and more complex issues.
What about safety and confidentiality?
I create a space for you that is welcoming and safe. This is your opportunity to be deeply listened to, and to say or explore things that you may not have found easy to say or explore before. I abide by the BACP Ethical guidelines regarding confidentiality.
Tel: 07533 496568 / 02920 192157 email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Training, qualifications & experience
2016-2020 - MA in Mindfulness Based Core Process Psychotherapy
2015: MBACP - Member of British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy
2011-2015 - Foundation Degree in Humanistic Existentialist Counselling - Vale and Glamorgan College
2015: Private Practice, Natural Health Clinic
2013: Counsellor - Mind
2011: Counsellor - Cruse Bereavement
Areas of counselling I deal with
- Affairs and betrayals
- Anger management
- Antisocial personality disorder
- Avoidant personality disorder
- Bipolar disorder/Manic depression
- Borderline personality disorder
- Dependent personality disorder
- Domestic violence
- Drug abuse
- Emotional abuse
- Family issues
- Feeling sad
- Gender dysphoria
- Generalised anxiety disorder
- Hearing voices
- Histrionic personality disorder
- Internet addiction
- Learning difficulties
- Low self-confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Narcissistic personality disorder
- Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
- Panic disorder
- Paranoid personality disorder
- Passive aggressive behaviour
- Personality disorders
- Physical abuse
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Postnatal depression
£40 for a 60 minute session.
The first session will be at a reduced rate of £20, to see what therapy with me would be like, and to go through a contract and assessment. This is because it is really important that you feel comfortable with the therapist that you work with.
'Practice is not about changing what we do so much as being very observant and experiencing what's going on with us. Awareness is our true self; it's what we are. So we don't have to try to develop awareness; we simply need to notice how we block awareness with our thoughts, our fantasies, our opinions, and our judgments. We're either in awareness, which is our natural state, or we're doing something else. The mark of mature students is that most of the time, they don't do something else. They're just here, living their life. Nothing special.' - Charlotte Joko Beck ('Nothing Special. Living Zen')
'If you know you're the ocean, you're not afraid of the waves. The waves are still there, but you're not afraid - there's trust' - Tara Brach (Tarabrach.com)
'We spend our life until we're twenty deciding what parts of ourselves to put in the bag, and we spend the rest of our lives trying to get them out again.' - Robert Bly
'One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light but by making the darkness conscious.' - C.G. Jung
Maps & Directions
Type of session
|Face to face counselling:||Yes|
Some evenings, some day time availability
Types of client
|Employee Assistance Programme|